Comments on: Allowing Wrong Thoughts is a Dangerous Step to Take http://www.marriagemissions.com a Christian Marriage Website Mon, 22 Mar 2010 05:56:17 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Cindy Wright http://www.marriagemissions.com/allowing-wrong-thoughts-is-a-dangerous-step-to-take/comment-page-1/#comment-2867 Cindy Wright Tue, 03 Mar 2009 00:25:09 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.com/allowing-wrong-thoughts-is-a-dangerous-step-to-take/#comment-2867 (USA) Bless your heart Mae. It certainly appears like you're doing the right things to get these feelings behind you. I have to say that I'm so proud of you. As your Christian sister I pray for you -- that you will eventually get to the place where you will see reward for the work you are putting in. It's like with so many spiritual battles, they aren't won in our timing. Sometimes the enemy of our faith is relentless in working against us and the battle takes longer to win that we ever imagined. This is one of those times that you need to keep leaning upon the Lord and doing the right thing with the knowledge that the Lord will help you to win the battle. After all, it's HIS battle to win. Our part is to participate and cooperate in the process. Sometimes a day seems like a thousand to us when we are struggling, but do all you can to hang on. I know with everything within me that as you keep drawing close to the Lord and denying the enemy entry... eventually you will find relief. And there will be a day when you will be SO glad you persevered, despite the darkness that you are experiencing. I've been there quite a few times with battles I've had to persevere through despite the length of time it has taken to see victory. I encourage you NOT to give up! It is truly worth it! (USA) Bless your heart Mae. It certainly appears like you’re doing the right things to get these feelings behind you. I have to say that I’m so proud of you. As your Christian sister I pray for you — that you will eventually get to the place where you will see reward for the work you are putting in.

It’s like with so many spiritual battles, they aren’t won in our timing. Sometimes the enemy of our faith is relentless in working against us and the battle takes longer to win that we ever imagined. This is one of those times that you need to keep leaning upon the Lord and doing the right thing with the knowledge that the Lord will help you to win the battle. After all, it’s HIS battle to win. Our part is to participate and cooperate in the process.

Sometimes a day seems like a thousand to us when we are struggling, but do all you can to hang on. I know with everything within me that as you keep drawing close to the Lord and denying the enemy entry… eventually you will find relief.

And there will be a day when you will be SO glad you persevered, despite the darkness that you are experiencing. I’ve been there quite a few times with battles I’ve had to persevere through despite the length of time it has taken to see victory. I encourage you NOT to give up! It is truly worth it!

]]> By: Mae http://www.marriagemissions.com/allowing-wrong-thoughts-is-a-dangerous-step-to-take/comment-page-1/#comment-2865 Mae Mon, 02 Mar 2009 23:04:55 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.com/allowing-wrong-thoughts-is-a-dangerous-step-to-take/#comment-2865 (USA) I have been having feelings for a man for a year and 4 months now. I have prayed constantly and read the Word and remained faithful at church. I have never "yielded to the excitement" as the above article mentions. I have fought this thing on every level, but I have been unable to find deliverance from the thoughts and feelings. I can identify with all the emotions portrayed in this article, just not with the point of becoming physical or verbalizing my feelings to the man who constantly haunts my mind. This all stole up on my blind side. I was not being slack in my walk with God; on the contrary, I was experiencing great things in faith when suddenly out of no where this wave crashed upon the deck on my bark and swept me out to sea. True, my husband had been emotionally, physically, and sexually silent toward me for about 2 1/2 years leading up to this. I was so in need of attention that this man's kind actions, friendly demeanor, and lustful eyes threw me off balance. I'm not making excuses, just being honest. Only on one occasion was there any physical contact--a brief embrace. When I told my husband about this, it actually brought him to his senses, and he has changed completely. He treats me with tenderness and desire and I am totally in love with him! This change has continued now for over 6 months and I am so happy with the way things are going at home. So why, oh why, can I not get rid of these feelings?!?!? I do not want them. I pray against them. I have tried in every way to put them to rest, but whenever I lay eyes on this man, which can be as often as twice a week or as seldom as once a month, all the feelings and thoughts come swirling back. Even when I don't see him for weeks at a time, I never can completely forget him. I am sick and tired of this battle, but I must not give up. God has been more than good to me, and has not withdrawn His precious presence from me. He speaks to me and sends me help constantly through His Word, through the preaching and teaching at church, through songs, and through other people, but my guilt nearly drives me insane at time. I have done all the steps mentioned in the "Getting Unhooked..." article on this site. I'm at a loss for anything new to try. I'm open to suggestions, if anyone has anything to offer. (USA) I have been having feelings for a man for a year and 4 months now. I have prayed constantly and read the Word and remained faithful at church. I have never "yielded to the excitement" as the above article mentions. I have fought this thing on every level, but I have been unable to find deliverance from the thoughts and feelings. I can identify with all the emotions portrayed in this article, just not with the point of becoming physical or verbalizing my feelings to the man who constantly haunts my mind.

This all stole up on my blind side. I was not being slack in my walk with God; on the contrary, I was experiencing great things in faith when suddenly out of no where this wave crashed upon the deck on my bark and swept me out to sea.

True, my husband had been emotionally, physically, and sexually silent toward me for about 2 1/2 years leading up to this. I was so in need of attention that this man’s kind actions, friendly demeanor, and lustful eyes threw me off balance. I’m not making excuses, just being honest. Only on one occasion was there any physical contact–a brief embrace. When I told my husband about this, it actually brought him to his senses, and he has changed completely. He treats me with tenderness and desire and I am totally in love with him! This change has continued now for over 6 months and I am so happy with the way things are going at home.

So why, oh why, can I not get rid of these feelings?!?!? I do not want them. I pray against them. I have tried in every way to put them to rest, but whenever I lay eyes on this man, which can be as often as twice a week or as seldom as once a month, all the feelings and thoughts come swirling back. Even when I don’t see him for weeks at a time, I never can completely forget him. I am sick and tired of this battle, but I must not give up.

God has been more than good to me, and has not withdrawn His precious presence from me. He speaks to me and sends me help constantly through His Word, through the preaching and teaching at church, through songs, and through other people, but my guilt nearly drives me insane at time.

I have done all the steps mentioned in the "Getting Unhooked…" article on this site. I’m at a loss for anything new to try. I’m open to suggestions, if anyone has anything to offer.

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