It takes two people to break a marriage. It will be a trying time but God will show you your mistakes and guide you through scripture as to how to be a good husband. God always starts with one person and with a lot of prayer you’ll gain the wisdom that you need to be the husband God intended you to be. Ephesians 5:23-26. Pray really hard and spend time with God. Pray for your wife for God to change her. God is faithful and He restores even the deadest of marriages. Read James 1:2-6. The Bible is your best teacher and comfort. God is a God of second chances. He’ll give you comfort and strength as long as you seek Him with all your heart. You’re in my prayers.

She is in Spain with her brother on a holiday and I pray for her safety. I know there is hope, but we need more than that. Her and I have not placed God as the center of our marriage and without that we are lacking purpose and stability.

Even though there are times when she feels unloved, and perhaps lost in our marriage, I would do anything to restore our love. I do not believe in the “D” word.

I never thought of marriage in my life until I met the one and only. I only want a life with my wife.
She gives me a lot of purpose in life. ~Blessing to you all~ J.

I have been praying & doing all I can do & I know that the rest if up to God. I love my husband very much & I know deep down he still loves me but he cannot see it right now. I don’t know what put these thoughts in his head but I ask you to pray for him to change his mind. I’ve asked God to help get rid of these thoughts in his head & heart. When I see our future I see us together not divorced.

Please, please pray that he changes his mind even if it is at the last minute. I have to have faith that things will get better. I’m not asking God to completely make everything go away, just to help my husband see that divorce is not the way & we can make it together & whatever problems come our way we can handle them together.

Cindy is right we have to LOOK UP, as hard as it is, and trust God to take control. You may think God has abandoned you (I sure feel it at times) but one thing I DO KNOW is that God loves you. You are his child and he will never leave your side. The pain of your husbands betrayal is SO intense; ask me I know. Please do not even think of killing yourself as it will mean Satan has won. Let God deal with your husband and know that nothing you do has the power to CHANGE HIS HEART. Only God can do that through his Holy Spirit.

I will be thinking of you — know that you will be in my prayers. Please keep in contact through this wonderful website and I will be happy to reply. We can help each other get through this. I need you too.

There is hardly a person alive who could read your comment who wouldn’t absolutely understand why the depth of your pain is so deep. To be betrayed by someone you pledged your life and your all to, is SO VERY painful. It’s probably the worst kind of pain there is. And God understands this all too well. He has been betrayed by His bride the church over and over again… and yet He still loves and reaches out to us. It’s amazing love! I pray you will fall into His arms and will share your pain with Him in every way it is possible. He understands and He cares.

Yet even though God understands, He won’t MAKE your husband do what is right. He may talk to his heart and work in ways you and I may not see, but He will still give your husband the freedom to make even wrong choices (but He will make him pay eventually for all the wrong he is doing, at the proper time — not our timing, but God’s). God gives us all that freedom… even those who don’t deserve it. I pray you will trust Him to work in and through you and this situation using His wisdom — letting God be God.

As a sister in Christ to you, I want to tell you that I can well understand your temptation to kill yourself. I would probably entertain the same thoughts… and I have… over other circumstances. But Tanita, all you are doing is giving the enemy of our faith a major victory over this. No matter what the circumstances, God can redeem that which the enemy comes to steal and destroy. I pray you understand this. Your thoughts are to get relief from the pain and probably to “make your husband pay” for the harm he has done. But in reality, if your husband could justify doing this to you, his heart is hardened and he would find a way to justify your death as not being his fault. That’s the sick way the enemy works within.

Please, please, please know that killing yourself will hurt more than it would help. You may find relief from your immediate pain, but you will destroy a life that Christ came to save… you will horribly hurt others around you (especially family, if you have any) and you will hurt the testimony of God that He can save to the uttermost. God may want to use you in the future to help save the life of others who are entertaining what you are right now. Please don’t give into your immediate pain. You are worth too much to allow your life to be wasted like this.

As I said earlier, I entertained killing myself years ago. I came close, as a matter-of-fact. But praise God… I didn’t do it. If I had, most likely Marriage Missions wouldn’t be here and I wouldn’t have been able to get to the other side of my pain to experience freedom and to participate with God in so many amazing ways. And oh, how I would have hurt my family and God!!!

I encourage you Tanita, to pour your heart out to God. You can use the book of Psalms as a guideline to read and pray through whatever comes to mind. Tears are cleansing… don’t be afraid to allow them to flow and cleanse out the toxins that are poisoning your body and spirit. Eventually the tears will give way to little points of being content in whatever circumstances, and eventually joy will break through. I know it doesn’t seem possible, but I’ve seen it over and over again in my life and in many others I know.

And keep praying for someone who is safe to talk to. God promises to supply our every need, so if this is a need… He will reveal that person to you as you seek His help. Keep in mind though, that He may allow you to walk this journey with Him alone for a while if He sees that as the best way. Trust His heart. He won’t betray you.

Also, go into the “Prayer” section — into the “Links and Resource Description” part and take advantage of the prayer ministries we have listed. One of them is in “Maintenance Mode” right now while it is being worked on… but there is still a link provided that you can use. Knock on every door the Lord opens for you. Be careful to guard your heart though… because your heart is vulnerable to fall for things and the ways of those who may not be good for you, because pain can cloud our reasoning. Go with God and tread carefully. He will guard you as you lean upon Him.

Also, there are a few articles that may be good for you to read. They have helped me and many others I know. Please look in the “Mental and Physical Health” section and start by reading the article, “Living in Confidence Because of Who You Are” (and other corresponding articles we provide links for below this one). Allow God to embrace you with His love. You are not junk to be thrown aside. It is tragic that your husband allowed his eyes to be blinded to this fact… but he is pitiable because of it. Anyone who can treat a person like this is blind and dumb and dead to all God created him to be. Please don’t allow his insensitivity and inhumane ways to destroy who you are. Step beyond him and let God deal with him and reach out to God to help you walk in “newness of life” as the Bible talks about. He has a wonderful plan for your life. But for now… you must get through what is immediately obstructing your path.

I pray you will consider what I have written. I’m sure there are many who will read what you wrote who will be praying for you. You will see that I took your phone number out of your letter. I had to do this because of a policy we have at Marriage Missions… but also to protect you. There are some who could call you who might not have pure motives. You have suffered enough. Trust that God will bring people your way through other means that will help you through this painful journey. God is able to keep you.

The Bible says that He is the “lifter of our head.” I pray He will lift your head to see your value because of Christ, He will lift your heart — to live beyond your pain and the circumstances you are now in, and will give you help and hope… that there WILL come a day when your smile and joy will be restored. I am praying for you. May God bless and keep you Tanita. Because of Christ, Cindy

The last few years have been full of warfare and NOW it seems things are not going well. I love my husband, Chris, and call forth his Salvation. He is a King Priest and he has the New Adam birth for him. Lord please don’t let divorce happen..for my children’s sake and the sake of your blood covenant. Lead us to Reconciliation…Lord You want us to be Victorious with you. I need you to send my husband home to me. Cancel this divorce and Cancel this debt and make us marriage missionaries too.

Your covenant is mighty. We need you Jesus. Chris needs you. He needs to know your unconditional Love for him. He needs to know you are so wonderful. Please stand with me those out there on this web for miracles. God Bless all Marriages today. Lord we honor your son and your blood covenant. Marriage is honorable. It is Holy and right. Lord don’t let Mel Gibson divorce…Lord send the marriage missionaries to him. Send your protection. Your blood and Passion over Mel’s marriage. Holy spirit come hover over man and women…Adam and Eve restored. The Eden is now. Your Eden Lord over us. Amen

I want to be in this relationship/marriage with this sister, because the Lord has told me so many things about our life together. The Lord has shown me our future together. Please pray for me to have courage and for our reconciliation. Does it happen that God speaks to one person about a potential relationship, and not mention that to the other partner?

My husband’s name is Daniel, I’m Annie. His own mum is waiting for this relation to break. I don’t know why my husband has completely turned against me, holding a negative mindset on me. I failed every battle that I tried to restore in this marriage.