In addition there are a lot of articles posted on this website that you and your hubby can read. They can be of great assistance to you. I hope ypu come right. Many blessings.

As far as advising you on this — we can’t really tell you whether you are to “stay in a marriage like that” or not, but instead encourage you to keep praying, asking this question to God. Humanly, I want to tell you to dismiss him totally from your heart and life. But that may not be God’s plan. You need to go with God’s plan… not that of humans.

It appears that your husband is a habitual cheater. Five times of being involved with other women is five times too many when it comes to cheating. It’s not a matter of loving you enough to “leave the other woman” but rather loving you enough NOT to leave your marriage bed in the first place to go to other women time after time. What kind of love is that for him to erase what this does to your heart and to your family so he can satisfy his own temporary pleasure?

Also, what does this type of behavior teach your children about the fidelity that is SUPPOSED to be embraced within marriage? And what if they become orphans because their father brings AIDS into the home because of his infidelity? Everyone thinks this kind of thing will never happen to them, but it does… everyday! Just look around. Your children need to be considered in all of this as well.

The question is more a consideration of your husband’s heart and behavior. Words can be cheap. Is he a cheater by nature? Is his love demonstrated by his actions as well as his words? Is he repentant to God as well as to you? If he is, then he will find ways, with God’s help, to do whatever it takes to make sure he will never stray from his vows to God and to you again.

If you told him that you don’t want him back, would he leave this other woman, with whom he’s been cheating, because he knows it is wrong — whether you are still in his life right now or not? Is he willing to live an honest life before God and his children and you, even if you are at a distance in your relationship?

I would personally make his actions match his words — with signs of integrity. If he can’t show that he is turning his life around FOR A LONG TIME… I would let his actions determine whether I would consider taking him back. If his actions lie… then his words are a lie and he can’t be trusted to remain faithful.

Pray that God will give you wisdom on this. I personally, wouldn’t start thinking divorce at this point… it’s premature. I would pray and see if he becomes a man of integrity when you are separated and then let God tell you if he can be trusted in the future with your heart and the heart of your children again. And then see where all of this leads.

May God guide you and give you wisdom, help and hope for a brighter future. I pray the Lord works within your husband’s heart — not to give him peace of any kind if he is sewing trouble — but help if he turns his life around. I pray the Lord will be a father to your children as you look to Him to help you to do what is right for them as well. I pray the Lord binds up your broken heart and gives you peace despite this horrible situation. May you be blessed despite the pain you have been experiencing. May you personally experience the God of all comfort! Please know you are loved and are being prayed for.