My wife for example, has aspergers and an aversion to any form of physical touch is one of her symptoms. I am a very physical person… it is so hard for me, but I must understand that to give her a hug each day is not a blessing but in her case it is a negative thing.

So yeah… if this list is not working for you… look deeper, it might be psychological or medical.

John Buri’s website: http://personal.stthomas.edu/jrburi/

Here’s the description of the book: "Some people have suggested that a successful marriage requires tremendous insight to understand and super-human effort to achieve. Others contend that happy marriages are the purview of a lucky few. In this ground-breaking book, How To Love Your Wife, Dr. John Buri makes it clear he doesn’t agree: thriving marriages can actually be achieved through sensible effort by reasonable people. But because the majority of marriages in this country consist of unions in which wives are more heavily invested in marital success than are their husbands, much of this sensible effort by reasonable people needs to be consistently initiated and maintained by men. In fact, men often hold the keys to bringing about the type of loving marriage they had hoped for when they first said "I do." In How To Love Your Wife, Dr. Buri makes these keys clear, understandable, and accessible."

It really changed my life!