I will not give up, give in,
give out, nor give over
’til the healing takes place.
I made a vow; I said the words; I gave the pledge.
I gave a ring; I took a ring; I gave myself.
I trusted GOD, and said the words, and meant the words:
in sickness and in health,
in sorrow and in joy,
for better or for worse,
for richer or for poorer,
in good times and in bad…
so NOW I am STANDING.
I will NOT sit down, let down, slow down,
calm down, fall down, look down nor be down
’til the BREAKDOWN is TORN DOWN!
I refuse to put my eyes on outward circumstances,
or listen to prophets of doom.
I will not buy into what is trendy, worldly, popular,
convenient, easy, quick,
thrifty, or advantageous.
Nor will I settle for a cheap imitation of God’s real thing.
I will not seek to lower God’s standard,
twist God’s will, rewrite God’s word,
violate God’s covenant,
or accept what God hates—which is namely… divorce!
In a world of filth, I will stay pure.
Even though surrounded by lies I will speak the truth.
Where hopelessness abounds,
I will hope in GOD.
Where revenge is easier, I will bless instead of curse;
and where the odds are stacked against me,
I will trust in God’s faithfulness.
I am a STANDER,
and I will not acquiesce, compromise, quarrel or quit…
I have made the choice.
I have set my face, entered the race, believed the Word,
and TRUSTED GOD for the outcome.
I will allow neither the reaction of my spouse,
nor the urging of my friends,
the advice of my loved ones,
economic hardship,
nor the prompting of the devil
to make me let up, slow up, blow up, or give up
UNTIL MY MARRIAGE IS HEALED.
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(UNITED STATES) I too have been standing for 1 year. My husband has filed but has not pursued the divorce. He continues to say he does not want the marriage and that I should move on. He continues to ask for things out of the house but never comes to get them. I have not talked to him in over two weeks. I have to let go and let God. I continue to pray for his salvation, and his return. I miss him so much still. I have not been able to shut out his face or my love for him. I feel strongly about standing, but I get weary!.
(ZAMBIA) Hi all, It’s really very encouraging for me to read some of the stories of what is happening in so many marriages. The DEVIL is really at work worldwide. Everywhere you read about the same stories.
I want to share my story with you all. My husband and I have been on separation since January this year. He moved out of the house and is staying on his own and is also seeing another woman. Things keep on getting worse everyday, he has stopped supporting the kids and has even stopped communicating to me in any way. He brought a phone for the kids which he uses whenever he wants to talk to them. He has stopped calling using my phone. He even called me to tell me that he wasted the years we spent together. We have two children together aged 7 and 2 years.
I believe that for anything to happen, there must be a purpose. The Lord knows why this is happening to me and everyone else. Nothing happens by chance or by accident. I urge you all to hold on to God’s promises and look up to him for strength and his grace. Also we need to be patient wait upon the Lord’s time because his time is the best. For sure he is seeing the misery and pain that we are going through and has his interest in whatever is happening to us. We should continue praying and never give up. Romans 8:28, Jeremiah 29:11
May God bless you all!
(US STATES) My husband walked in two years ago July 3rd and announced out of the blue that he was not happy and no longer in love with me. He demanded the divorce, which I wish I had fought all the way. Since then, he has been back and forth with the other woman. Our children have been so confused. Well, seven weeks ago he left and just called me to say they were married three weeks ago. We have been together 20 years and I feel that I should continue to stand but family and friends so let go. I could use some encouraging words and prayer. This is definitely one of the hardest things I have ever had to deal with.
(USA) My husband left on labor day of last year and stated that I would never have to worry about him wanting to get back together with me. God has kept me in the midst of this crisis and he is able to get me out of it. I will praise God through every tear because I know that he has a purpose for my life. I am trying to let go of the hurt, but I admit that I still love my husband and that I am against divorce. God has kept me in perfect peace in spite of the pain. I will trust him and hold on to my faith. If my husband is not purposed to come back to me I’ll praise God anyhow.
(US) I too am standing for my marriage. I was told that standing for your marriage is a difficult thing to do, but if I wanted to save my marriage I needed to stand in the gap. It has been a year now, and my husband still refuses to reconcile. He has filed for divorce, and will no longer talk to me. I have left it alone. I find peace in prayer and the rejoiceministries website. I get discouraged at times, and still feel very hurt. I am doing what I am instructed to do as a Christian, and what I read in the Bible and follow Gods instruction, also about older women standing in the gap.
(UNITED STATES) I don’t want to be a statistic in my marriage but my husband wanted to divorce me because he said I did not respect him. I am asking God to help me just work on me and I will pray for His will to be done in my husbands life. As a result of emotional ties to a male friend of mine my husband just “knew” we were sleeping together, but it wasn’t so.
My Pastor warned me to close the door but my hurt was so deep from the hard way my husband would talk to me I believed he never loved me and that was all I knew. I didn’t understand that he had a problem with communication. When he said he wanted to leave me, he had been saying that for years without me having an affair. Then the day came when he insulted me too many times I thought and I asked him to leave.
He left the state and then asked for a divorce. We are in the proceedings now. As a result to the hurt, confusion and the absence of a husband, I found myself then and only then seeking companionship. However we are still married and I don’t know why he just wanted to blame his frustration in the marriage all on me. I say it was the cowards way out of what he could not fix or understand.
(RSA) Hi Sisters, I have found out about you today and I really appreciate it coz I know it’s been the Holy Ghost leading me towards you. One thing I know is that there is work in progress in us. God is dealing with us though it so painful. Let’s fight the good fight.
(USA) I am so thankful for reaching this site today. On July 11, 2009 I told my Husband to move out because he disappeared for about 5 hours one day and refused to tell me where he went. I knew it in my heart it wasn’t good. Anyway I found proof after he had moved back to his moms. But the proof ended up being a stupid cover up; he ended up meeting with his best friend’s wife who came into town. They both knew neither spouse would understand but I believed it was plutonic. It took him 6 weeks to tell me but I finally felt better.
So I decided I really didn’t have grounds for divorce then I get a bank statement in the mail a few weeks later and see he’s joined a dating website and then I see all these restaurants and movies and entertainment places on the statement, places he refused to take me because it was always too crowded or too far. My heart sank… he was dating while we were separated. Needless to say he admitted to it and said since I told him we were divorcing and kicked him out he just wanted to see what was out there but nothing is going on romantically.
To make a really long story short I am still holding onto the divorce papers and I just found out that I am 4 weeks pregnant from him (we feel more comfortable being intimate with each other, yeah I know he has it made). We had been praying and trying for a baby from November, 2008 until I kicked him out in July, 2009. Now we are about to have our second child in 10 years and I am so happy, blessed and distraught.
We have fought so much this entire time and I have cried so many hopeless tears for these past few months. I know I was horrible with my drinking, mood swings and accusations but all I wanted was the romantic marriage everyone else had where they at least went somewhere together once a week, a “date night”. I just wanted the truth and for him to stop being on so many social networking sites without my knowledge… I had all this pain bottled up inside and he never wanted to talk about it and kept incessantly lying to me about stupid things. Anyway, I pray for all of you and stand with you… Please stand with me as I keep hearing/feeling something within me saying it is really over… let him go. I just need to know if that’s God!
(CHINA) Dear sisters in Christ, Your story moves me. I have a solution. I had a similar situation like you, I set my mind on the Word of God, showed my love to my man, and God will changed his heart for me. I believe, God will restore your relationship.
(MUSKOGEE) I am standing for my marriage. My husband wants a divorce and I don’t I love my husband very much. I was married before to a abusive man. When i got with my new husband i put up a wall so that i could never be hurt again. Instead i hurt my husband. Now i want so bad to have his love back but is heart is hurting. I tell him everyday that i love him and i am sorry, but he acts like he doesn’t even hear me. What can i do to make him understand that i love him and want our marriage to last?