Comments on: Praying Together as Husband and Wife

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 16:29:45 +0000

(USA) Young people in youth expressed that the husband is to pray and the wife not to pray with him except to agree with his prayer. Are there scriptures that tell husbands & wives to pray together? Are there scriptures that tell wives to pray? Any help you can give is appreciated.

By: Cindy Wright

Cindy Wright — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 16:34:49 +0000

(USA) Hi Hope, It sure seems like the enemy of our faith is playing a dastardly game with you and your husband. He’s using prayer, or all things, to try to divide you (and so far is subtly doing so). Please recognize the evilness in this and make a concerted effort to come together as partners. Fight the enemy — not each other on this issue.

It doesn’t matter who prays aloud or who doesn’t. What matters is that you DO pray and you quit judging each other and allowing this to separate you. What God means for good — as a unifying, spiritual partnership, the enemy is using to pit you against each other. Resist the temptation to do so.

It may be that your husband will need to live up to Ephesians 5, where he “washes” you “with the water through the word” and takes the role as the main one who leads out loud in prayer (being considerate and understanding as he is told to do in 1 Peter 3:7). And possibly eventually, as you gain confidence with his gracious, non-judgmental help (realizing that you are praying to God and that it doesn’t matter if you are eloquent in how you pray– God knows your heart) you may be able to join him in praying out loud some day.

But until that time, ask your husband to give you grace and to partner together with you and God in being the one who vocalizes your united prayer. Ask him to please not judge you, but love you “as unto the Lord” in this way so you can stand together as a “cord of three strands” that is strong in the Lord.

Many times we change after we marry. This is one of those areas of life where you will need to purpose to unite together once again to fight against the enemy of your faith, rather than each other. Apply Ephesians 5:10-18 where you put on the full armor of God — realizing that your “struggle is not against flesh and blood” as you have been doing lately, “but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.”

Keep in mind that if the enemy of our faith can get us to fight against each other, we aren’t fighting him. Stand strong TOGETHER.

By: Hope

Hope — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 01:38:21 +0000

(JAMAICA) My husband and I started out praying together. Before we got married I would call him and wake him in the mornings so we could pray together about stuff we discussed. We would say a time so that we were both praying at the same time. We would also share verses with each other via text messaging.

Although we lived in different locations I felt close to him then. When we got married I expected the same thing to continue but I had problems praying out loud. He would insist that I should pray out loud and when I couldn’t he got frustrated and stopped. I think that is where things got sour. We stopped spending time together with God.

Now we don’t pray together or even do Bible study together. I keep suggesting that we give it a try but he keeps saying yes and then putting it off. I am really praying about this because I know we are meant for more than what we are now.

By: Elwyn

Elwyn — Sun, 26 Apr 2009 13:04:39 +0000

(USA) I needed this. I have believed in this all my married life but have not practiced it. Thank you for this encouragement. I plan to start immediately. I am a Christian with a family of 7 children 6 married 1 single and 15 grandchildren. We faithfully had family prayer during the time the children were growing up and for some reason, stopped when they were gone. Thank you again for this encouragement.

By: Betty

Betty — Mon, 23 Feb 2009 11:50:55 +0000

(UGANDA) I have read the article about the importance of praying together and I must say it is inspiring. I have been married for over four years and this part of our marriage has been difficult. We never really seem to have time to pray together. One thing I have noticed however is that the days we have chosen to pray together we have really been close and happy as a family. I have learn’t the importance of initiating and I will also practice the idea of changing to my husband praying on even days and me on odd days.

Thank you for all the good work. I have really been blessed by the website. It brings to light the current challenges and demands of current families. The solutions are also so practical and real. May God bless you.