The following are Web Site links and descriptions of resources that married men could find helpful. We pray they will minister to your marriage.

• www.christianniceguy.com This is the web site for Paul Coughlin, who is part of a movement where thousands of Christian men are reaching for more forceful, rugged expressions of their faith. Paul writes about the Christian Nice Guy, who hides their fears and passivity behind a fake smile and a “nice” personality that is timid and dishonest. Paul sets men free to live better, more loving, and more meaningful lives — to be better husbands and fathers.

• www.familylife.com This the web site for the ministry of Family Life Today. This is a great ministry and they have a great web site that you could find very helpful. In particular, if you go into their web site and click into “Articles” and then select “Marriage” you will find an option you can select called “Husbands.” There you will find a long list of articles you can choose from which you can read.

• www.newmanmag.com This is the web site for New Man Magazine, which is a contemporary magazine for Christian men. On their web site you will find many articles that could help you as a married man.

• www.promisekeepers.org This is the web site for the ministry of Promise Keepers — Men of Integrity. Promise Keepers’ mission is to ignite and unite men to become passionate followers of Jesus Christ through the effective communication of seven promises to God, their fellow men, family, church and the world. Promise Keepers’ vision is simply put in three words: “Men Transformed Worldwide.”

RESOURCE DESCRIPTIONS:

• A HUSBAND AFTER GOD’S OWN HEART -by Jim George, and published by Harvest House Publishers, www.harvesthousepublishers.com. This book is subtitled, “12 Things That Really Matter in Your Marriage.” In it the author covers the topics: •Growing in the Lord • Working as a Team • Learning to Communicate • Enjoying Intimacy • Managing Your Money • Keeping Up the Home • Raising Your Children • Extending Love to Family • Tending Your Career • Making Time for Fun • Serving the Lord • Reaching Out to Others. Also, at the end of each chapter is a section titled: “Little Things that Make a Big Difference” which are applications pertaining to the subject discussed. Buy this book now.

• DANGERS MEN FACE… Overcoming the Five Greatest Threats to Living Well -By Jerry White, published by NAVPRESS, www.navpress.com.

“Every man wants to finish well. No man sets out early in his life to destroy himself. He doesn’t plan to strike up failure after failure. He does not get married intending to make himself and his wife miserable. He does not plan to be a poor father. He does not coldly calculate how he will be come an alcoholic and ruin his liver by age forty. But the journey is filled with danger. Finishing well is a tremendous challenge.”

That’s how Jerry White begins his book. He then takes men through what he considers the greatest threats men face in life: 1. The Danger Of Loss … 2. The Danger Of Sin … 3. The Danger Of Freezing … 4. The Danger Of Confusion In Life … 5. The Danger Of Withdrawal. Under each of those five categories he then expounds on each of those dangers and offers an antidote so that we don’t have to fall victim in any area. He uses a lot of examples from his own life and draws from the experiences of other men. It’s a book that touches us men at the heart of our being. Buy this book now.

• DISCOVERING THE MIND OF A WOMAN -by Ken Nair, published by Thomas Nelson, www.thomasnelson.com. (Steve highly recommends this resource.) This book is about husbands learning to understand their wives as Christ would and then learning to respond to their wives in a consistently Christ-like manner. Not only will it revive your marriage, it has the potential to positively affect the rest of your life to improve relationships with your children, your coworkers, your friends—everyone. This book is painfully honest and very scriptural. Buy this book now.

• EVERY MAN’S BATTLE…Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time -by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker, published by Waterbrook Press, a division of Random House, Inc., www.randomhouse.com/waterbrook/home.pperl. For any man who has ever struggled with sexual sin (and that’s 99.999% of us) this book is a must read. If you’ve struggled one day, or 50 years, with sexual sin only to find yourself frustrated and guilty that you can’t overcome it, then this book is for you. It can change your marriage too.

Steve Arterburn says, “How can a book on sexual purity transform marriages? Because I’ve found that sexual sins are the termites in the walls of the foundations of today’s marriages. But I can confidently state that this book has the potential to free you to love your wife in ways you never dreamed possible.”

Arterburn and Stoeker are completely transparent about their own personal struggles with Lust and sexual sin and they give a very practical approach to gaining victory over such areas as pornography, impure thoughts, masturbation, etc. Ultimately, this book is about how to gain victory. They share stories of pastors, worship leaders, deacons and elders. They have stories of white-collar office workers and blue-collar employees. But they all have one thing in common-they were caught in the snare of sexual sin.

For further help for men who suffer from sexual addictions, there are many good web sites available today that can help you. Two that I highly recommend are www.newlife.com and www.bebroken.com. Buy this book now.

• EVERY MAN’S MARRIAGE -by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker with Mike Yorkey, published by Waterbrook Press, which is a division of Random House, Inc., www.randomhouse.com/waterbrook/home.pperl. This book is a perfect follow-up to the best selling book, Every Man’s Battle. In this book, you can discover the common misconceptions about what it means to exercise biblical authority and understand the role of submission in the marriage relationship. It helps men to grasp and apply essential but often overlooked principles for marital leadership. As they say in the introduction to this book, “If you’re willing to trust God and implement what we tell you, some amazing things are going to happen to you and the woman in your life.” Buy this book now.

• UPSIDE DOWN MARRIAGE -by Jeff Hendley, published by Xulon Press. This is a really good book, both for husbands to be and husbands who are. It encourages men to start where they are to examine their lives and do what it takes to become healthier men and healthier husbands. Here’s what Dr Howard Hendricks (of Dallas Theological Seminary) had to say about this book:

“Jeff Hendley, one of my former students, has acquitted himself well in shining his biblical searchlight on our current cloud of confusion. Man-to-man, he puts in plain English what God meant when He said it was not good that man should live alone. Without pulling any punches, he opens his heart and tells his readers what it is really like to deal with one’s own male humanity. This book is not about how to understand women, but how to grab your own bearded chin and hold it in the mirror of God’s relentless glare. Since the Garden of Eden, it has not mattered what a man’s theological persuasion is. God said, in effect, “You’re it, man! You are responsible for My world. When I give you a wife, you are in the driver’s seat, looking out for her and for your children, and your grandchildren. You are the head of your family by My decree.” Through the centuries we have managed to distort and up-end this divine intention for husbands. Here is a down-to-earth, straight-out-of scripture reminder that, although men will be men, men can be extraordinary models of virtue and integrity.” Buy this book now.

 

 

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