The following are Web Site Links and descriptions of resources that will inform you, help you to deal with, and battle against the destructive force of pornography and cybersex. We pray you will find that they help your marriage.

• Avenueresource.com Avenue is a Christian non-profit organization that exists in order to equip churches, licensed counselors, and lay leaders to pave the way to help, hope and healing from sexual brokenness. Avenue was conceived to create confidential environments throughout the country for people to have a safe, intimate setting to receive help for these common issues. Whether you want to consider meeting weekly with a licensed therapist or a peer group setting, or both, Avenue can help you make the first important steps.

• Bebroken.com: This site is designed to assist you in finding help, resources, and education on sexual purity. Whether you battle a sexual addiction or struggle lightly, you should benefit from the resources here. They also have a new men’s resource that you may find helpful. It is called Gateway to Freedom which is 3-day intensive workshop for men struggling with sex or porn addiction. This workshop provides practical, biblical tools for overcoming sexual addiction and living every day in sexual purity. To learn more about this workshop please visit www.gatewaymen.com or if you are in the U.S. you can call 1-800-49-PURITY.

They also work to help EQUIP the CHURCH in meeting the needs of the sexually broken by providing evangelical Christians with biblical programs designed to restore sexual purity in the church. Their email is contact@bebroken.com. If you’re struggling with these issues or know of someone who is, PLEASE tell them about this ministry and visit their web site. They also have a subscription service that regularly sends informative information and articles worth reading which you can sign up for at their web site.

• Covenanteyes.com Covenant Eyes is the Standard for Internet Integrity with Accountability through Monitoring. The software program is designed to hold people accountable when using the Internet. Safeguard your Internet world from the dangers, risks, and liabilities of Internet pornography. It’s easy to use. Once installed, Covenant Eyes monitors websites your computer visits. Whenever Internet access is attempted, you will be asked to log in (or you can configure it to log in automatically). Once logged in, your Internet activity will be monitored by our servers and periodically emailed in a report to the Accountability Partner(s) you choose in the Sign-up Procedure. The information is scored specifically for pornography and presented in an easy-to-read Accountability Report, but the entire history of the websites visited is recorded and available.

• Christianrecovery.com: Christian Recovery International is a coalition of ministries dedicated to helping the Christian community become a safe and helpful place for people recovering from addiction, abuse or trauma. This is the best overall Christian recovery site on the Net with a broad focus on all recovery issues.

• Everymansbattle.com: They have over 648 free articles in the New Life Article Library which you can access by going to the upper tool bar and selecting “Articles.” They provide you the opportunity to search by keyword or choose an article category. A few of the categories are Sexual Integrity (where they have over 60 articles listed), Tools for Temptation, Addictions, and Rebuilding Trust. If you’re looking for ways to be encouraged, discover healthy family tips, make connections or find out about many more topics, there could be an article in there for you.

• Faithfulandtrueministries.com: This ministry with Dr. Mark Laaser is designed to help those who are struggling with a sexual addiction. As they say about their ministry: “We hope and pray that if you are a spouse, family member, loved one, or a friend of a person who struggles with sexual addiction you will also find our website beneficial and helpful. You may also feel hurt, frustrated, angry, and even question why you still love them as much as you do. Know that there is hope for you too. We know that breaking the silence about shameful secrets and finding fellowship is the way out. We hope the information on our site will be a great asset to you. We pray that this may be one of the places where you decide to be of strong faith and courage to reach out for help.”

• Freedomeveryday.org: L.I.F.E. Ministries is a Christ-centered ministry that works through the local church to provide people with resources and relationships for healthy sexuality. Their site contains recovery resources and guidelines for starting and maintaining recovery groups in your area.

• HealingHeartsClub.co.uk This is a ministry developed to provide love, support, understanding and advice for wives of sex addicts through local support groups, internet and telephone support groups. If you have just discovered or have known that your husband has affairs, is addicted to pornography, struggles with same-sex attraction, then you are in the right place. I am the wife of a sex addict and desire to help other wives of sex addicts. Through the knowledge and love of Jesus Christ we as wives can have complete healing and our marriages not only completely restored but made better than ever.

• Higher-calling.com: The vision of Higher-Calling.com is to create a vibrant online community where those who struggle with sexual integrity, pornography and sexual addiction can receive Christ-centered support, encouragement and fellowship.

• Joedallas.com: This ministry aims to help people in recovery with sexual addiction, homosexuality, and other sexual problems. They work to equip churches and Christian leaders to address the sexual and relational problems that may arise in their own congregations and educate the Christian community regarding sexual issues. Joe Dallas’ ministry in sexual addiction recovery and homosexuality is nationally recognized.

• Lovewonout.com: Focus on the Family’s Love Won Out ministry exhorts and equips the church to respond in a Christ-like way to the issue of homosexuality. And to those who struggle with unwanted same-sex attractions, they offer the Gospel hope that these desires can be overcome. By offering conferences, education, counseling and research, the Love Won Out team strives to uphold God’s design for sexuality in a way that transforms lives.

• Nacronline.com: THE NATIONAL ASSOCIATION FOR CHRISTIAN RECOVERY is a ministry has resources for Christians recovering from addiction, abuse, or trauma. On this web site they offer a variety of different resources which you can obtain. They also have a section labeled “Library” where they have articles posted from their STEPS Magazine (which you can order on their web site). Some of the topics covered in the articles they make available to read are: Taking Moral Inventory, Recovery at Church, Spiritual Issues, Fear, Global Issues, Issues relating to Work, Theology and Recovery, Recovery from Substance Abuse, ADD and Addictions, Distorted Images of Self, Grief, Spirituality in Recovery, Sexual Addiction, Depression, Recovery Process, Victimization, Eating Disorders, Relationships in Recovery, Forgiveness, Men In Recovery, Codependency, Resistance to Recovery, Perfectionism, plus Interviews with those Asking for Help.

• Newlifepartners.org: This is a Christian online resource and support group for women whose lives have been impacted by husbands or loved ones caught in the web of pornography and/or sexual addiction. On their web site you’ll find sharing, caring, love, hope, and prayer to help you daily walk out the Lord’s plan for your life. They’re not a counseling group. They have no paid counselors — they’re a peer support group. This means that each of the ladies within NLP is going through something similar to what you may be experiencing. The resources available to NLP members include an email discussion forum, online chats, small group forums, Bible or book study groups and an annual retreat.

• Passionatecommitment.com: This is the web site for the Christian Sex Therapists Clifford and Joyce Penner and Associates. They have five therapists on staff to help those that need their help. All of the therapists see clients with a variety of individual, relational and sexual issues. Cliff or Joyce will assess your situation and connect you with the therapist of choice to best facilitate your therapy process. In addition to their therapy practice, Clifford and Joyce Penner and Associates, the Penners have available the following resources for healthy sexuality.

• Porn-free.org: This web site helps people discover the truth about pornography and “sexual” addictions. While sex is a wonderful, God-given gift, it can be abused like a drug for a variety of reasons. Today, many people find themselves captive to addictive cycles of viewing pornography, masturbation, illicit sex, online affairs, prostitution, phone sex and other sexual activities. If you think you are addicted or know someone who is, this site may be helpful to you.

• Puredesire.org: Pure Desire Ministry International (PDMI) is devoted to healing men and women who have become addicted to sexual behaviors harmful to their social, family and spiritual well being. God has called Pure Desire Ministries International (PDMI) to help local churches and their frequently overloaded pastors, address the unspoken, undermining truth of sexual bondage invading our society today. That is not to say PDMI is limited to just the church environment. Across the nation, small groups are using Pure Desire Ministry materials in corporate and community environments.

• Pureintimacy.org: This is an excellent site for addressing online sexual temptations. It works with online sexual addictions and has numerous related articles and has links to various counselors that can help with these issues. This site comes from the organization of Focus on the Family with Dr James Dobson.

• Pureonline.com: Pure Online is an online, confidential, streaming-video solution for dealing with pornography addiction. Their goal is to enable men and women to conquer sexual issues like pornography addiction and sex addiction and regain control of their lives. The primary objective of the Pure Online project is to enable a speedy and effective recovery for men dealing with Internet pornography and other sex-related addictions in the most confidential and professional manner possible. They also aim to equip wives to help their husbands deal with the sexual sin in their lives. The course material was originally developed by teacher and author, Joe Dallas.

• Purewarrior.org PureWarrior Ministries provides help for men struggling with secret sexual sin. We do that through this website, being a conduit to other ministries, providing resouces on this site and by presenting high impact workshops in Churches across the country. The resources section provides a wide range of links to recovery assistance, information and tools for men and their families.

• Settingcaptivesfree.com: This ministry offers Christ-centered Hope and Freedom, one heart at a time, to those in the grip of sin through accountability to Bible-based Truth resulting in the true enjoyment of Life in and for the Glory of God. They offer sermon videos, podcasts, and Bible Study tools in 14 different languages. In particular, they offer a 60 day on-line course, designed for spouses of those in bondage to sexual sin. You can find it in the “On-line” drop-down feature on their web site, and then go to “Sexual Purity” and then “A United Front.”

• Sexaddict.com This is the web site for Dr Doug Weiss who is an author and therapist and director for the Heart to Heart Counseling center. He deals with sexual issues and sexual addictions in his practice. This web site offers telephone counseling, various resources —including free downloads and E-books, as well as the opportunity to participate in 3 day intensives.

• Sexualwholeness.com Sexual Wholeness, Inc. is a non-profit organization that promotes personal sexual integrity, a positive masculinity and femininity, and passionately intimate relationships. They accomplish this through workshops, books, articles, retreats and training that is tailored to specific needs. In the midst of confused values and unfulfilling marriages, they believe that God has a sexual economy that really works. Sexual Wholeness is led by Christian therapists and sex therapists Doug Rosenau and two other qualified therapists. Their goal is to encourage others to join them in seeking and promoting Biblical intimacy and sexual wholeness. The heart of their organization is the training that is offered to the professional counselor and lay person.

RESOURCE DESCRIPTIONS:

• AN AFFAIR OF THE MIND -by Laurie Hall, published by Tyndale House. This book tells the story of one woman’s struggle to protect herself and her children from the devastating effects of pornography. With both openness and sensitivity, Laurie Hall relives the nightmare that nearly destroyed her family, warning others of porn’s seductive, addictive nature. She opens her heart and bares her soul, imparting keen insights and comfort. And she shares the hard lessons God taught her – among them, the virtues of patience, trust, and perseverance.  Preview or purchase this book now.

• EVERY MAN’S BATTLE… Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time -by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker, published by WaterBrook Press, a division of Random House. If I (Steve Wright) had to pick one book that should be a “must read” for all men, this is it! Arterburn and Stoeker tackle the issue of sexual temptation and lust in an honest, hard-hitting way. They’re writing from first-hand experience and use the stories of dozens of other men. They also give a practical, detailed plan for any man who desires sexual purity. This book is helpful, whether you’ve “fallen” in the past from sexual temptation or just want a way to remain strong today and in the future. Preview or purchase this book now.

• HEALING THE WOUNDS OF SEXUAL ADDICTION -by Mark Laaser, published by Zondervan. This book is written by a former sex addict who is sensitive to the “shame of sexual addiction without minimizing its sinfulness.” It offers help and hope for regaining and maintaining sexual integrity, self-control, and wholesome, biblical sexuality. This book comes highly recommended by counselors, Pastors, lay leaders, as well as others who have been fighting this battle. Whether you know someone with a sexual addiction or struggle yourself, Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction points the way to understanding, wholeness, and holiness. Preview or purchase this book now.

• HEDGES: Loving Your Marriage Enough to Protect It (With Complete Study Guide) -by Jerry Jenkins, published by Crossway Books. This book introduces you to ways to practice preventative medicine in your marriage. As Gary Smalley says, “Men need this book. In a warm, personal, and refreshingly honest way, Jerry Jenkins sounds a compelling call for us to protect our marriages and then skillfully teaches us how we can do just that. This may be the most important book on protecting your family you’ll ever read.” We agree! As Dr Frank Minirth says, “Every married person needs to be aware of the subtle traps that lead to this behavior, and Jerry not only exposes the precursors to infidelity, but also gives practical insights as to how to make your marriage a stronghold against it.” Preview or purchase this book now.

• HOPE AFTER BETRAYAL -by Meg Wilson, published by Kregel Publications. This is a TERRIFIC book for women who need to experience healing after finding out that adulterous sexual addiction has invaded their marriage. Not only does Meg, herself, greatly minister through her own personal experience, she also gives insight into the lives of several women and the journey they took to healing after finding out about their husband’s addiction and adulterous situations. The book also has sections after each chapter that can also be quite helpful. One of them is called “Path Lights” which contains related scriptures and quotes. And the other is called “Journaling” which poses questions and thoughts to help women to process through this difficult journey through journaling — which is essentially what marriage counselors help you to do verbally. So it’s like therapy of another kind. We can’t recommend this book highly enough. We can see where it would be extremely beneficial to any woman who has been betrayed by her husband’s unfaithfulness — whether emotionally or physically! Preview or Purchase This Book Now

• LIVING WITH YOUR HUSBAND’S SECRET WARS -by Marsha Means, published by Fleming Revell. This is a guide for women who have a husband struggling with sexual addictions and who seeks recovery and healing. Marsha offers specific, proactive steps you can take in your journey toward wholeness. Learn how to find the support you need, grieve the losses of sexual betrayal, and focus on your own spiritual growth, so you can begin the process of forgiveness and moving on. It’s filled with resources and study questions to encourage growth and will lead you toward resolution, freedom, and new life in Christ. Preview or purchase this book now

• MEN’S SECRET WARS – by Patrick Means, published by Fleming Revell. This book helps readers recognize the “at risk” factors that precede the development of a secret life. Drawing candidly from his own struggles and those of numerous other men, Patrick provides tested strategies for defeating the habits and secrets that threaten mens private lives (i.e. workaholism, sexual addiction, substance abuse, pornography, and extramarital affairs). A leader’s guide has been added to this paperback edition. Preview or purchase this book now

• 40 DAYS OF PURITY… Learning to Live a Life of Purity One Day at a Time -by Steven Cervantes. This workbook is designed to help men undertake the challenge of living a life of purity. It’s full of Scriptures and teaching from God’s Word, along with powerful insights and practical purity tips. This resource is invaluable to both the strong Christian, and the struggling saint. The workbook also includes: Thoughts on prayer, thoughts on support groups, suggested reading, helpful websites and more. You can use this resource individually or in a group setting. To order, you can call the Be Broken Ministry toll free at 1-800-49-PURITY, order online at www.bebroken.com or email orders@bebroken.com.

• SHATTERED VOWS: Hope and Healing for Women Who Have Been Sexually Betrayed - By Deb Laaser, published by Zondervan. This book is a sensitive guide for women who have been devastated by their husband’s sexual betrayal. It gives practical tools to “help women make wise and empowering decisions, emotional tools to develop greater intimacy” and spiritual tools to help transform suffering. It is “Debra Laaser’s personal journey through betrayal, her extensive work with hundreds of hurting women, and her intimate marriage two decades after the disclosure of her husband’s infidelity.” It provides “meaningful answers to the questions that arise amid the complex fallout of broken vows. …Even if a spouse will not participate in a program for healing, a woman who has been sexually betrayed can change her own life in powerful and permanent ways.” Preview or purchase this book now.

• THE HANDBOOK FOR HURTING WIVES … Managing the First 30 Days After Discovering Your Spouse’s Secret Sexual Struggle -by Stephen and Tonna Cervantes. This Handbook is a powerful resource for women who have just discovered their husband’s secret sexual struggle. In this workbook a wife will learn: 7 basis spiritual truths, how to manage her emotional trauma, insights into the male sexual struggle, do’s and don’ts when dealing with his struggle, 30 days of daily devotions, and more.

This workbook has been reviewed and approved by Elaine Daugherty, wife of Be Broken founder Jonathan Daugherty, and is a woman who has “been there.” The insights and encouragement available through this handbook are invaluable. Use this resource individually or in a small support group setting. To order, you can call the Be Broken Ministry toll free at 1-800-49-PURITY by Howard Publishing Company, or order online at www.bebroken.com or email orders@bebroken.com.