Comments on: My Spouse Doesn’t Want to Work Out a Budget http://www.marriagemissions.com/my-spouse-doesnt-want-to-work-out-a-budget/ a Christian Marriage Website Thu, 18 Mar 2010 10:39:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Lucia http://www.marriagemissions.com/my-spouse-doesnt-want-to-work-out-a-budget/comment-page-1/#comment-4172 Lucia Tue, 07 Jul 2009 17:17:14 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/my-spouse-doesnt-want-to-work-out-a-budget/#comment-4172 (EAST HARTFORD CT)  Money is the route of all evil but at the same time, you have to pay bills. My husband delays in sitting down with me and working out a plan to pay bills together. When you marry, you are both one. We have been married before and ashamed as I am of it, I know I have to make this marriage work. Trusting and letting go of the fear of getting financially hurt is something many of us go through but give it to the Lord and he will guide you through it. It takes two to make a marriage work and when you marry, you are one. Proverbs 16:9 says, "The mind of man plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps." How true. Why can't one sit down and work out a budget together? Is it fear or joining together the money? Do you think someone will get hurt financially? Well, I have got some news for you and me... when you marry, you make a covenant with the Lord that says "for better or worse and for richer or poorer." Let go of your fears or and communicate in the most loving way you can and know that budgeting will help both of you grow financially. It was hard for me to do that as I am as hard headed as my husband, but when you can talk things out, find out why one does not want to make a budget. I am still praying to keep my budget because my husband goes back and forth with how the bills should be paid and of course if you don't agree on who can handle the money best... then you can both sit down and do it together by listing all you bills and making sure that the money is in there to pay them off. Be strict with your budget. It does get thrown off when my husband decides to go shopping for something he likes and I admit when I go to Home Depot and the garden section hits my eye. I love my husband and I will continue to try different ways till we get it right. I love this discussion; it hit me right at home as I know it did for many other couples. I have not read the links but will and hopefully it can help me to understand why a husband or wife does not want to make a budget, what is their fear in budgeting together and how we can break through those walls of (you, me instead of we). Thank you so much for the insight from the discussion on hand and to giving me your ear. Lucia (EAST HARTFORD CT)  Money is the route of all evil but at the same time, you have to pay bills. My husband delays in sitting down with me and working out a plan to pay bills together. When you marry, you are both one. We have been married before and ashamed as I am of it, I know I have to make this marriage work. Trusting and letting go of the fear of getting financially hurt is something many of us go through but give it to the Lord and he will guide you through it. It takes two to make a marriage work and when you marry, you are one.

Proverbs 16:9 says, "The mind of man plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps." How true. Why can’t one sit down and work out a budget together? Is it fear or joining together the money? Do you think someone will get hurt financially? Well, I have got some news for you and me… when you marry, you make a covenant with the Lord that says "for better or worse and for richer or poorer." Let go of your fears or and communicate in the most loving way you can and know that budgeting will help both of you grow financially.

It was hard for me to do that as I am as hard headed as my husband, but when you can talk things out, find out why one does not want to make a budget. I am still praying to keep my budget because my husband goes back and forth with how the bills should be paid and of course if you don’t agree on who can handle the money best… then you can both sit down and do it together by listing all you bills and making sure that the money is in there to pay them off.

Be strict with your budget. It does get thrown off when my husband decides to go shopping for something he likes and I admit when I go to Home Depot and the garden section hits my eye.

I love my husband and I will continue to try different ways till we get it right. I love this discussion; it hit me right at home as I know it did for many other couples. I have not read the links but will and hopefully it can help me to understand why a husband or wife does not want to make a budget, what is their fear in budgeting together and how we can break through those walls of (you, me instead of we). Thank you so much for the insight from the discussion on hand and to giving me your ear. Lucia

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