Comments on: Cultivate Your Life With Your Wife http://www.marriagemissions.com/cultivate-your-wife/ a Christian Marriage Website Sat, 21 Nov 2009 13:29:51 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.3 hourly 1 By: Will http://www.marriagemissions.com/cultivate-your-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-605 Will Fri, 04 Apr 2008 15:48:51 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/cultivate-your-wife/#comment-605 (USA) Continuing on with the floral and garden analogy--some plants bloom with little sun light, water, and tending, while others need much much more care and attention. I recently heard that it takes bamboo 7 years to bloom--it's first 6 years and 7 months are underground, and then it sprouts 1 foot a day for the next 90 days. I do not necessarily think that "cultivating" needs to be communicated. When you are cultivating your wife, she will know. It might not be right away when you see any changes or get any responses. If you sow, you will reap in due season. However, I agree with your thought about the partnership and communication being good, because it is important that we do get feedback on what is working or not. SO, it wouldn't hurt to ask her if she notices any changes in you. In my own marriage, I have seen changes (responses) come in a matter of weeks and at other times in a matter of years. But again, it's good to get feedback and encouragement --we men need that too! (USA) Continuing on with the floral and garden analogy–some plants bloom with little sun light, water, and tending, while others need much much more care and attention. I recently heard that it takes bamboo 7 years to bloom–it’s first 6 years and 7 months are underground, and then it sprouts 1 foot a day for the next 90 days.

I do not necessarily think that "cultivating" needs to be communicated. When you are cultivating your wife, she will know. It might not be right away when you see any changes or get any responses. If you sow, you will reap in due season. However, I agree with your thought about the partnership and communication being good, because it is important that we do get feedback on what is working or not. SO, it wouldn’t hurt to ask her if she notices any changes in you.

In my own marriage, I have seen changes (responses) come in a matter of weeks and at other times in a matter of years. But again, it’s good to get feedback and encouragement –we men need that too!

]]> By: Eric http://www.marriagemissions.com/cultivate-your-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-545 Eric Tue, 25 Mar 2008 09:07:53 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/cultivate-your-wife/#comment-545 (SINGAPORE) Is the cultivating done as a partnership, i.e. the wife needs to know that we're attempting to do so? How effective is it if it's a one-way attempt... that is, we husbands do it, and wait for a response from the wife? (SINGAPORE) Is the cultivating done as a partnership, i.e. the wife needs to know that we’re attempting to do so? How effective is it if it’s a one-way attempt… that is, we husbands do it, and wait for a response from the wife?

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