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What good advice have you received that has helped your marriage?
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(SOUTH AFRICA) There are so many things that I have read and applied in our marriage that have lead to a far happier and more fulfilling relationship that it would be impossible to single any one item out for mention.
(SOUTH AFRICA) We were still newlyweds and I was pregnant at the time, we had spent a lot of money on our wedding and were still paying off loans. My husband would always talk about buying computers, nice new car or buy anything to expensive. I would get very upset and tell him to rather save money so we can buy baby stuff. I got worse and it really started to effect me. Luckily we were still getting marriage counselling and our Pastor explained to me that men are conquerors and will always strive for the best for his family. He’s still reasonable and wont buy stuff now when he knows we don’t have the money. But I should not shoot down his dreams. Now when my hubby says, let’s buy a car like that, I’d just say, “Soon Babes, soon.”
(ZIMBABWE) 1. Consider yourselves partners in all areas of life… wow! 2. If your spouse doesn’t want to be considerate, it doesn’t mean that you have to be less considerate and lower the standards. God wants to us all to keep in mind.
God is working within me to consider ourselves as partners. He works in a different town about 200km from where I stay; with its own problems of communication as the telephones are always down. He sometimes comes home for the weekend and with the very little time we have, we visit family and friends, leaving me not much time with him as I have to do his laundry and other duties. we are still an empty nest, but God willing it will be full!
BUT , through the first message, I have started writing letters. Though it takes long at least I am happy. I brief him on many things and mostly what would have happened at work or on my way home.
Then second, I will continue raising the standards! I love him and I will keep praying that he will be more considerate.
(AFRICA) 1. Consider yourselves partners in all areas of life… wow! 2. If your spouse doesn’t want to be considerate, it doesn’t mean that you have to be less considerate and lower the standards that God wants to us all to keep in mind. My greatest challenge is that my husband works and lives 250km away. Communication is a problem I try to do a schedule of everything I do for us to do discuss when he comes! Thank you Cindy and Steve!
(SOUTH AFRICA) Often the lessons contained in the messages are like a "double-edged sword" cutting straight through to the "heart", yet setting the captive free.
Other times, I have deliberately ignored the messages in my inbox, because I know that what I will read in them will be the truth, and in moments of anger towards my spouse, I don’t always want to hear what I know is true. However, it is refreshing to come back once the dust has settled and measure how well I have handled the situation.
(UNITED STATES) Comparing your marriage with others is not wise. Comparing your spouse with someone else that might not do the negative things he/she does is not wise. That other someone has negative things to them as well. We are all sinners saved by grace.
Realizing that conflict is inevitable, and handling it properly when it comes. Focus on the good, not the bad. Dying to self for your spouse. Pray, pray, pray. Trust in the Lord.
(SOUTH AFRICA) Things were a bit hectic in my marriage. That was before God intervened and made us one again.
Never listen to other people speaking negatives about their spouses, it tends to influence you in some way that you start seeing the negatives in your spouse as well. Focus on the many positive attributes, rather than the few negatives.
(SA) My husband and I have hit many rocky patches- we have learned a few home thrushes- the grass is definitely not greener on the other side. Communication is what makes or breaks a relationship and love is stronger than any thing else. It just has to be worked on- just like a vintage motor car!!! You also need the most important ingredient- GOD
(UGANDA) This website has really really helped me and I have told many of my married friends about it. What really inspires me are the weekly messages to reflect upon. To be precise, the romantic ideas shared are very helpful especially when I think I have run out of what to keep the fire burning in my marriage, especially with a husband who is very busy. My biggest challenge now is to balance work, studies, children and husband but I’m praying about it and I know my God will not fail me. Thank you.
(ZAMBIA) Need your help going through the betrayal by husband