We have her in counseling and hoping this helps. I am standing in my faith and God. I will not give her a divorce and place this truly in God’s hands. I thank you so much for your resource and have put a link to your site from my page http://www.troubledmarriage.org to help others.

I Love this women with all my heart and will continue to fight for her.

I got married through pressure and fear, which I take responsibily of, but my heart is broken, and my husband and I don’t know what to do. This is my second marriage and his third marriage, and I feel that we should stay committed for the sake of our children. Any encouragement would be appreciated.

This marriage is ending and he wants out. I should have accepted his chornic use of marajuana and stop bugging him so much and maybe we would not be in this position. I feel like it is all my fault. I’m so scared of what comes next. I do not have addictions and I should have been more understanding to his. God, I’m so hurt, what do I do now?

I said that to my husband because of the pain his actions had left me in… see on our second wedding anniversary he confessed to me that he had a sexual addiction. During our whole relationship he had been going into mens public toilets and receiving oral sex from strangers, the devastation which followed was indescribable. We’re still in the process of trying to recover but we are just at the begining of that journey.

When I told him “I love you, but I’m not in in love with you”, I meant it, because I just could not feel any love in the middle of all my pain, and to be in love with him was no where within me.
What I had to do was to learn what love actually was, as it states in the above article, and to realise that actually so many people are not “in love” but loving each other every day which is soooooooooo much better.

I love my husband beyond what I can even describe, so to say I’m in love with him is just an understatement. I will love him and continue to love him till my Lord Jesus calls me home, so please don’t just think that because someone says those words they’re out there having an affair. Unfortunately yes, that is the case, but even for those who are having affairs there is a great deal of pain behind those words, and some times it’s the only way to express how they’re feeling.

I’m so sorry for what your ex-wife did to you, I more than anyone know the pain of betrayal and how empty that leaves you. What I wish people would do is to work on their marriages instead of deciding “well, I’m not in love anymore therefore it’s not worth staying” and to make it worse to run into the arms of another man. I just hope that your experience will not leave your heart closed for your future love life, may God bless you in every way

BTDT, I heard these words from my ex-wife and sure enough, she was in an affair with a married man. The more I researched, the more I learned this is part of the wayward script.

If they are in an affair, none of the tips from any of these fine folks will help unless the spouse speaking those words ends the affair. Since you cannot do that for your spouse, you have to hope they will end the affair instead of ending the marriage.

I don’t intend to be a kill joy. However, I do want to paint a realistic picture. Most guys who hear these words will end up divorced because their wives have closed their hearts to them and opened their hearts to another man.