It seems like everywhere you turn, whether it’s in the media or in person, when women get together, husband and male bashing is a common thing today! It’s not uncommon to hear women complaining about their husbands — what their husbands DID do that aggravated them and what they DIDN’T do that also made them flustered. And that wouldn’t be so bad if that’s all there was to it because after-all, as human beings we DO frustrate each other. But when it goes beyond that first step… hmmm…

It can seem “fun” at the moment when you’re with other women to make “sport” of a husband who aggravates and bewilders you. The conversation usually starts out somewhat innocent. But then it goes into the direction of: “what was he thinking when he did (or said)…?” And often it doesn’t stop there. It spirals down into demeaning and making fun of him as a man and/or a husband and also sometimes as a thinking human being.

I’ve listened to and have been in on some of those conversations (and very regrettably in the past have even participated in the fervor of the moment) with other women!

Talking together as women who need help and empathy from other women to get through a situation with their husbands in a more positive way, and husband bashing are entirely two different situations.

The “talking together as women who need help” falls into line with Titus 2 and also Ephesians 4:29, but husband bashing doesn’t. It tells us in the Bible,

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”

Some women say it’s all innocent because they don’t mean anything serious by it, and after-all, “if you don’t laugh about it, you’ll probably cry.” And that may be true. But it’s different when it goes over the line.

And if we’re really honest, we know where that line is to be drawn — whether something we say about our husbands is “helpful” or not and whether or not it’s “wholesome” to those who listen (and to the one doing the talking).

To explore this further, we’re providing links to two different articles which you can read, on this subject. The first is posted on the web site for Marriage Partnership Magazine and the second is posted on the web site for Today’s Christian Woman.

These articles have sure helped me in positive ways and I pray you will find them helpful to read also. To do so, click onto the links provided below:

• HUSBAND BASHING

• MALE BASHING

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