Remember that they are being lied to also ~ by the enemy. Lies beget lies and it will be like peeling an onion to finally get to the truth. It will, and has to be, an act of you loving Christ enough to help the lying spouse.

If you catch your spouse in a lie, do not react. Say, "You lied." Simple. Say, "I want our relationship to be one that is defined by absolute trust. It’s amazing when there is at least one person you can truly, truly trust." Then, offer a period of "amnesty" where he or she can come clean with all lies still out there. Try and rebuild from there. If they keep lying, keep calmly saying the same thing and most important, be what you want him or her to be, 100% honest.

Most lying is based on shame and fear, reduce those and truth becomes easier to tell. And of course, forgive, and genuinely.

Then look at yourself and ask why does the spouse choose to lie. Fear, rejection, anger? What areas of their life are unfulfilled. Then decide to accept the person for who they are. That’s what God does. He accepted us all regardless of our faults. Don’t be judgmental. Treat the spouse with the love that God has showed you.

And make boundaries for your situation. If the spouse says they will pick the children up at 4:30, tell them I am going to wait for you until 4:45 and if you are not there by then, we are going to my mother’s house. Make a consequence for the situation. Don’t be spiteful.

What do you really want? Restoration of your marriage? Ask God to help you trust your spouse and help you to be trustworthy. Regardless of how the spouse has acted, you are the one who has to be the bigger person. Yes, I know you want to fight, be mad and hold things against them but if you let go and let God, you will see His manifested glory. May God bring you peace to your situation and restore the years that the locust has stolen, in Jesus’ name. Amen.

From then on this whole other man started to come out and now that we have been married for a few years now I’am starting to see that maybe he doesn’t really love me as much as he says he does.My parents are from Benin and my husband is from Ghana. My father tells me to pray, my mom says to fast and pray it will be okay.

Now that I’m with child I am starting to see that he cannot tell me the truth, to protect me (I guess) he just keeps lying to me it seems.I pray and pray and pray but maybe I’m not praying right,cause it feels as though God at times does not hear my cries.

Be open and tell him/her when you find out he/she is lying, that is: walk in the light. Your pretense that you have not known if she/he is lying is also lying on your side. That is you are lying that you don’t know while you know. By telling the truth, you are helping yourself and your partner. Above all, learn to take responsibility of your actions by facing the reality and then wait patiently for your partner to follow your example. God bless you.

Praying together before bedtime and when the day starts would help. There is also a need of reflection once in while of the household goings. This may raise a suspicious topic and may resolve things more smoothly even if the worst of things were to come up.

I was entangled to lying since childhood. After growing up in a broken home, there was a lot of lying to be done to get some things working. The family was an outcast in the hood due to the fights that usually erupted at home and no parent wanted their kids to play with us. To be accepted in some circles (even at school) we sometimes had to lie about ourselves.

This became habitual with time and without knowing we became addicted liars. Now after marriage, I don’t want to lie to my spouse but sometimes I just find myself doing it and regretting immediately after. I have been praying about it but I always find I tend to overstate issues and lie. I sometimes shut off and spend days without talking much to avoid lying. I know it hurts my relations and most importantly my spouse. My spouse often asks me why I lie but I don’t know what to say.

When I meet my friends, I feel like telling them I have lied a lot to them, but, that will mean more broken relations and pain for my spouse.

I know my spouse has been praying for me. I know I am changing but what do I do about the lies made in the past? How do I relate to people now? I don’t know what to say to friends anymore. My spouse cross-checks everything I say to them. I find it difficult to say anything to them now.

This made me resent my dad a lot. It made me hate the family I was born in. It made me hate myself. I find it difficult to appreciate anything I do.

He has become an addicted liar. I can do nothing but trust that the Lord will reach his heart. I have tried everything humanly possible to win him back (he came home once and has gone again) and it does not work. He does not love me anymore. I pray everyday for him and will leave the matter in Gods hands. To all you ladies out there suffering from the same problem I say "We can not win our husbands back on our own; it does not work. Give yourself and the matter to God. He is the only one with the power to change HEARTS"