“Remarriage itself is a daunting undertaking, but when one marries someone who has lost a first spouse, it can also be fraught with issues, emotions, and real-life problems that had never before been written about in the history of periodical literature… until now.” (Julie Donner Andersen, author of PAST: Perfect! PRESENT: Tense! Insights from One Woman’s Journey as the Wife of a Widower)

The following are 10 steps to guide you when you are considering marrying a widower:

1. Embrace the past — Don’t hide it or run from it.

2. Accept that your marriage will be one of three hearts.

3. Don’t let pettiness over material possessions get you off on the wrong foot.

4. Be ever vigilant about remaining sympathetic and empathetic when dealing with all the bereaved family members.

5. Don’t dwell on the past or let it feed your insecurities.

6. Be selfless and gracious enough to accommodate grief-related episodes as they occur.

7. Firmly set boundaries, but with gentleness and cooperation.

8. Read, research, and learn all you can about the stages of grief and what to expect from each.

9. Don’t be afraid to seek outside help should you find your WOW (Wife Of a Widower) feelings to be overwhelmingly frustrating.

10. Live for the present and welcome the future by making each day count.

So, are you wanting a few of the details filled in from this list? In order to give you that, we will send you to the web site: I Do Take Two.com so you can read the above article in its entirety and also read other related articles for widows and widowers. We pray you will find it helpful and informative. However, we want you to know this is not a Christian web site so keep that in mind as you’re reading.

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