Comments on: An Honest Look at Divorce

By: Ogum

Ogum — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 18:26:02 +0000

(BRAZIL) “It’s like I’m outsider,” he said. “She always puts the children before me. And when I seek to discipline the children, she takes their side and disagrees with me. I can’t spend a dime without her approval. I’ve never been so miserable in my life. How did I set myself get into this mess?” Wayne is experiencing the common struggles of establishing a “blended family.”

Most of my marriage can be described by the proceeding paragraph. What do I do about that? I live miserably and now we are separated. I don’t want a divorce but, I definitely want things to be different.

By: Lali

Lali — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 14:11:25 +0000

(SOUTH AFRICA) Tracey, love, the best for us usually sits in what we think we don’t need. Your ex did not love you enough and display his commitment to his love to you by taking the leap of faith to express his love for you.

Don’t allow yourself to be one of those that have come to learn that what they parted with was actually what they meant to hold on to. Hold on to your sweet hubby so tight and don’t let the tactics of the enemy of marriage destroy what God has blessed you with. Let go of the past, dismiss those “what ifs” thoughts and look towards the future with your family. With the love of Christ, Lali

By: Ma

Ma — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 19:36:45 +0000

(INDIA) Reminds me of Gautam Buddha… He said that the primary truth is that ‘life is full of suffering’. The secondary but equally important truth is that ‘you can not escape that suffering’.

Better suffer in the first marriage, than trying to escape, and duplicate the suffering in the second marriage. Once you accept the suffering as lifelong and inescapable – it becomes more tolerable!

By: Tony

Tony — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 17:54:06 +0000

(USA) Tracey, I agree, but why are you trying to force yourself to be happy with the second best? You see, according to your own description, you already have the best in your husband. But you don’t want the best, you are longing for the second best of this man who never acted.

So I agree, stop trying to be happy with the second best. Be happy with the best that you already have.

By: Tracey

Tracey — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 10:55:20 +0000

(USA) I have been married for 2 years. My husband is what every woman dreams of – kind, supportive, good provider, loving, warm and attentive. I should be happy – but I’m not.

I met my husband 7 years ago, and at the time started seeing him to get over my first love, there was no attraction especially not sexual. I used him to move on because I didn’t think there was any hope.

However I’ve stayed friends with my first love, I realised that this was bad for me and so ended contact with him. However I had a burning question of why he never chose me. What was wrong with me. Turns out that he did, possibly does still have feelings for me and the only reason he didn’t act on them is because I was in a relationship and heading for marriage.

I am so overwhelmed!

I cant help thinking what could have been. How do you force yourself to be happy with second best, when you know you could have what you’ve always wanted?

By: Kim

Kim — Mon, 18 May 2009 03:34:38 +0000

(US) The same thing just happened to me. My husband has cheated on me for 9 years. His 4th affair that I know of has lead him to leave me and we are getting a divorce. He told me the same thing “it is not fair to you”. We have 3 preschoolers. I am so glad in a way to be getting out of this abuse. But I am so sad he loves someone else. I pray there is a God one day that will bless me with a loving man who adores me for who I am the good and bad.

By: Rose

Rose — Sun, 17 May 2009 06:33:04 +0000

(S. AFRICA) My husband has left me after having three affairs in four years. I have asked him to come home and with God’s help we will make this marriage work. His reply was “I know I will not be happy and this is not fair on YOU.” Help me please; what is he trying to say? Must I give up?