Here are “Real Life” testimonies from people who have dealt with an emotionally distant spouse who have experienced God’s special touch in their circumstances. We believe you will be encouraged and find hope through reading them.
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(USA) I am a Christian wife whose husband has said that he is not sure about his life anymore. He doesn’t talk and we don’t argue. We have 3 kids; they have left the home so we are empty-nesters.
My husband has turned 51 this year and I just need to know how to help him love me again. I know that he cares but he is not in love anymore. Yes, that hurts! I pray all the time and believe that the promises from God are real. Thank you.
(USA) I NEED EVERYONE TO KNOW THAT GOD DOES LOVE US I MEAN WE HAVE TO REALLY BELIEVE THAT. I AM PRAYING FOR EVERYONE KELLY I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. BUT WITH GOD NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE. I KNOW THAT SOUNDS SO “BLAH BLAH”… BUT IT IS TRUE. HE DOES CARE FOR US AND DOES ANSWER US.
CLAIM SCRIPTURE AND DEFEAT THE ENEMY. IF WE RESIST THE DEVIL HE WILL FLEE. GRAB ON TO ALL THE PROMISES OF MARRIAGE AND REALLY ASK GOD TO HELP YOU BELIEVE!!!! PLEASE PRAY FOR YOUR HUSBAND!! I KNOW AND HAVE FAITH THAT GOD IS GOING TO RESTORE MY MARRIAGE. IT IS NOT HIS WILL THAT MY MARRIAGE ENDS. IF GOD IS FOR US WHO CAN BE AGAINST US.
LOVE, MOLLY
(USA) I really can relate to many of you. My husband & I will be married 13years on Sunday. And last August he was becoming very distant & one night he decided to let me know that he was no longer in love with me. My husband has been in church & leadership at the church for years, however I never made Christ the most important thing in my life. After he told me this I really took a look at myself & saw so many areas I failed in my marriage so I started seeking God & received the holy ghost.
Now we are still battling the aftermath of an affair that he had because he felt that I no longer loved or cared for him. God has truly allowed me to forgive him & overcome some insecurities of my own. However, just the last two weeks he has been distancing himself from me. Now he has decided that maybe it would be best if he stayed the night away a few nights here & there to see if he can find those feelings for me that he had all these years that are no longer there.
I don’t want to give up on my marriage & I continue to battle this daily. We have been so blessed from being told that we would never be able to have children to having a beautiful daughter that is now 4. I stop & think God didn’t grant us this just to see it destroyed. When I tell my husband this his response is God also doesn’t intend for us to live unhappily either so maybe this it is too far gone to be saved. Please pray for me I’m struggling with being lonely & trying to finish my nursing degree & instill in my child a strong family bond.
(ZIMBABWE) Tammy, I really feel for you. I am in a similar situation, almost, but I have faith and am waiting on God’s promises. Other than to be still and know that he is GOD, there isn’t much I can tell you. We shall overcome, someday.
(USA) Please pray for my marriage. I’m tired… is it beneficial for one spouse to seek marriage counseling alone?
(UNITED STATES) Molly, Your husband is in male menopause; his testerone levels have dropped. That has all to do with his emotional unbalance, look it up on internet. The same thing happen to me. I come from medical background.
(SOUTH AFRICA) I sit here in my office today reading all your messages and I think to myself… Where is God? When your children are crying day and night about their marriages (something You created for mankind), where are You Lord? It breaks my heart to read about everybody here today. I have problems of my own but somehow I see myself rising above them and I ask myself how i did it… The answer is simple… God carried me through.
i wake up in the morning and I look at my boys and I realise that God is staring me up in the face. I wake up in the morning and I can breath, I can see, I can hear, move and very healthy… me and my kids. I wake up in the morning and still go to work. I go to bed at night (bear in mind that it’s winter in SA). I have shelter, food, clothing, family, you name it. I look at the blue sky and I think to myself… out of many people in the world You my Lord, chose me to live one more day. You my Lord, chose me to mother these children.
At times we go home stressed and sometimes take in out on our children, have you ever noticed that they sometimes cry but forgive you in minutes? Look at your children and you’ll see that God never left. He is there with you every step of the way.
For those of you who don’t have kids, look outside whether it be day or night and ask yourself, God is such a genius… Only He can create the marvelous wonders of life that we live in today. Be Blessed and know that God WILL NEVER LEAVE NOR FORSAKE YOU; STAY BLESSED.
(USA) I’m reminded Retha, of the quote that says, “Behind every beautiful flower and sunset you see the reflection of God.” So often when we are in pain, and/or we expect God to direct things in a different direction than He appears to be doing at the moment, we can only see that which is ugly, discolored, and distorted. The ugliness becomes our focus and our view of everything else becomes tainted as well. We forget to live out the principles set forth in Philippians 4:8-9 where it says:
“Finally, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable — if anything is excellent or praiseworthy — think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me — put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.”
I’ve applied these principles (when I remember them) in so many distressing situations and have found them to be sound. It takes discipline to look away from that which is ugly when it seems to cry for our attention, but by focusing elsewhere, you are committing your situation to God and are concentrating on that which you CAN do instead of that which you can’t.
“You will keep in perfect peace him whose mind is steadfast, because he trusts in you” (Isaiah 26:3).
(UNITED STATES) My marriage was struggling with my husband saying the exact same things. I started searching for answers and God led me to buy two books one called "Praying through the Deeper Issues of Marriage" author Stormi Omartian. I’ve learned that as a Christian we must pray. The Bible says to pray without ceasing. You must ask yourself what do I want, if I want my marriage then I am going to fight. Nothing is impossible for God. He can turn the hearts of men around in Malachi 2:16, God the author of marriage, says He hates divorce for it covers one garment with violence. God hates divorce and it only takes one committed partner to pray and bring God on the scheme for change.
In the book I stated earlier she says "Marriages can be saved when you apply Biblical principals by relying on Gods word." This book is awesome and she gives testimony. I prayed this prayer and went on a fast and I have seen God’s power show up and soften my husbands heart. Please get this book.
(INDIA) My husband should listen to whatever I say. Suppose if I say to sit; he has to sit. Why am saying this? It’s because of my father. My father is a big sadist. He used to always say ugly words to my mom, me and my sister. Once upon a time my hubby would use those kind of words so I feared that maybe my hubby was like my father. I don’t want a husband like my papa.
One more thing, he doesn’t show any interest in me for sex and he doesn’t show he has any feelings. One more thing, he should ask me for my salary and he says always listen to whatever I say. Please, send the details on how it is possible to do something about this.
(ZIMBABWE) I have been married for almost 3 years now. My husband is so distant. I don’t know why. Sometimes I feel I have failed him, I sometimes tell myself that I’m not a good wife. At one time I prayed for ten days at midnight. There was change in the beginning but now it’s back to where we were. His problem is that He does not want to communicate when there is a conflict. I just don’t know what to do. Help me.