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I’m so sorry you are going through such a painful time in your marriage. There is hardly any other situation that could be worse, than to find out that your spouse that you have loved so much, would betray you in this way! My heart grieves for the pain you must be feeling. If there was a way to take this hurt away from you, I would. I’m so sorry.
As much as I would like to help you, the best we can do for you is to encourage you to pray, pour out your heart to God (He knows very well what it is like to be betrayed) and to do all you can to reach for healing and help with this. You will feel overwhelmed and confused and so very hurt, but do all you can to try to reach out to healthy resources for the help you will need in the days, months, and years ahead.
We have a lot of articles posted on our web site along with recommended resources and web sites that might be able to help you further. Please take advantage of all that we make available. We have found that it has helped a LOT of people who have also experienced this horrific ordeal.
This will be a long painful journey for you. I’m so sorry that you, as the victim, have to walk it. I pray the Lord ministers to your hurts as you give them to Him. I pray He gives you strength, and wisdom, and counsel as you need it. The Holy Spirit is our Wonderful Counselor. Lean upon Him (as we’re told to do in Proverbs 3:5) and not upon your own understanding in this. And work to fight against bitterness with all of your might or it will devour who you are. (The section we have on our web site on “Bitterness and Forgiveness” could possibly help with this.) Don’t allow bitterness to take you captive. Keep fighting against allowing it to imprison you. It will rob you of future joy that you will one day experience again (even though you may not think it is possible at this point).
If you can find a godly counselor or woman to help you through this time, that would, I’m sure, help you greatly. You have a lot of tough decisions to make in your future — both personally and in your marriage. I pray you will make them with the wisdom and healthy discernment of the Lord.
Please know that our prayers are with you as we grieve for you and believe for you that you will somehow survive this horrible betrayal.