Comments on: Little Secrets that Destroy – Marriage Message #54

By: S R

S R — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 04:18:26 +0000

(South Africa) Wow, this is an interesting and inspiring article indeed Guys. I recently suffered a real heart ache when I found out that my husband bought a cell phone secretly and was using it to chat with some other lady. He claims they haven’t met, except via these Flirt Connections.

This incident has really torn my heart into pieces and I’ve tried to accept it and move on, but it’s always there, at the back of my head, haunting me. I’m not sure if I still want this marriage or if it’s for the sake of our kids. I even wanted to neglect our marital vows and also do wrong, but I know God doesn’t want that and the below passage really comforted me:

“And serenity of spirit cannot be achieved until we accept full responsibility for our own actions and feelings rather than letting our spouse’s behavior determine how we behave” (from the book “Authentic Marriages” by Jeff and Lora Helton). Much appreciated.

By: K K

K K — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 21:31:08 +0000

I am truly touched by what you guys are saying on the message for today. On Sunday of this week I was at a mall. I went to a clothing shop and I was looking for a trouser for myself and I realized that I did not have a black Mascara. I took it with my hand but, because I did not have time. I had to rush somewhere. I left with a Mascara in my hand. I realized when I was about to get to another shop that I did not pay for it. I just told myself that it’s ok it’s a mistake and I went on and even passed the shop where I got it. I am actually feeling very hurt that I did not lie to anyone else but myself and I am so guilty in front of God. I felt so bad about it, but you know what? I just kept going…

I’ve got little Foxes that I am running around with and I am ignoring it. I really and truly do need your prayers. I am longing to be a woman of integrity. I thought I was and I am totally not, as I cannot be trusted when I am on my own!! Thank you so much guys. You have no idea how much I get encouraged and learn so much after reading all your messages. Keep up the good work and may God bless you in an incredible way. Thank you.

By: Evelyn

Evelyn — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 15:52:46 +0000

(GHANA) Rose, I can imagine what you are going through now but all is not lost. Remember all things work out for the good of those who love the Lord. This is the time when you need to draw closer to God Almighty, who makes all things beautiful in His time, in prayer, feed on His word and be totally dependent on Him. Let Christ Jesus be your best friend now. I pray that God will grant you His grace to persevere in this trying moments that you may discern the promptings of the Holy Spirit. The Lord is your strength and you shall surely have your husband back if you faithfully wait on the Lord. It is well! (Read Habakuk 2:3).

By: C D

C D — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 13:43:24 +0000

(Zimbabwe) This is all very true. I have the benefit of a first hand experience on this. Transparency should act as a deterrent to possible entanglement in what is not right or proper and act as a good nutrient to integrity and character.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 16:15:28 +0000

(ENGLAND) Rose, I am so sorry to hear this. I want to encourage you to keep praying. It is not over. With God all things are possible. I will keep you in my prayers and I know that if you take it to the Lord he is faithful. He will bring you through it.

By: Felicia

Felicia — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 12:30:27 +0000

(NIGERIA) Keep praying to make your marriage work because it is your first ministry.

By: Rose

Rose — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 12:55:37 +0000

(S. AFRICA) This message is so true. My husband has been living in his own “secret world” for 4 years. He has refused to let me in, leaving me feeling unloved and betrayed. I spoke to him so many times but he would not listen. In our case as well the “little foxes” were the computer (chat rooms) and cell phone. He is now in an affair with a women he met on “face book”. She lives in New Zealand far away but that has not stopped them. She flew out to S. Africa for three weeks in December and he has since also flown to New Zealand to be with her for two weeks.

He is presently working overseas on a contract and has told me he will not be coming home again. He wants a divorce. My heart is broken that after 35 years of marriage my husband and best friend could do this to me. It is so hurtful and frustrating as I do not have the opportunity to speak to him face-to-face. He has just run away and is happy to be far away and not have to face me or his family. He has cut all ties. I pray every day to the Lord. Only God has the answer. I am feeling so hurt – Please God show me the solution to this problem.