Comments on: Improving Your Husband

By: Lo

Lo — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 16:45:32 +0000

(USA) Hi Ivaline, Thanks for the encouraging post. It’s true we should keep the position assigned to us by God as different sexes. It does not mean God loves another sex better than the other but it’s the order of things. It’s evident just by looking at the world’s current disorder that our own human efforts in the name of equality have caused malfunction in many respects.

I know my husband doesn’t make the best of choices in some things, but who does? We are all imperfect but God is our creator and made an arrangement of how a family should operate. Stepping out of God’s will maybe be a “faster” or “cleverer” way of doing things but it will come back to haunt you and you wonder “what did ? do wrong?”

It’s better to take years and years to have your prayers answered than do it the quicker way disobeying God. Patience is important. It hurts me to to watch myself or other people being taken advantage of by their spouses, but suffering to prove the word of God true, is more important to me.

By: Ivaline

Ivaline — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 12:40:16 +0000

(KENYA) Eric may call it ‘ancient’, but in marriage I believe that if we go back to the ‘ancient’ basics then we wouldn’t have the troubles we are facing today in marriage. Right from Eden, the man was given his place and the woman too. More so, as women, we either build or break our homes just like Proverbs 31 says. The phrase “If he’s going to be irresponsible as a husband, then I’m going to be irresponsible as a wife” is actually challenging to me. How can one concede defeat and let everything go down knowingly?

And come on sisters, we have the power in our very hands to turn around these mens hearts and get our way more often than not. This is the best article ever. It’s very sound advice and I have seen it work in my neighbours house. She respected and took in all his late nights for years until he came to realize that what he was looking for outside had actually been living in his house for nine years. With God, all things are possible. Amen.

By: Lo

Lo — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 15:03:22 +0000

(USA) Thandi, Amen to that!! I am so encouraged. I have done that too and I promise you, this is an investment for your marriage and God’s Kingdom. It can’t get any better than that. The Bible says humble yourself before the Lord and he will lift you up in due season. The Holy Spirit helps us do things we can’t do by our sinful nature.

Let’s dedicate all we do as unto the Lord regardless of how our spouses treat us. If I need to cry, I cry to my God in prayer and He who sees me in private will reward me.

Continue reading the Bible my sister, it puts everything into perspective. Its the greatest comfort you can ever get.

By: Thandi

Thandi — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 11:34:09 +0000

(SOUTH AFRICA) I thank God for finally opening my eyes and giving me a new heart and a new way of looking at my husband. I have just prayed that, Lord I will do anything that you say I must do to make my marriage bring glory to your name. If I have to change I will change whether my husband changes or not. By God’s grace I will hold on to my word. The Holy Spirit will teach me all things, He will help me to persevere when things get tough and my husband doesn’t respond the way that I would like Him to.

Now I vow to support him, to love him, to encourage him, to respect him and to honor him. I have just confessed all that I have done to make things worse in my marriage and as if scales were removed from my eyes, I started seeing all the good attributes that my husband has and started blessing and thanking God for them. I thank Jesus that He has taken a proud heart out of me and gave me a heart of love for my husband.

I will do whatever it takes to give my husband a virtuous and joyful wife whether he sees it or appreciates it or not. I will do God’s will whatever it takes… I will not wait for my husband to change anymore I will do the changing myself.

The Lord has given me every spiritual gift pertaining to life, I am a new creature in Christ. I am dead to sin and now Jesus lives in me. I will be Jesus’ hands, feet, heart no matter what it costs me, starting at home. No nagging, no criticizing, no complaining, no judging,no self righteousness, no correcting all the time and putting down in the name of Jesus. All these are sins as well and I confess them and repent from them in the name of Jesus. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

Thank you for the article and the website I have been coming to it for counsel almost everyday for more than a year now,now at last my eyes are opened. I thank God for this… In faith I confess that He has restored my marriage and saved me and my husband.He is our precious Saviour YESTERDAY,TODAY AND FOREVER.

Whoever reads this I encourage you to ask God to change you and make you an agent of peace and reconciliation in your marriage.The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective… Praise be to Jesus.

By: Lo

Lo — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 17:19:33 +0000

(USA) Great article. Sometimes we really have to do the best we can. If a husband has to improve, I guess a good atmosphere at home would encourage him and give him less things to worry about. If I do my part, he will be encouraged to do his. Let us overlook offenses and let our spouses be. Allow him to be comfortable in his own home then he will spend more time there.

By: MJ

MJ — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 06:06:57 +0000

(CANADA) It’s always the blame of the wife -always!!! Men need to take responsibility too.

By: Eric

Eric — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 14:42:00 +0000

(SINGAPORE) As you put it, it’s "ancient advice". I wonder how many wives will heed it. And even if they do, how many husbands will notice it? It probably takes lots of patience and perseverance for the wives to do so.