Comments on: Forgiveness: Important in Marriage – Message #92 http://www.marriagemissions.com/forgiveness-important-in-marriage-message-92/ a Christian Marriage Website Sat, 21 Nov 2009 00:25:16 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.3 hourly 1 By: Cindy Wright http://www.marriagemissions.com/forgiveness-important-in-marriage-message-92/comment-page-1/#comment-675 Cindy Wright Thu, 17 Apr 2008 19:36:18 +0000 http://marriagemissions.net/forgiveness-important-in-marriage-message-92/#comment-675 Hi Anne, I was moved to tears as I read your letter on how you have battled forgiving your husband, because I sensed the deep pain you have, and you are experiencing. What you are struggling with, is very understandable to most anyone. To forgive the person you most intimately trusted, for betraying you as he did when he allowed himself to get tied to someone else emotionally, is EXTREMELY difficult! I cry with you over this. But I'm also so proud of the fact that you are putting your energies towards forgiving him. Forgiveness isn't cheap (we saw that on the cross of Jesus Christ) -- it's expensive to give it away, but it's also important. It will proceed to release you more and more from the stranglehold that unforgiveness can have on a person, as you let go of it. And what is so profound, is that the one you are actually releasing is yourself, as you let go of that which poisons your very being. We have a whole section on this web site on "Bitterness and Forgiveness" that aims towards helping all of us, let go of that which damages our being. I hope it has and will help you. Keep leaning towards forgiving. And keep praying that God will show you how, and will empower you to do this. God understands the difficulty in doing this because He's been (and continues to be) in the position of forgiving His own bride for being unfaithful to Him. As you continually release that which will hurt you (and others), you will have more energy to concentrate on that which is healthy, both emotionally and spiritually. I'm praying for you Anne, and know in my heart that you will come to the day where you will experience the freedom that forgiveness in this difficult matter brings. I am "confident in this, that He who began a good work in you, will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus." Hi Anne, I was moved to tears as I read your letter on how you have battled forgiving your husband, because I sensed the deep pain you have, and you are experiencing. What you are struggling with, is very understandable to most anyone. To forgive the person you most intimately trusted, for betraying you as he did when he allowed himself to get tied to someone else emotionally, is EXTREMELY difficult! I cry with you over this.

But I’m also so proud of the fact that you are putting your energies towards forgiving him. Forgiveness isn’t cheap (we saw that on the cross of Jesus Christ) — it’s expensive to give it away, but it’s also important. It will proceed to release you more and more from the stranglehold that unforgiveness can have on a person, as you let go of it. And what is so profound, is that the one you are actually releasing is yourself, as you let go of that which poisons your very being.

We have a whole section on this web site on “Bitterness and Forgiveness” that aims towards helping all of us, let go of that which damages our being. I hope it has and will help you.

Keep leaning towards forgiving. And keep praying that God will show you how, and will empower you to do this. God understands the difficulty in doing this because He’s been (and continues to be) in the position of forgiving His own bride for being unfaithful to Him. As you continually release that which will hurt you (and others), you will have more energy to concentrate on that which is healthy, both emotionally and spiritually.

I’m praying for you Anne, and know in my heart that you will come to the day where you will experience the freedom that forgiveness in this difficult matter brings. I am “confident in this, that He who began a good work in you, will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”

]]> By: Anne http://www.marriagemissions.com/forgiveness-important-in-marriage-message-92/comment-page-1/#comment-668 Anne Wed, 16 Apr 2008 17:04:20 +0000 http://marriagemissions.net/forgiveness-important-in-marriage-message-92/#comment-668 (CANADA) Thanks a lot Cindy and Steve, this article was really helpful. I had realised that I had not completely forgiven my husband for the emotional affair he had, and that's why I still harbor a lot of bitterness and resentment. The statement that has really helped me is that "marriage heals when we stop looking at what our spouse needs to do, but what I NEED TO DO to better our marriage".That was an insight, because I realised that's what iIve been doing. I've been telling myself if only my husband can do this, then we'll find healing. I just cried to God so hard and asked Him to forgive me for my unforgiveness towards my husband and the other woman. And I also asked Him to forgive me for looking for healing from my husband instead of Him. It was just last night that I had prayed for God to show me if I'm treating my husband like my god, and He just showed me. Thanks a lot for this article. Pray for me to be able to forgive completely and to put what happened in the past and for God to guide me and show me what I need to do to better my marriage and to also view my husband with faith, and to see him as God sees him. It's hard to do that, especially when he's so withdrawn, but with God's help I know it's possible. Thanks a lot for all your prayers may God Bless you. (CANADA) Thanks a lot Cindy and Steve, this article was really helpful. I had realised that I had not completely forgiven my husband for the emotional affair he had, and that’s why I still harbor a lot of bitterness and resentment. The statement that has really helped me is that "marriage heals when we stop looking at what our spouse needs to do, but what I NEED TO DO to better our marriage".That was an insight, because I realised that’s what iIve been doing. I’ve been telling myself if only my husband can do this, then we’ll find healing.

I just cried to God so hard and asked Him to forgive me for my unforgiveness towards my husband and the other woman. And I also asked Him to forgive me for looking for healing from my husband instead of Him. It was just last night that I had prayed for God to show me if I’m treating my husband like my god, and He just showed me.

Thanks a lot for this article. Pray for me to be able to forgive completely and to put what happened in the past and for God to guide me and show me what I need to do to better my marriage and to also view my husband with faith, and to see him as God sees him. It’s hard to do that, especially when he’s so withdrawn, but with God’s help I know it’s possible. Thanks a lot for all your prayers may God Bless you.

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