Comments on: Good, Bad Or Just Different? http://www.marriagemissions.com/good-bad-or-just-different/ a Christian Marriage Website Sat, 21 Nov 2009 10:11:26 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.3 hourly 1 By: Joy http://www.marriagemissions.com/good-bad-or-just-different/comment-page-1/#comment-1844 Joy Thu, 25 Sep 2008 07:59:39 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/good-bad-or-just-different/#comment-1844 (UGANDA)  I feel with Joan for the situation she in. Naturally when we fall in love, we disregard some factors standing in the way of our marriage. In Joan's case, she knew this man had children and definitely, they occupied a place in this man's heart. Reality catches us up when we are already in the marriage and the best we have to do is talk about what causes discomfort and together find a solution. Joan has not told us what actually brings confused feelings /resentment /jealousy /anger /guilt/damaged self-esteem /physical abuse and feelings of being worthless. Is it the kids, their mother or her husband? If it is the kids mother, then Joan has to trash it and concentrate on building up her marriage. The fact that by the time she married the husband this lady was out of picture, she should not even think to spoil a marriage she has no stake in. If it is the husband causing her terrible feelings, Joan needs to get him in a good mood and cause a discussion to address what she is going through. If it the kids, I have a feelings that since they are still young, they can be transformed and she needs to determine to help them change. Finally, let Joan look inside herself and do a self examination test to see where she has contributed to the situation she in and address it. In most cases transformation begins with us. If she is almost ready for divorce, that is not a solution, because she may feel more bad after the divorce, and it may be worse for the baby. In Christian marriages, we are encouraged to practice patience, forgiveness, and faithfulness. I encourage her to hang on and pray for a positive change in her marriage. I encourage her to open up with her husband and the issues objectively. (UGANDA)  I feel with Joan for the situation she in. Naturally when we fall in love, we disregard some factors standing in the way of our marriage. In Joan’s case, she knew this man had children and definitely, they occupied a place in this man’s heart.

Reality catches us up when we are already in the marriage and the best we have to do is talk about what causes discomfort and together find a solution. Joan has not told us what actually brings confused feelings /resentment /jealousy /anger /guilt/damaged self-esteem /physical abuse and feelings of being worthless. Is it the kids, their mother or her husband?

If it is the kids mother, then Joan has to trash it and concentrate on building up her marriage. The fact that by the time she married the husband this lady was out of picture, she should not even think to spoil a marriage she has no stake in. If it is the husband causing her terrible feelings, Joan needs to get him in a good mood and cause a discussion to address what she is going through. If it the kids, I have a feelings that since they are still young, they can be transformed and she needs to determine to help them change.

Finally, let Joan look inside herself and do a self examination test to see where she has contributed to the situation she in and address it. In most cases transformation begins with us. If she is almost ready for divorce, that is not a solution, because she may feel more bad after the divorce, and it may be worse for the baby. In Christian marriages, we are encouraged to practice patience, forgiveness, and faithfulness. I encourage her to hang on and pray for a positive change in her marriage. I encourage her to open up with her husband and the issues objectively.

]]> By: Joan http://www.marriagemissions.com/good-bad-or-just-different/comment-page-1/#comment-1666 Joan Wed, 27 Aug 2008 18:10:48 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/good-bad-or-just-different/#comment-1666 (UNITED STATES)  Hi there, Any advice or articles available that may help me? I married my first love who has children from a previous relationship which he has custody of, and they have lived with us everyday since we've been married (3 years). There is not much help from my step kid's natural Mom. I did not live with my husband before we were married. I went right from my parents home to our home and was instantly a wife and Mom. After 3 years and a bunch of confused feelings/resentment/jealousy/anger/guilt/damaged self-esteem/physical abuse and feelings of being worthless, I'm almost ready for divorce. I'm hesitant because we also have a year old baby together whom he is really attached to, as well as the other 2 kids. Any help? (UNITED STATES)  Hi there, Any advice or articles available that may help me?

I married my first love who has children from a previous relationship which he has custody of, and they have lived with us everyday since we’ve been married (3 years). There is not much help from my step kid’s natural Mom. I did not live with my husband before we were married. I went right from my parents home to our home and was instantly a wife and Mom.

After 3 years and a bunch of confused feelings/resentment/jealousy/anger/guilt/damaged self-esteem/physical abuse and feelings of being worthless, I’m almost ready for divorce. I’m hesitant because we also have a year old baby together whom he is really attached to, as well as the other 2 kids. Any help?

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