Comments on: Being Loving AND Affectionate – Marriage Message #198

By: Cynthia

Cynthia — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 06:57:41 +0000

(SOUTH AFRICA) My husband shows no affection towards me. But at night in bed he wants to have sex with me, and I find it hard to respond to him sexually. I have told him many times that I need affection and that when I have it, sex becomes easier, but he does not seem to care. Instead, he constantly wants me to please him sexually and when I fail to do so, he become even more distant which hurts me so much.

By: Angelo

Angelo — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 03:30:42 +0000

(UNITED STATES) I’m laying in bed right now. And I’m saddened at the fact that the mother of my child has not been affectionate with me on a consistent basis. It hurts so much. I want to marry her. But I am afraid that this behavior will carry over in the marriage and I will always have that empty feeling. It simply hurts.

By: David

David — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 07:33:02 +0000

(USA) I had a discussion with my fiance today concerning her not showing affection towards me. She did not take the situation very well. She stated, “You hurt me with your words”. Now we are not sure how things will work out. She has a twin sister that is very close to her and I seem to be be competing with her sister over us being together. I explained to my fiance that all I was asking was, “I seem to have to be the one that initiate affection more then her and I was curious why she did not”.