“Most of us have had the occasional heart-to-heart talk with our spouse over family finances. It probably comes as no surprise, then, that arguing about money is one of the most common arguments married couples experience.
“However, when a married couple continually argues over money, it puts a tremendous strain on their relationship, regardless of how much or how little money is coming into the home.”
Disagreeing about money isn’t the problem, it’s how you work through your disagreements and differences so you both eventually become satisfied with the outcome. After all, it’s only natural that you find things you disagree with — you both came from different vantage points in spending money before you married. But as a marital team you need to work through your differences.
So, how do you deal with your differences when it comes to money so it doesn’t destroy your marriage (like it does in so many cases), and build relationship bridges together?
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Another article that could help you deal fairly with each other in this area of your marriage and finances, can be found on the Marriage Partnership Magazine web site. Please click onto the link below to read:
In addition, the ministry of Focus on the Family has an article that may help you in this area of your marriage as well. Please click onto the web site link below to read:
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South Africa: I am in a second marriage;we have lots of conflicting ideas on managing money. I feel we should pool our money and work from one budget, it will make us stronger financially. My husband wants to keep his money to himself and that makes us weaker when it comes to investments. We each have our separate bank accounts. We have our commitments we pay each month and furthermore to each his own. It doesn’t work well. We never know who is going to pay at a restaurant or when we have vacations. I think it is a lot wiser to work together with finances it saves a lot of conflict. I am a saver he is a spender. I always end up paying for any kind of luxuries.
Desiree, It sounds like you have hit a pretty typical and yet very frustrating roadblock in your marriage. It’s not at all unusual to find one spender and one saver in a marriage. And actually, that can work FOR you when BOTH of you finally come to realize that you can balance each other and use each other’s giftedness to make things work financially in your marriage. It’s all about teamwork. Prayerfully, your husband will soon realize this and will work together with you to make this situation work better.
In the resources section of this topic you will see a link for Crown.org. They have international representatives that help couples work together on this kind of thing. You might want to contact the representative near you to ask them what you can do. Hopefully they can guide you to find ways to help your husband join in on the process, or at least give you help to know what you can do to make things better if he won’t cooperate. This is an issue that splits up a lot of marriages so it needs to be taken seriously. I pray your husband will join with you in this and work together with you so you are more united as a marital team — after-all, that’s what marriage is all about — being joined together as husband and wife with God as a “cord of three strands” which is stronger than ever. If your husband isn’t a Christian, that gives you something else to pray about.