Comments on: DESPITE BEING HURT: Gaining A Positive Attitude

By: Lady

Lady — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 16:10:12 +0000

(CANADA) It takes time but once you forgive and let God, the burden is gone because he carries it completely.

By: Lady

Lady — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 16:07:06 +0000

(CANADA) I agree with her – seeking God and getting closer to Him makes a big difference in situations like this – I sought him and he removed my pain and gave me beauty for ashes and joy for mourning. Amen.

By: Mamush

Mamush — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 19:01:41 +0000

(USA) Dear Sue: What are you waiting for Sue? You don’t suppose to be a part of your husband’s sin all the time he made it. Don’t get me wrong like I wanted to say “Your husband’s problem is not yours”. All that I wanted to say is everything has a limit. Like you mentioned it, you advised him and accepted his apology for his prostitution. As a Christian you did a great job because mercy is an important quality for all Christians. Personally I would like to advise you that you share this misfortune with your pastor, your family, or your closest friends. Till the problem is solved and you take a medical test, make sure you have a protected sex with your husband. May God Help You!

By: Cordelia

Cordelia — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 13:54:59 +0000

(PHILIPPINES) This article is a comfort to me. My husband has strayed from his path and despite my pain continues with his affairs. He feels that his empty promises will pacify me. I am keeping my marriage for the sake of our son. I feel both rage and depression simultaneously that robs me of sleep and appetite. I always pray that I be delivered from this torture since I have grown tired and weary from being consumed with so much bitterness and sadness. I have saved some parts of the article that I can read whenever I am feeling depressed. It’s like a lifesaver that I can cling to in moments of darkness- which is becoming a regular event. Thank you.

By: Chelsea

Chelsea — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 03:36:00 +0000

(USA) Thank you so much for this article, especially for the biblical passages. I very much appreciate it, and hope that this will help me on my own personal journey.

By: Sue

Sue — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 15:56:34 +0000

(ZIMBABWE) Please help! My husband has a drinking problem and goes on weekend-long drinking binges when he doesn’t come home. Last November I found him in bed with a prostitute. Even though he only apologized to me after I told him to, I have forgiven him. But now the problem is should I keep forgiving him when he keeps on drinking and staying out all night (I think he keeps on visiting prostitutes)? Should I have sex with him bearing in mind that he might be having unprotected sex with others? As a Christian I believe that when I made my marriage vows I also made a promise to God to stay in this marriage, so if I leave would I not be wronging God also?

By: Jenn

Jenn — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 19:01:54 +0000

(USA) My husband has been flirting with other women throughout our marriage. He will look at internet porn and flirt with women on the internet. He will go to topless bars and he even went as far as touching another women in front of me. He does not see anything wrong with this and says that all men like to look at and flirt will other women. I have been trying to hold my marriage together for 14 years because I think it is the right thing to do and I love my husband and I fear for his soul. But I don’t think my heart can take it anymore. Is it wrong for me to want out of my marriage and to hope that I can find happiness and faithful love with someone else?

By: Linda

Linda — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 10:53:02 +0000

(ZIMBABWE) Thank you so much for the words of encouragement. I am trying very hard to battle with having a positive attitude when my husband had an affair with a divorcee. She almost destroyed my marriage by writing very bad letters to me and phoning me. I am trying really hard to pray to the LORD to help me over this.

By: Anne

Anne — Thu, 22 May 2008 18:06:50 +0000

(CANADA) Hey Cindy, thanks a lot for your encouragement. I know you’ll read my other post on the power of a praying wife. I did fall for the trap of satan unfortunately, which lead to an evening where my husband and I weren’t talking to one another. It’s very unfortunate but yet again, it ended up being the best thing that happened coz I needed to be honest with God. I spent time with Him and I know He’ll see me through.

I know He’ll show me how to go about forgiving completely. It is a battle but one I intend to win with God’s faithfulness. Pray for our talk tonight and that I may be able to be honest about my feelings. All I want is to be happy and enjoy all the blessings God is pouring in my marriage coz honestly, despite what happened yesterday, things are going great.

Thanks a lot Cindy. I thank God everyday for you and Steve. I’m listening to a song by POINT OF GRACE-YOU’LL NEVER WALK ALONE. It’s amazing. It’s just about how with faith Jesus is right beside me all the time.

By: Cindy Wright

Cindy Wright — Thu, 22 May 2008 06:33:26 +0000

(USA) I’m praying for you Anne. I have confidence that you will eventually look back some day and will realize the work you have participated in with God… that you will experience peace and will fully forgive, just as God has fully forgiven you because of Jesus Christ. It’s all a part of your spiritual faith journey. You are living out your testimony step-by-step, day-by-day. As difficult as it is, it is worth the battle! Keep pressing forward. You will make it. I know this in my heart and spirit.

By: Anne

Anne — Thu, 22 May 2008 05:33:34 +0000

(CANADA) Thanks Cindy for this article. With everything that I’m going through with bitterness over what has happened, I know I have to truly let go and forgive. Everyday I ask God to help me have a forgiving heart coz all I want is to obey Him and do what He expects. I’m in a whole new battle and I pray that I’ll overcome. Thanks a lot for everything.

I’ll continue to pray and trust in Him so that I completely hand it to Him and am able to forgive. I don’t want to destroy myself. It’s true what has been written, that we lack peace when we don’t forgive. Things are improving in my marriage. I am not as happy as I should be, yet I’m not unhappy. I just lack the peace that comes with joy. I don’t want to miss God’s blessings coz of my feelings. Please pray for me thank you.

By: alan

alan — Wed, 12 Dec 2007 13:20:19 +0000

(USA) Hi LT. Yes very trying. I’m still trying to get an understanding on why it happened and I might never know why. I was knocked off my walk for a bit by an unfaithful act. I’ve had support getting back and long talks with our GOD and Jesus. As far as the unfaithful act is concerned, the one who made the choice to do so is not trying real hard to help correct it. It is as though it should be done with and swept under the rug and forgotten in just a short time of it happening. This kind of act will never completely be gone from me, although in time I will be ok –still I will not be the same as before it happened.

By: LT

LT — Wed, 12 Dec 2007 03:55:49 +0000

(USA) Hi Alan, In reading your comments I get the impression that your situation is certainly one of those very trying times that come up in life. I also know from my own experience as well as that of many of my Christian brothers and sisters, that there are a lot of "wilderness" periods.

If it looks like all your options are tapped out then this is God’s way of saying – "Now it’s time for you to be with me even more than you were." In other words, it’s time of the Holy Spirit to really minister to you.

I don’t know what God’s plan is for you or where He will guide you in this situation you are currently facing but He definitely has a plan for you. Rest in that and trust that. Then, quietly listen for the Shepherd’s voice to lead you and tell you what to do at each step.

Remember when Christ first got baptized of water and then the Holy Spirit came down (ascended from Heaven) upon Him? Then he went to the desert for 40 days, didn’t eat and was tempted by Satan. These wilderness periods come up and they are very hard to go through (I’ve been there) but in the end, once you’ve come out on the other side, you’ll be stronger and also will have learned SO many things through it. Although it’s hard, be glad in that God has decided to mold you even more like Christ through the current situation.

Be quick and unceasing in prayer and remain faithful and close to God. He will guide you through it. Take each day as it comes, not dwelling on the day(s) before or day(s) to come. Looking at the past or trying to figure out the future, I have found, tends to lead to more frustration, not less because we simply don’t know God’s overall plan for us (the big picture). This is how we get through trying times – one day at a time. This is what I’ve learned in my faith walk. Hope it helps. With love, LT

By: alan

alan — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 21:18:54 +0000

(USA) It’s easy to read what to do and to trust in God that he will get you through anything but what about when the other person tells you they don’t know if they can stop hurting you and won’t agree to counseling any more?

By: jule

jule — Fri, 23 Nov 2007 11:28:15 +0000

(USA) Being hurt by family members such as children and my husband; by the extremely insensitive and rude things my "Christian" daughters say daily has caused me to seek refuge in my room. I either go away because of the deep pain and anger or remain in the room in an unhappy state. Either way, I am "feeling like attacks are on. I am hormonal, hot-flashing day and night, extremely sensitive and desperate for relief through reading, journaling and prayer. I definitely found this article to be helpful and just found the site. Being on the verge of 50, I ask the Lord to make the second half even better than the first and find that the friends I have and the mentoring I am currently receiving along with the hope of the Lord using me in the near future, is a light ahead in the dark annoyances of the soul.