Comments on: Guarding Your Heart Against Emotional Fantasies http://www.marriagemissions.com/guarding-against-emotional-fantasies/ a Christian Marriage Website Tue, 16 Mar 2010 18:19:02 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Molly http://www.marriagemissions.com/guarding-against-emotional-fantasies/comment-page-1/#comment-5714 Molly Tue, 15 Dec 2009 14:46:34 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/guarding-against-emotional-fantasies/#comment-5714 (ZIMBABWE)  Its tricky. It's the times when I try to share with my husband my fears, my hopes, my pains and my wishes, that he doesn't understand them and attacks me. Then it reminds me of one guy I once dated long back who could listen and try to understand how I felt every time. So when I am feeling all alone in the same bed with my husband, I tell myself I would be a lot better off with mosley than with this guy I married. Then I start to chat with him on facebook. Nothing sexual, but I share the deepest secrets of my heart. And as I remember, he understands. But now I know it's wrong. (ZIMBABWE)  Its tricky. It’s the times when I try to share with my husband my fears, my hopes, my pains and my wishes, that he doesn’t understand them and attacks me. Then it reminds me of one guy I once dated long back who could listen and try to understand how I felt every time. So when I am feeling all alone in the same bed with my husband, I tell myself I would be a lot better off with mosley than with this guy I married. Then I start to chat with him on facebook. Nothing sexual, but I share the deepest secrets of my heart. And as I remember, he understands. But now I know it’s wrong.

]]> By: Rosina http://www.marriagemissions.com/guarding-against-emotional-fantasies/comment-page-1/#comment-3193 Rosina Mon, 23 Mar 2009 07:06:39 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/guarding-against-emotional-fantasies/#comment-3193 (ZAMBIA, SOUTHERN AFRICA)  Dear All, My problem is that I fantasize about other people when I am being intimate with my husband. I have been praying over this a lot, because I feel so bad afterward and I even fail or find it difficult to pray to God. Usually I think of the most awful things which make me feel so bad afterward because my thoughts include females that I interact with daily. Please, if there is someone out there who has had this experience and has overcome it, tell me what I can also do to overcome this problem. I feel it's the one thing the devil is using to really hurt me in my relationship with God. (ZAMBIA, SOUTHERN AFRICA)  Dear All, My problem is that I fantasize about other people when I am being intimate with my husband. I have been praying over this a lot, because I feel so bad afterward and I even fail or find it difficult to pray to God. Usually I think of the most awful things which make me feel so bad afterward because my thoughts include females that I interact with daily.

Please, if there is someone out there who has had this experience and has overcome it, tell me what I can also do to overcome this problem. I feel it’s the one thing the devil is using to really hurt me in my relationship with God.

]]> By: Cindy Wright http://www.marriagemissions.com/guarding-against-emotional-fantasies/comment-page-1/#comment-2530 Cindy Wright Fri, 16 Jan 2009 17:03:42 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/guarding-against-emotional-fantasies/#comment-2530 The following web site link was sent anonymously into this ministry. We highly recommend for <em>everyone</em> to read it! To do so, please click onto the following: http://sustainedhope.wordpress.com/2009/01/16/overcoming-sexual-and-emotional-fantasies/ The following web site link was sent anonymously into this ministry. We highly recommend for everyone to read it! To do so, please click onto the following: http://sustainedhope.wordpress.com/2009/01/16/overcoming-sexual-and-emotional-fantasies/

]]> By: Heather http://www.marriagemissions.com/guarding-against-emotional-fantasies/comment-page-1/#comment-1773 Heather Mon, 15 Sep 2008 20:19:58 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/guarding-against-emotional-fantasies/#comment-1773 (MX)  Finally! Finally someone is willing to be honest and talk about this issue. The weaknesses of self-control and sexual intimacy among women goes completely unspoken in the church. I know women are suffering from it. I know there are affairs happening even among Christians. Divorce rates are just as high as non-Christian families, but no one wants to talk about this. It's too shameful to admit. When sexual issues are brought up it is always restricted to pornography addiction or infidelity targeted right at men. And the male bashing goes on even in the body of Christ. It is estimated 60% of married men cheat, but 40% of married women cheat too. It is an issue for both sides. If we could just get this out into the open and confess it and get help for it, maybe less would stumble over it. FINALLY, someone addresses it so others don't have to suffer alone in the shadows and wonder, "What is wrong with me?" (MX)  Finally! Finally someone is willing to be honest and talk about this issue. The weaknesses of self-control and sexual intimacy among women goes completely unspoken in the church. I know women are suffering from it. I know there are affairs happening even among Christians. Divorce rates are just as high as non-Christian families, but no one wants to talk about this. It’s too shameful to admit.

When sexual issues are brought up it is always restricted to pornography addiction or infidelity targeted right at men. And the male bashing goes on even in the body of Christ. It is estimated 60% of married men cheat, but 40% of married women cheat too. It is an issue for both sides. If we could just get this out into the open and confess it and get help for it, maybe less would stumble over it. FINALLY, someone addresses it so others don’t have to suffer alone in the shadows and wonder, "What is wrong with me?"

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