All these things -sexual intimacy at the prime makes me more home-sick and heavenward. If you do want it or you are active your spouse is not, thus, you are more prone to temptation. And if you do not want it or pray to God to deaden the passion (as I had one time done) 1. You are not doing the will of God ;"worshiping God" and 2. your wife will be dieing for it by her longing for emotional affection etc. So you see what I mean? Can anyone help me?

Please, pray for our wives and counsel our young girls and ladies to dress well, covering their nakedness.

I also remember that during my pregnancy, it was very difficult for me to make love to my husband as I just did not ‘feel’ it. However, I knew how important it is for my husband to be satisfied sexually. This became even worse after our son was born and there were times where I also thought that I had lost it and was never ever going to desire my husband again. Well, glory to GOD, my desire for my husband was restored and we’re now enjoying a fulfilling sexual relationship that glorifies GOD and it is such and honor for me to be ministering to my husband in that area and to know that I’m satisfying the servant of GOD.

I’d like to encourage my sisters Iva and Nokwanda to at least try. Get yourself the ‘right attire’ to feel good and a right attitude in this area and remember that doing the right thing does not always feel good but the results are always pleasant. Seeing your husband satisfied and your marriage pleasant is worth the sacrifice. Be blessed and thank you for your obedience to GOD and for a wonderful ministry.

I am 8 months pregnant and I have really been struggling to have sex with my my husband during this time. I have gone completely off. He complained a lot and told me that all else may be fine but if i don’t satisfy him, then he doesn’t know what, this being our first child. So I forced myself to get involved, for his own sake because I felt nothing nothing at all until I realised I was just resenting him more and I wouldn’t even let him touch me.

So I told him one night I just could do it, I couldn’t bring myself up to the game. He just kept quiet and that was even worse. I started thinking will he start seeing someone now? Will he stray and I also got scared thinking have I lost it forever? Will it resume after the baby is born? Then I turned and prayed to God. I asked him to see me through this situation, to bring back my feelings towards my husband and that I was not going to lose my husband over such an issue. It has only been two weeks but after staying apart for some time, we have now come back together and it is good. The pace is slower and for sure getting there by God’s grace. I believe after the baby arrives ill go back to my old self.

My story is one of sex addiction that started long before I met my dear wife. I confessed my adulterous behavior to her after I was terminated by a Christian ministry. I did not blame her, but had little to say except that I was guilty of committing many sins against her and against a Holy God. We had been married 24 years up to that point and my wife chose to reconcile with me.

I got into a recovery program and a few years later started a support group for Christian men (like me) who struggle with sexual sin. My dear wife started a support group for the wives. We now facilitate 6 meetings per week with help from others. As full-time marriage missionaries, we minister to about 65 men and 15 wives.

If God can use a sexual sinner like me, he can restore anyone from the depravity of their situation, despite the consequences. By the way, we celebrated our 38th wedding anniversary earlier this year.

The aspect of worship, I truly agree, because, there is an atmosphere of peace, love, steadfastness, which you will not find anywhere else- (for the lack of expressing my self.)

So, ladies, every time, you don’t feel like doing it… do it! And see what happens.

Lindsay, I feel your pain but am the last person to offer advice as I am also in a rut. I am the extreme opposite of you. My husband and I have sexual relations maybe once in three months. I realise that this is wrong and he really wants to be intimate with me but I just don’t feel that way.

As a result our marriage is suffering and we are not as close as we used to be. I have also realised that I have limited God’s power because as much as I pray for everything else in my life, I have neglected to pray for this believing that God has better things to worry about. Sisters please pray with me and for my marriage.

Our friendship grew and our affair started … my husband came to me and said he was having wonderful sex with another woman and we should get divorced, and after much deliberation I agreed – (he started threatening me with divorce about 18 years earlier – we’d been married for 22 years when the divorce became final). Ron had filed for divorce before and decided that December that it was over. So even though we’d both separated from our partners we were still legally married at the time.

Anyway, Ron and I were also drinking heavily together -we got married after living together for two and a half years. Then I stopped drinking – about 5 years ago and since then our marriage has gone downhill. The "blame game" has been going on since then.

Whenever we have an fight (which is quite often) -no matter what the discussion is about he will say "I used to have a wife that came on to me" and I will reply "I had a husband who doted on me – I can’t make love out of nothing" There is just no "interaction" between us during the day and I really battle to "come on to" him at night – he still drinks heavily and comes home drunk many nights. Thanks for your wonderful messages. May God bless you as you continue.

Women often suffer in silence because they feel they have no where to go. They feel they will be judged or even rejected by their Christian women friends. It’s a very difficult situation. It sounds like you may have come upon a good place to share your fears, confusion and struggles safely. Hopefully many will be able to help you find your solid footing again. Just remember that your inner most thoughts and feelings may surprise you, but they do not take God off guard. He is already willing, ready and well prepared to help you through this difficult time. You can count on Him!

I have a several Godly women in my life, but I feel I can’t discuss this with them…b/c it seems as though few women struggle with sexual sin. If I were a guy, I feel as if it would be understandable to discuss with other men, b/c they usually are the one’s who struggle in this area. So, I am not sure what I am doing, but I decided to just write this and send it off.

I know I serve a mighty God who can and WILL do greater things than I can ever know or fathom. If he made the world in 6 days, I know he can heal/restore me of this sin and bless my marriage.

As Christian women, we are excited to learn together what God has to say about sex. We are eager to learn how we can be both Godly and sensuous wives simply by following God’s plan!

We are willing to step out individually and collectively to grow in the knowledge of God and trust Him to teach us the joy of sexual intimacy with our own husbands. We are looking forward to having fun with our husbands and restoring our marriages!!! Thank you for your encouragement and wonderful articles!