I have read and heard couples say that they never have time or energy for sex. It is always the LAST item on the to do list. The way I see God’s teaching, in the Bible, on marital sex is that we are to give to our spouse unceasingly. The only difference between a really close friend and a spouse is sex. With a very close friend you share your thoughts, fears, aspirations, and and feelings. Heck, you share everything, except sex. So if you and your spouse are sharing all of the above and are close emotionally but not having a good sexual relationship than, in my opinion, all you have is a close friend as a roommate. Not a spouse. Sex is the deal maker.

Let me interject that if there are areas that are lacking such as sharing, caring and a true interest and concern for you spouse’s well being, then the sexual part of your relationship will suffer. What I had to do, was to correct all the other misguidings in my life before our sexual relationship was able to flourish. I have made the sexual relationship with my wife a priority in our relationship. This is not just in the bedroom but in everything I do and say for her. She is my one and only and I must treat her as such. God’s Blessing, FHG, Rob