We understand that not all of you have a wide variety of counselors available to choose from when it comes to getting help for your marriage. But we want to caution you to try as much as it is possible to choose someone who has the best interest of your marriage at heart. Even if you have to choose to talk with a married mentor couple rather than a marriage therapist, it would be better to meet with a married couple who cares about helping preserve your marriage rather that a therapist who is unskilled and/or can actually do more harm than good.

We’ve heard stories from those who have found their counselor does more harm than good for their marriage. So, not all therapists are created equal — beware! They can be a wonderful help — often much beyond what you can do on your own. But there ARE some incompetent ones out there.

As marital therapist, Michelle Weiner Davis says,

“Truth be told, seeking professional advice for your marital problems is no guarantee things will improve. In fact, many people have told me that their so-called marriage therapy even made things worse. Most therapists are well-meaning, but not always qualified to do marital therapy. That’s why I want to offer some guidelines for you to consider should you seek professional help to improve your marriage.”

So, we’d like to guide you to her web site so you can read what she has to say on the subject.

We want you to know that Michelle’s website is not faith-based. But we haven’t found much that she says that would go against God’s principles — quite to the contrary. She gives some great advice (with this article included), but you should be aware that it’s not a faith-based web site we’re sending you to view.

But we hope you’ll click onto the web site link below to read the following article:

• CHOOSING A MARITAL THERAPIST

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