Comments on: Dealing with an Emotionally Distant Spouse http://www.marriagemissions.com/dealing-with-an-emotionally-distant-spouse/ a Christian Marriage Website Sat, 21 Nov 2009 00:25:16 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.3 hourly 1 By: Jennifer http://www.marriagemissions.com/dealing-with-an-emotionally-distant-spouse/comment-page-1/#comment-5246 Jennifer Sat, 24 Oct 2009 13:46:30 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/dealing-with-an-emotionally-distant-spouse/#comment-5246 (USA)  I realize the roses in my marriage have withered and yet to bloom again! My husband loves to have fun - with his buddies more than with his spouse other than making love with me. I have to work hard in working, because I feel so lonely and I don't want to fall into the world of adultery! Therefore, I choose to work outside the home, at home anywhere and make healthy relationships with my colleagues. Is my marriage over then? I give my husband total freedom; there's no sense of commitment from him at all. I do not know when he wants to have dinner with me because he doesn't like planning things with me. Life with him is very unpredictable = I hate it! So rather stuck in self-pitiness, I rather keep myself busy so that I can't think about my distant husband. There are times when he is really romantic and in a second he can be so distant... I think it is driving me crazy.. please advise me on how to take care of myself better. Thanks! (USA)  I realize the roses in my marriage have withered and yet to bloom again! My husband loves to have fun – with his buddies more than with his spouse other than making love with me. I have to work hard in working, because I feel so lonely and I don’t want to fall into the world of adultery! Therefore, I choose to work outside the home, at home anywhere and make healthy relationships with my colleagues.

Is my marriage over then? I give my husband total freedom; there’s no sense of commitment from him at all. I do not know when he wants to have dinner with me because he doesn’t like planning things with me. Life with him is very unpredictable = I hate it! So rather stuck in self-pitiness, I rather keep myself busy so that I can’t think about my distant husband. There are times when he is really romantic and in a second he can be so distant… I think it is driving me crazy.. please advise me on how to take care of myself better. Thanks!

]]> By: Michelle http://www.marriagemissions.com/dealing-with-an-emotionally-distant-spouse/comment-page-1/#comment-4946 Michelle Mon, 21 Sep 2009 20:01:32 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/dealing-with-an-emotionally-distant-spouse/#comment-4946 (USA) Dear Emily, I read your story and I am in the same situation, as we speak. My husband left me for a co-worker while I was 5 months pregnant. He told me to leave town and go back to my mom's hometown. I was not ready to let go. But, I left town and he was with this girl for 6 months. I was so jealous and anxious to win him back. I begged him to come back to me, and he did, and she left him alone. But they still messed around after we got back together and I caught them together two years ago and 5 months ago. I'm tired of it. So I have become emotionally detached. I'm living in denial. I feel like he has feelings for her. He still hides his phone, so no matter how much he promises me he wants to be with me, he keeps on lying and being deceitful. I'm tired so I have made plans to leave after Christmas. Our kids will be so hurt, but I'm hurting myself by staying. Also he's not trying to please and cater to me anymore and he calls me names (curse words). I'm tired. Please write back. Michelle (USA) Dear Emily, I read your story and I am in the same situation, as we speak. My husband left me for a co-worker while I was 5 months pregnant. He told me to leave town and go back to my mom’s hometown. I was not ready to let go. But, I left town and he was with this girl for 6 months. I was so jealous and anxious to win him back. I begged him to come back to me, and he did, and she left him alone.

But they still messed around after we got back together and I caught them together two years ago and 5 months ago. I’m tired of it. So I have become emotionally detached. I’m living in denial. I feel like he has feelings for her. He still hides his phone, so no matter how much he promises me he wants to be with me, he keeps on lying and being deceitful.

I’m tired so I have made plans to leave after Christmas. Our kids will be so hurt, but I’m hurting myself by staying. Also he’s not trying to please and cater to me anymore and he calls me names (curse words). I’m tired. Please write back. Michelle

]]> By: Stacie http://www.marriagemissions.com/dealing-with-an-emotionally-distant-spouse/comment-page-1/#comment-4895 Stacie Tue, 15 Sep 2009 21:32:58 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/dealing-with-an-emotionally-distant-spouse/#comment-4895 (USA)  Throw in the towel. God did not create you to be humiliated or abused. Adultery is a divorceable sin. (USA)  Throw in the towel. God did not create you to be humiliated or abused. Adultery is a divorceable sin.

]]> By: Emily http://www.marriagemissions.com/dealing-with-an-emotionally-distant-spouse/comment-page-1/#comment-4475 Emily Fri, 14 Aug 2009 06:02:12 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/dealing-with-an-emotionally-distant-spouse/#comment-4475 (USA)  Hi Tiffany, I know you posted this comment over a year ago, but I am in the exact same position you were in. The similarities are crazy to me! I was wondering what happened and if you have any advice on what to do or what not to do? My husband has told me that he believed in our wedding vows and yet let lack of communication ruin our relationship, without my knowledge. I came to learn his feelings and his plan to leave all within the past couple of days. I am having a very hard time dealing with it and have pleaded with him that we can fix this...he simply tells me that he doesn't know if he wants to fix it Do you have any thoughts? I totally understand if you don't get back to me on this, but would greatly appreciate any advice or knowledge you have gained from this situation. Many Thanks, Emily (USA)  Hi Tiffany, I know you posted this comment over a year ago, but I am in the exact same position you were in. The similarities are crazy to me! I was wondering what happened and if you have any advice on what to do or what not to do?

My husband has told me that he believed in our wedding vows and yet let lack of communication ruin our relationship, without my knowledge. I came to learn his feelings and his plan to leave all within the past couple of days. I am having a very hard time dealing with it and have pleaded with him that we can fix this…he simply tells me that he doesn’t know if he wants to fix it Do you have any thoughts?

I totally understand if you don’t get back to me on this, but would greatly appreciate any advice or knowledge you have gained from this situation. Many Thanks, Emily

]]> By: Sbonny http://www.marriagemissions.com/dealing-with-an-emotionally-distant-spouse/comment-page-1/#comment-2772 Sbonny Thu, 19 Feb 2009 19:50:45 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/dealing-with-an-emotionally-distant-spouse/#comment-2772 (R.S.A)  How would you advise a wife whose husband indulges in drinking and is having an affair in a Christian marriage and is abusing her and the kids emotionally? Must she undergo counseling or must she throw in the towel because that has been happening for almost 10 yrs? (R.S.A)  How would you advise a wife whose husband indulges in drinking and is having an affair in a Christian marriage and is abusing her and the kids emotionally? Must she undergo counseling or must she throw in the towel because that has been happening for almost 10 yrs?

]]> By: Brenda http://www.marriagemissions.com/dealing-with-an-emotionally-distant-spouse/comment-page-1/#comment-1051 Brenda Tue, 03 Jun 2008 12:43:08 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/dealing-with-an-emotionally-distant-spouse/#comment-1051 (KENYA) Hello Tiffany, those are the distractions from the enemy. The only thing that will help you is prayer. Go down on your knees and commit your marriage to the Lord. There is no situation God can not change despite how it looks. (KENYA) Hello Tiffany, those are the distractions from the enemy. The only thing that will help you is prayer. Go down on your knees and commit your marriage to the Lord. There is no situation God can not change despite how it looks.

]]> By: Sally http://www.marriagemissions.com/dealing-with-an-emotionally-distant-spouse/comment-page-1/#comment-1006 Sally Tue, 27 May 2008 15:06:49 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/dealing-with-an-emotionally-distant-spouse/#comment-1006 (NAMIBIA) Hello Tiffany, I greet you and I feel with you what you are going through. No one has the answer but only God. But what I can say is that when someone strongly defends himself about this friend of his and is not ready to set it right before his wife then there might be something fishy, but don't go fishing because it hurts us more. Fight through prayers and break the codes or link these two have forged because in the eyes of God there is only one link; that is between you and your husband. Fast if necessary. May God guard your words as you speak to your husband so that things do not get worse. Be blessed sister. (NAMIBIA) Hello Tiffany, I greet you and I feel with you what you are going through. No one has the answer but only God. But what I can say is that when someone strongly defends himself about this friend of his and is not ready to set it right before his wife then there might be something fishy, but don’t go fishing because it hurts us more. Fight through prayers and break the codes or link these two have forged because in the eyes of God there is only one link; that is between you and your husband. Fast if necessary. May God guard your words as you speak to your husband so that things do not get worse. Be blessed sister.

]]> By: Tiffany A. http://www.marriagemissions.com/dealing-with-an-emotionally-distant-spouse/comment-page-1/#comment-453 Tiffany A. Tue, 26 Feb 2008 22:26:54 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/dealing-with-an-emotionally-distant-spouse/#comment-453 (USA) My husband has become more and more distant since the beginning of the radiography program which was about August 2007. He has a friend who is in class 24-7 with him and yet he still talks to her constantly on Myspace, and has been attacking me when I ask him why, and/ or to stop. He and I have been fighting about it and I just don't know what to do. He is not willing to compromise with me on slowing down. So, please some one help! Everyone has told me to leave him but I just don't know how! I don't believe in Divorce, but I don't believe in the way he is treating me either! (USA) My husband has become more and more distant since the beginning of the radiography program which was about August 2007. He has a friend who is in class 24-7 with him and yet he still talks to her constantly on Myspace, and has been attacking me when I ask him why, and/ or to stop. He and I have been fighting about it and I just don’t know what to do. He is not willing to compromise with me on slowing down. So, please some one help! Everyone has told me to leave him but I just don’t know how! I don’t believe in Divorce, but I don’t believe in the way he is treating me either!

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