It’s amazing how complicated communicating with each other can be! We say something or infer something to our husbands and yet it flies right over their heads, or it doesn’t hold the same meaning for them as it does for us and then the misunderstandings begin!

Does that mean that they’re dense when it comes to communication? No. It may be YOUR communication isn’t always clear to them, but it doesn’t mean ALL communication comes out that way. And it doesn’t mean that you can’t find ways to bridge those misunderstandings. It just means you have to learn more about each other in order to make things work out better.

When one man read the article we’re going to refer you to read, he took it as if the author were saying that men were less intelligent and less capable of communicating —which isn’t the point of this article at all! And that’s not true at all. It just means that we speak and perceive things differently from each other. And different isn’t bad or less intelligent —it’s just different!

The same is true in the reverse. Men can talk to us (or not talk to us) and we attach different meanings to what they’re trying to communicate.

Why is it that we seem on the same “page” sometimes (especially before marriage) and different other times? That’s really unclear. Part of the reason could be that sometimes you’re able to have the ability to do things for a “season” but you can’t do it over the long haul —you resort back to your original strength eventually. Does that mean that a person can never change from their original “strength?” No. We can all grow. But sometimes it takes intentionality and sometimes we may never grow much beyond a certain point and we need help to go the rest of the distance. But together as a team —giving each other grace and space, it’s amazing what can be accomplished. As the Bible says in Ecclesiastes 4:9-10,

“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend (or spouse) can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!”

So, how do we “de-code” this mysterious difference between our communication styles? The following article we recommend you read won’t give you all the answers —only God Himself knows that! But this is a good start. Keep in mind that:

“There could be a very good reason why your husband doesn’t hear what you’re saying. There’s new medical research which reveals why this could be, and what to do about it.”

To read this article:

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Please Note: This article appears on the web site for a secular magazine. Although it isn’t written specifically for the Christian audience, it contains good information that we feel you might find helpful. As with any information, just glean whatever you feel will apply to your situation.

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