Comments on: Arguing in Front of Children – Marriage Message #347

By: Mary

Mary — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 23:08:19 +0000

(CANADA) This was a really good article. My parents have been screaming and yelling and swearing at each other for as long as I can remember, no care for if I’m in the room or not. And it does affect me, I hate hearing it, everyone gets really angry, and they take it out on me.

By: Noms

Noms — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 08:31:08 +0000

(SOUTH AFRICA) My husband is always verbally abusing when he is angry, which 85% of the time. He will shout at the kids and call me names even if we have relatives visiting us. How do I deal with this since both of us are Christians?

By: Marie

Marie — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 16:35:23 +0000

(US) Thanks for these wonderful articles on how to arguing/fighting/disagreements in front of children affect them. My husband and I are usually good about this, but sometimes, when he has an outburst it reminds me of my father with my mom. She always diffused the situation with humor or redirection and it worked.

Sometimes though, I get caught up in the injustice of what was said or how my husband behaved and I snap back with something equally critical or unkind in front of the kids, so they don’t think I’m just taking it. Bad idea. Nobody wins that way, least of all them or our marriage harmony. I pray for help for my husband, as he is easily aggravated and seems to have less patience and inner joy as time passes. It’s hard to be an enabler, but fighting back in public does no good. It just fuels the fire.

By: Cindy Wright

Cindy Wright — Tue, 11 Mar 2008 20:48:27 +0000

The following comment came in to Marriage Missions from a woman from South Africa:

Thank you for such a powerful message, this also happened to me when I was a child. My parents never respected one another, they we always on each others throat and it really affected my child hood that I do not want to remember and school was highly affected. Arguing and fighting in front of children it’s not good and it was never good, it damages their childhood, school and attitude towards a marriage.

I thank God that he carried me through my childhood to where I am today. I’m married to a good man who never yells at me and I have two beautiful girls and we all love and the Lord and the most important part is that we are children of God.