But he said it was already over. He just confirmed it with her so that me his wife, and his parent knows about the affairs and that it is over. He told me that it will never happened again and I have forgiven him and we just started to move on with our life.

My problem is the girl. She still goes to church with us. How do I deal with this? I’m very angry at that girl so much, because she knew that he is married and it seems that she is not sorry. I want to send her a msg but I dont know what to write to her. Please help me.

I will want you to help me in prayer so that he will change his mind & come back to us. I am avoiding the situation of having my kids with different fathers. Please I beg of you. God bless you mightily.

I know you feel you are in your darkest hour, but God will help you. I KNOW HE WILL! He helped me.

When all this happened, I thought my life had ended, but it didn’t. Time moved on. I was mad at my husband and mad at God too. But now at age 57, I see how God had much more for me to experience in life, and has guided me and held my hand.

When things were darkest, my Lord was still with me, even though I couldn’t feel His presence due to my grief, hurt, anger and confusion. Still, His loving arms held me close to Him.

See my site called "Marital Harmony" at http://www.fms-help.com/marriage.htm. It might be useful in your future.

I have also written an article anonymously called "When Marriage Hurts." It was published by Chinese Chrisian Mission http://www.ccmusa.org in Challenger magazine (English) and is available online.

I pray the Lord will comfort your heart. Frankly, I would not want to be your husband at the judgment seat of Christ! He has clearly wronged you and broken his vows. As Christians we sometimes suffer due to other’s sins against us, but if we walk in the Spirit, we at least are not suffering from our own sins and the inevitable consequences.

Not all second marriages are happy. When I was saved in 1988, I had a spiritual mentor who was so dear to me. Her husband had just abandoned her with 3 young children and he married his young secretary from work. That secretary eventually committed adultery on him in their marriage, so all is not perfect when you abandon your first family and commitments.

It’s a great loss that these years you had hoped to spend in travel and enjoyment of eachother has turned into this nightmare. When you spoke about how COLD your husband was in telling you to MOVE ON, that is exactly what Jesus meant when he said that Moses had to permit divorce due to the HARDNESS of men’s hearts.

My heart grieves for your great loss. My prayer was that my husband would come to his senses, but he didn’t. He has gone on to have many failed relationships.

Unless God changes your husband’s heart, you will end up divorced. That was something I didn’t want to hear. Get good legal counsel and financial support. That won’t bring back the love you shared, but it will help get you practically through the coming years.

I wish you all the best, my sister in Christ. You can find my email address on my Marital Harmony page if you wish to correspond. I remember only too well the feelings of betrayal, abandonment and lost dreams that you are experiencing now.

May God uphold you. Cling to Him for refuge from the stormy blast!

This has all come abruptly to an end and my husband has left me for another woman he met on "face book". He says he does not love me anymore and has left me on my own in this big empty house and now wants a divorce and plans to marry her. I have prayed to God to intervene in this situation. I feel so lonely and miss my husband terribly. The thought of us not growing old together is killing me. He has told me quite coldly to MOVE ON he will not be coming home again. I feel so betrayed and hurt. I have no option but to try and pick myself up and with Gods strength move on and find happiness again. I have lost my best friend.