Well, it does work for me very well. Before I even start worrying about a certain thing that is going on on my hubby’s mind, I get a clear revelation and intuition by the Holy Spirit. Learn to be soft and a good listener. The Holy Spirit will guide you into resolving this issue… Be slow to speak., but in all be very prayerful.

"I once found my husband to be so troubled and uneasy, I didn’t take him to (court) questioning etc, I just remained prayerful. A few days down the line the Holy Spirit allowed me to do something I don’t normally do, which is to answer his phone. And before the person on the other side could tell that I was the wife and not him, the whole secret was spilled and I then knew what was going on." Be patient, prayerful and above all continue being the loving wife that you are… not taking everything you see/hear to heart.

One of the reasons why I struggle with this is he is a very outgoing person. We entertain people in our home (often from his side) a lot, often strangers and we do it willingly and whole heartedly but often I feel sad that I cannot freely allow my own family members into our home. I am very close to my family. My sister was my best friend until I met my husband.

One of the reasons that he says attracted him to me was my family. He really loved them and how we related to each other. I am not sure what changed.

I just want to know how to react to it. How do I love him through all this without condoning his bad behaviour? Sometimes I think I will give him a taste of his own medicine by ignoring guests from his side but its not in me to do that. Once a guest is in my house my only aim is to serve them and make them as comfortable as possible.

I get on very well with his family. I phone his Mom and Dad now and again to find out how they are doing. He wouldn’t do that for me unless there was a serious issue at stake and he is asked to.

What do I do? He is a loving husband otherwise. But his complete indifference towards my family is killing me slowly inside.