In fact that is testament to the exact opposite and actually feeds indirectly the so-called myth, if indeed it still is one, that women can’t think for themselves and need men to do everything for them. Some would even dare to reason that if a woman has to be dealt with as a child, then she’s good for little else than the stereo-typical roles of child-bearing/rearing and housekeeping.

You know, I’ve always relished the opportunity to ask a church elder or pastor, because they’re almost the worst culprits for spreading this doctrine I think, to describe the man from God’s perspective, and not from a woman’s. Why do men think and act the way they do? Tell me, what was God’s intention when he made men logical and women emotional, generally? It’s quite amazing how women, after claiming superior intelligence, fail to realize that NO HUMAN BEING can be productive in any sense when you bash them, belittle them, judge them. But like you said, Tony, this demonization of men is propagated by even the Church.

I tell you, it’s the Satanic, feminist movement scoring lethal success in the Church of Christ. The men now are being reconfigured, to detriment of all of mankind because we’re messing with the original design, to match the women, who refuse to be mature enough to take responsibility for their own foolishness and mistakes. No, I’m not in any way justifying us men, or making excuses, or even trying to avoid the issue. We do our fair share. But it’s gone simply TOO FAR! If all responsibility is left to one party we fight an already lost battle. The one for our marriages and families.

Dear God, if only spiritual leaders would begin to stop towing the line of the common and thoroughly twisted beliefs about marriage and get back to the basics of scripture! Otherwise, we’re like Israel who demanded a king “just to be like all the other nations round about them”, instead of being content in the leadership God Himself had established for them.

You know, Tony, I made a decision not too long ago to stop encouraging or even tolerating immature behavior, emotional irresponsibility and self-righteous attitudes in women. I’m most certainly NOT a misogynist, but many men are because of this very issue. The bachelor club in the developed world is burgeoning, and only getting bigger. To the extent that so many things are changing to suit the alternate lifestyle of bachelor, from accommodation to recreation. Sadly, even in the Church, there is an increasing number of bachelors and the divorce and separation rates supersede those in secular society. We foolish Galatians, who’s bewitched us? What we started in the Spirit shall we now continue in the flesh?!

Well, my anecdote is I couldn’t get Focus on the Family, Dr Dobson’s outfit to provide a solution to my now ex-wife’s affair. They wouldn’t approach her, it wouldn’t be right for them to confront her they said. When asked about why so much attention on Gay Marriage, so much that their emphasis seemed to 100x greater against Same Sex Marriage as it was in their legal efforts to end No Fault Divorce.

I’m sorry, Dr Dobson misses the boat here if he’s saying men are to blame for what women are choosing to do or not to do. I find it hard to read him saying we need to be there for our wives when I could find little or no evidence that he was there when I approach FOTF for assistance in ending my ex-wife’s affair and getting her back into the church and into some sort of session to deal with any marital dissatisfaction she had.

I’m sorry, the problem is not with husbands who are failing, but with churches and para-church organizations that for the past two or three decades have demonized men, held up women as victims, and largely ignored the truth.

I’ve heard Dr Dobson on the radio saying men have to step up. He has guests who say men need to stop abandoning their families, which flies in the face of the facts the 2/3s to 3/4s of all divorces are filed by women, not men.

From what I’ve experienced, not to mention what Dr Willard Harley has learned, the women choosing divorce are not those who are abused, or betrayed. Nope, he can’t convince those women to divorce.

So why all the talk about men need to step up? Why all the talk about men need to be there? Men are not the ones leaving. Yet once again, it’s the man is bad and the woman is a victim script plays out once again.

When will we as believers stand for the truth, and not a secular lie that is carried by those who claim the banner of Christ?