I will not give up, give in,
give out, nor give over
’til the healing takes place.
I made a vow; I said the words; I gave the pledge.
I gave a ring; I took a ring; I gave myself.
I trusted GOD, and said the words, and meant the words:
in sickness and in health,
in sorrow and in joy,
for better or for worse,
for richer or for poorer,
in good times and in bad…
so NOW I am STANDING.
I will NOT sit down, let down, slow down,
calm down, fall down, look down nor be down
’til the BREAKDOWN is TORN DOWN!
I refuse to put my eyes on outward circumstances,
or listen to prophets of doom.
I will not buy into what is trendy, worldly, popular,
convenient, easy, quick,
thrifty, or advantageous.
Nor will I settle for a cheap imitation of God’s real thing.
I will not seek to lower God’s standard,
twist God’s will, rewrite God’s word,
violate God’s covenant,
or accept what God hates—which is namely… divorce!
In a world of filth, I will stay pure.
Even though surrounded by lies I will speak the truth.
Where hopelessness abounds,
I will hope in GOD.
Where revenge is easier, I will bless instead of curse;
and where the odds are stacked against me,
I will trust in God’s faithfulness.
I am a STANDER,
and I will not acquiesce, compromise, quarrel or quit…
I have made the choice.
I have set my face, entered the race, believed the Word,
and TRUSTED GOD for the outcome.
I will allow neither the reaction of my spouse,
nor the urging of my friends,
the advice of my loved ones,
economic hardship,
nor the prompting of the devil
to make me let up, slow up, blow up, or give up
UNTIL MY MARRIAGE IS HEALED.
The above poem is featured on the Home page of www.rejoiceministries.org which is the web site for Rejoice Ministries. This web site, and their entire ministry, is designed to encourage and give hope to those who are standing in the gap believing God for a miracle in their marriages. They supply its reader’s more than 18 pages of testimonies of restored marriages and over 72 pages where you’re able to read individual letters of praise to God for answers to prayer and testimonies of God’s faithfulness through the various difficulties they’ve encountered in their marriages and families.
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(USA) I am a stander! Blessed be the power of the blood of Jesus that covers my marriage today. I am a Stander!
(RSA) Amen to that!
(USA) Hello, I have a issue because I have been separated twice. We currently are separated again due to not getting along and financial stress. When we separated I didn’t know who this man was anymore that I married. What I didn’t understand is when a man and woman are separated, things are totally different in getting back together. My husband wouldn’t even speak to me, only through text messages. It has been a 1 year as of 8/31/2008. I wonder everyday if he will file for a legal separation or even a divorce. I don’t want a divorce so that’s why I won’t file. Do you think I should just file for the divorce and stop waiting?
(UNITED STATES) All children are unique and respond differently to divorce. Depending on the nature of the child – age, emotional maturity, happiness, resiliency to trauma – the easier to more difficult it will be for children to accept a divorce.
(USA) No do not file for d*v*rc*! God hates d*v*rc* and so do you. Keep praying and standing for your marriage. Use this time that he is away to get closer to Jesus. Lean only on Him and do not listen to those that follow society’s norm of moving on. Let God change your heart and then ask Him to let your spouse get to see the changes in you. He will start coming around more if he sees that you are not the contentious woman he left behind. Do not let the circumstances dictate your decisions. Keep your eyes on Him. I speak to you from the same situation and I forgave my husband and I only see the my mistakes and they are many. At first I prayed to God to change him and one day He showed me that I needed to change and allow God to work on my dead marriage. It will be worth the wait.
Sincerely
(USA) I and my husband have problems having a child naturally and we had planned in IVF and adopting if it did not work. My husband lost his job, we had to forclose on our house because we will not be able to afford it and it will affect the time of our plan for IVF.
I got frustrated and he did too and we start arguments and he wanted to leave with everything and I called the police to stop him from doing that and he has a hard time letting that go even now that we are trying to work things out. I am a christain and I believe GOD hates divorce but I am human and I worry if my husband will ever forgive me for going to the extend of call the police on him. He belives I wanted to get him locked up because I said I was scared when he kicked the coffee table down. Please for a christain advice on this . Thanks
(USA) My husband does not live at home right now & has filed for d*v*r*e. I also hate the word so won’t even write it. Very little communication from him, although we still go to the same church & he still attends. We are both Christians, so this is not an option to me at all. Please pray for restoration. Any encouraging words would be welcomed.
(UNITED STATES) 6 years ago I "stumbled" upon this website and printed off this prayer. I’m back again because I am standing with two of my friends for their marriages.
In 2003, I learned that my husband was having an inappropriate relationship with another woman. I was very upset because I could see that things would have continued to progress if I hadn’t found him out. I was hurt because he tried to deceive me and was willing to put our whole family on the line for selfish pleasures. So I kicked him out. I even went so far as to get a dog so that my children (then 7 and 9) would remember this period as "the time we got the dog" rather than "the time when Daddy left."
But then I decided that I was going to fight for my marriage – not let the devil just walk up in MY home, steal MY family, leave MY kids without a father, leave ME a single mother and give MY husband to another woman! I had prayed for this man, invested a lot in this marriage, and I didn’t want another woman to reap the benefits of MY hard labor. I DON’T THINK SO! I stood on this prayer for weeks – months. I had it taped to the back of my medicine cabinet door, I remember standing there saying the words, crying because I didn’t even know if I believed them as I was saying them, but I didn’t have anything else to stand on but the Word because there was literally NOTHING ELSE I could depend on. And when I tell you God moved on my marriage!
I used to think that the best thing God could do was let me get a divorce and give me a new husband. Well, he did give me a new husband, but I didn’t have to get a divorce, tear my family apart, take my kids through all those changes. He took the old husband I had and made him into a new man. (He also changed me, too, by the way.) So whatever you do – don’t give up on your marriage. Stand for it and watch God move. If you give this to Satan, what will he take next? This is a war, my brothers and sisters. Don’t hand over your family – fight for it and don’t settle for less than God’s best!
(US) I’m also standing for the restoration of my marriage. I’s been 2 1/2 months since my husband announced "we’re just not getting along, I’m done". And then he left. This is our second separation. And it is so hard.
We have 2 children 7 & 8. It’s also very painful for my children as well. They want their daddy home just as much as I want..if not more. But I do know the Lord wants to do work in me first. This is very difficult for me, but I have to admit our marriage hasn’t always been an easy one.
I was very controlling, bitter-mean,unhappy(mainly with myself),jealous, trusting issues,etc. Not exactly a Godly wife. It’s a struggle with the lack of communication between us. Very little to none. As far as our kids are concerned, they see him maybe once every two weeks. It’s rough. We have been married for 9 1/2 yrs. And I can’t help but wonder is there hope for us?
(US) Hang in there Theresa… I will be praying for you!