I don’t know how far you have gone in the marriage and you are probably still learning about his personality. I had troubles at first because I didn’t know my husband was generally the quiet type. I would think he didn’t like talking to me or was angry at something. Now i know more and welcome him the few times he feels like talking. With him, I can distinguish between “quiet & angry” and “quiet & good”. I avoid conversing when it looks bad and only stick to necessary talk. When he is in a good mood, i do the talking and appreciate whatever responses he has, be it nods , “mmmmm” or smiles. But sometimes we actually have good laughs when there is news to share.

Does he have special tv programs he likes? Watching them together will bring up good conversation starters in an atmosphere he is comfortable with. This is different from “lets talk” which seems forced.

Hope you understand that eating dinner together, doing his favourite activities, looking at photo albums, praying together and all other efforts to work towards unity count as credits to the build up of good communication. We should genuinely seek to understand our spouses by taking advantage of whatever opportunities we get as few or little as they may be. The problems come when we are impatient and our efforts seem hurried/forced and we look panicky.

I would advise you to hang in there and put your worries in prayer. God is always there to listen. He will work wonders in ways we can’t imagine. In the mean time, your actions speak louder than words. Let your husband enjoy your acts of love and understanding as unto the Lord. Even the peace in your heart will be a reward fom God.