Comments on: In-Laws or Outlaws? – Marriage Message #78 http://www.marriagemissions.com/in-laws-or-outlaws-marriage-message-78/ a Christian Marriage Website Sat, 21 Nov 2009 10:11:26 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.3 hourly 1 By: Cindy Wright http://www.marriagemissions.com/in-laws-or-outlaws-marriage-message-78/comment-page-1/#comment-3758 Cindy Wright Mon, 01 Jun 2009 22:33:13 +0000 http://marriagemissions.net/in-laws-or-outlaws-marriage-message-78/#comment-3758 (USA) Hi Vicky, I've been praying about responding to your comment, but I would like to ask a few questions first, if I may. You say in what you've written the reasons why your husband married you, but I feel a need to ask you why YOU married him? You say your husband is a "church goer" -- what about your relationship with God... is it deeper... are you a follower of Jesus Christ? And if so, how long have you been a follower? And are your parents followers of Christ? Your answers may color my answers a different way one way or the other, as the Lord leads. Thanks for writing. I am praying for you and for anyone else who may respond to your comments. (USA) Hi Vicky, I’ve been praying about responding to your comment, but I would like to ask a few questions first, if I may. You say in what you’ve written the reasons why your husband married you, but I feel a need to ask you why YOU married him? You say your husband is a “church goer” — what about your relationship with God… is it deeper… are you a follower of Jesus Christ? And if so, how long have you been a follower? And are your parents followers of Christ? Your answers may color my answers a different way one way or the other, as the Lord leads. Thanks for writing. I am praying for you and for anyone else who may respond to your comments.

]]> By: Vicky http://www.marriagemissions.com/in-laws-or-outlaws-marriage-message-78/comment-page-1/#comment-3753 Vicky Mon, 01 Jun 2009 11:13:20 +0000 http://marriagemissions.net/in-laws-or-outlaws-marriage-message-78/#comment-3753 (SOUTH AFRICA) I have a husband and we have serious arguments when it comes to his family. He always wants after church to visit his parents, since 2002 till now. I've been complaining about this and it seems he doesn't understand why this is tiring me. His parents are not saved and even he is not a believer, but a church goer. My husband is Venda by culture/tradition and recently he said he married me for his family, "to please his family." On the other hand he said he loves me. We have 2 kids and got married 2001, started staying at his parents as they required and my hubby agreed. Finally I pushed that we get a house and we moved out after a year (2002). My husband adores his mother. The day will never pass before he talks to her. He buys them presents and lots of things. Recently he wanted to give his mother a car. We have 3 cars and I refused as I have seen that most of the things are going to his parents unlike my parents. Please tell me how to deal with this as I tried to explain to him that we should go 50/50 when it comes to our parents, but he doesn't understand that. He never bought anything for my mom. Am I selfish or what? I prayed for God to help me but it seems like I'm developing a resentful attitude toward my in-laws. Your comment will be much appreciated! (SOUTH AFRICA) I have a husband and we have serious arguments when it comes to his family. He always wants after church to visit his parents, since 2002 till now. I’ve been complaining about this and it seems he doesn’t understand why this is tiring me. His parents are not saved and even he is not a believer, but a church goer.

My husband is Venda by culture/tradition and recently he said he married me for his family, “to please his family.” On the other hand he said he loves me. We have 2 kids and got married 2001, started staying at his parents as they required and my hubby agreed. Finally I pushed that we get a house and we moved out after a year (2002).

My husband adores his mother. The day will never pass before he talks to her. He buys them presents and lots of things. Recently he wanted to give his mother a car. We have 3 cars and I refused as I have seen that most of the things are going to his parents unlike my parents.

Please tell me how to deal with this as I tried to explain to him that we should go 50/50 when it comes to our parents, but he doesn’t understand that. He never bought anything for my mom. Am I selfish or what? I prayed for God to help me but it seems like I’m developing a resentful attitude toward my in-laws. Your comment will be much appreciated!

]]> By: Kelly and Robert http://www.marriagemissions.com/in-laws-or-outlaws-marriage-message-78/comment-page-1/#comment-3594 Kelly and Robert Fri, 15 May 2009 02:54:07 +0000 http://marriagemissions.net/in-laws-or-outlaws-marriage-message-78/#comment-3594 (FLORIDA) THANK YOU SOOOOO MUCH!!!!! This really came to me by way of the Holy Spirit. What great advice to help us along this journey as Christians. Thank you for being such a blessing. May the lord bless you with all his Glory! (FLORIDA) THANK YOU SOOOOO MUCH!!!!! This really came to me by way of the Holy Spirit. What great advice to help us along this journey as Christians. Thank you for being such a blessing. May the lord bless you with all his Glory!

]]> By: Ramasiba http://www.marriagemissions.com/in-laws-or-outlaws-marriage-message-78/comment-page-1/#comment-2656 Ramasiba Fri, 06 Feb 2009 23:40:00 +0000 http://marriagemissions.net/in-laws-or-outlaws-marriage-message-78/#comment-2656 (LESOTHO) I believe in Godly marriage and would like to help others grow in that. (LESOTHO) I believe in Godly marriage and would like to help others grow in that.

]]> By: Patrick http://www.marriagemissions.com/in-laws-or-outlaws-marriage-message-78/comment-page-1/#comment-281 Patrick Tue, 18 Dec 2007 22:03:51 +0000 http://marriagemissions.net/in-laws-or-outlaws-marriage-message-78/#comment-281 (CANADA)  Thank you, Steve and Cindy! Great advice! (CANADA)  Thank you, Steve and Cindy! Great advice!

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