Comments on: Military Marriages: War of a Broken Heart

By: Tony

Tony — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 18:44:03 +0000

(USA) Denise, let me see if I understand. You are upset that he abandoned you, but it appears you are seeking validation for doing the very same thing.

I’m confused. If it’s wrong for him to abandon you in what you call your time of need, if it’s wrong for him to not stand up for you, then how is it right for you to back down, to walk away, etc?

I’m sorry you have experienced such disappointment. However, I fail to see how doing essentially the same thing is any sort of Godly solution to the issue.

I’m trying to understand here. You have an accident while he’s gone, and would be in crutches when you get home, so you leave before he gets home? Isn’t that ignoring it too, or avoidance, which is essentially your complaint about him?

I can see why your daughter might be angry. She sees you doing the very same things you complain about with respect to her father. I’d be angry too if you were my mom and pulled such a stunt.

I’m not saying you don’t have valid complaints. I’m saying you are addressing those complaints in an invalid fashion.

By: Jean

Jean — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 11:38:21 +0000

(US) Dear Denise, There are very few rules in war. After years of our husbands serving and fighting, they turn and start fighting the prople who helped them the most. I am saddened for you and your daughter. But I am hopeful that you are a stronger and better person. I know that you are.
There is no easy way to walk away from 26 years of marriage… but now you can create a “new Denise” and you know that you are worth it. Be strong… and courageous… Always Forward.

By: Denise

Denise — Sat, 12 Sep 2009 15:18:37 +0000

(USA) I am currently going through a divorce from a military man. We have been married for 26 years. I left. Before this I was what most would say a perfect military wife. I kept the home front going, supported him in every way whether it be a call from Iraq at 2am on a work day or staying up all night praying because of the mission he was on, and then going to work the next day… We were active duty for 15 years and reserves after. I have been though many missions, conflicts and 2 wars/3 tours.

After all of this he couldn’t or wouldn’t stand up for me, be there when I needed him most. He left me to find my own way home from the hospital after having major surgery -tubes in my abdomen when I had to stay an extra day. He had to work (non-military). Last tour he did nothing to prepare me or our home. I said many X we can’t go into a deployment with issues. He ignored it. I had an accident ,was expected to be in cast/crutches when he came home. I left for protection. Our daughter is very angry.