Comments on: General Guidelines For Making Peace With Your In-Laws http://www.marriagemissions.com/general-guidelines-for-making-peace-with-your-in-laws/ a Christian Marriage Website Thu, 18 Mar 2010 10:39:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: PL http://www.marriagemissions.com/general-guidelines-for-making-peace-with-your-in-laws/comment-page-1/#comment-5830 PL Tue, 29 Dec 2009 11:23:48 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/general-guidelines-for-making-peace-with-your-in-laws/#comment-5830 (SOUTH AFRICA)  I believe that when you marry someone you also marry their family and God always seems to put 2 people together who have ben brought up totally differently. I have tried my utmost to get along with my in-laws, but the problem now is that my husband is not speaking to his parents and won't allow me to take our kids there because they disappointed our daughter. He doesn't want our kids to feel rejected by their grandparents. My in-laws haven't even called to speak to our kids and 4 months have passed. Thank goodness that with little kids, it is "out of sight, out of mind". They did however, ask if we were going to their grandparents house on Christmas day and I had to make an excuse because my husband refused to go to his own parent's house. It is a tough situation because I believe in generation curses and this is what happened with his parents and their parents and I don't want our kids to grow up knowing that it is okay to fight with your parents. My husband just feels that that will never happen with our kids and that we are better off without his parents as they are negative and gossip constantly. He seems fine but I wonder? Do you have any advice or articles that I could read when dealing with this type of conflict? I speak to my husband about this regularly but I choose not to get into an argument about it. He thinks it is fine to just cut them out of our lives and I know that his parents are bad-mouthing us to the rest of the family and his father is very upset- but no one is talking about it. Help, if you can. (SOUTH AFRICA)  I believe that when you marry someone you also marry their family and God always seems to put 2 people together who have ben brought up totally differently. I have tried my utmost to get along with my in-laws, but the problem now is that my husband is not speaking to his parents and won’t allow me to take our kids there because they disappointed our daughter. He doesn’t want our kids to feel rejected by their grandparents. My in-laws haven’t even called to speak to our kids and 4 months have passed. Thank goodness that with little kids, it is “out of sight, out of mind”. They did however, ask if we were going to their grandparents house on Christmas day and I had to make an excuse because my husband refused to go to his own parent’s house.

It is a tough situation because I believe in generation curses and this is what happened with his parents and their parents and I don’t want our kids to grow up knowing that it is okay to fight with your parents. My husband just feels that that will never happen with our kids and that we are better off without his parents as they are negative and gossip constantly. He seems fine but I wonder?

Do you have any advice or articles that I could read when dealing with this type of conflict? I speak to my husband about this regularly but I choose not to get into an argument about it. He thinks it is fine to just cut them out of our lives and I know that his parents are bad-mouthing us to the rest of the family and his father is very upset- but no one is talking about it. Help, if you can.

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