I admit myself, I married a guy but just wonder about his Christian life… I was stumble and influence. IL’m a born a gain Christian woman, but I backslid off and on in my life.

When I met him on the internet I thought all was true but I realize there are so much lies behind on that… I was deceived by my own spouse. He told me so many stories but in reality there are lies behind them. I can’t return to him. I do love him but I lost my trust after we both agreed we’d get married. I believed his words and I could stand for it, even though my heart was troubled.

But I still believe in him of course. He is a Christian so I’m happy that I found the right one. But at the end, we met in person. I was in a hurry actually for marriage. I don’t know him so much coz I believed him and believed myself that everything is all right. So we got married. At that moment after our marriage, I was surprised how he acted so bad to me. He can’t tell me what he wants but he acts so bad to me and wild. He made actions with his hands but I don’t know if my thoughts on that one so he got wild and threw so much stuff. On that day in our marriage I was scared and I don’t know how this marriage was meant to be…

So at the end he said he wants a cigarette but before I met him in that sight, first I asked him if he smoked or drank. 100 percent he said no very big. No for that… But in reality he lied to me about this. I hate a guy who smokes or drinks. The reason why I hate it is coz of my father who passed away and he died for that. So I told myself I will marry a guy that won’t smoke or drink. So that’s it. He lied to me. I was sad… My first day of marriage I was shocked. It’s a sad marriage. We got married by a judge and that’s all. He came to my country for 1000 dollars. That’s all then.

After that he stayed with me for 10 months and I struggled. After 3 weeks he didn’t have a penny. He said he owned a business. But in reality he had no savings. But I accept that part. But one thing I want him to be honest himself and not to lie to me.

On the second day of our marriage I found out he was seeking more Filipino girls. I had him come for that coz it happened tome… traitor me. So I warned him never to do this to a friend. But he did. How can I trust him fully with his divided love for other girls? It was just supposed to be him and I. But behind my back he did these things. He is not satisfied with me. How can he be satisfied with our marriage? The problem now to me, is until now I still have heart ache and no trust for my spouse for what he is doing.

Do you think he will ever be honest with me? I just found out that the one he showed me before the house he stayed at is for him and cares he shows me not for him. I just spoke to the owner of that house and think he is telling me the truth. I don’t know what to do, whether my husband is truly being honest to me.

I still like him, the only thing is I want him to be honest about our marriage. He did so many things that I don’t like. Is it good for a Christian to be going to web sites that have porn? He’s done things on the internet because of that. He said he’s changed. It’s hard to believe that. Also, he cheated on me and deceived me.

Help me. I just need to be strong in my faith to God. I lose my faith sometimes because of him. I had so many bad thoughts about him and it’s not good for my health. It would be nice if one pastor would visit him concerning this house advice so he will be honest to me.

I want our marriage to be fruitful and I want to have joy in my heart. My heart is always so sad. Everyday we always fight and argue. I’m here and my kids are in the Philippines and he is there in the States working in Peru, Nebraska. I want hi in my life. I just want that he will be honest to himself and to God, then to me. I don’t like that he has that bad habit and is not honest and keeps lying.

Oh, the reason why my trust is no more with him is coz he gives his love to someone else even when we had just agreed to marriage. The problem is that he can’t admit it when I ask him who’s this all in his Yahoo list. He told me all his cousins — all Filipino. Why does he lie? That’s one one thing why. I am honest to him and never hide anything just coz I want to be true to God and to him. Behind all my honesty I lose my patience and trust.

Please, I need your advice so I won’t lose my faith in God and have peace of mind. I have so many bad thoughts and find it hard to forgive. I didn’t let it go till now.

My husband wants me to communicate but whenever the time comes that I share with him he will say that I must talk to him straight, that he is frustrated with my words. He says I don’t trust him. I answer, Yes, I don’t trust, I just want him to be honest because it hurts. He says I’m dried and cold towards our marriage.

One time he talked about getting a divorce then later he said he never intended to say that word. I wonder why it is easy for him to be saying that. But I said to him that I respect it if that is his decision. Then later he calmed down. He said he didn’t say that.

I hope I can find an answer for all my anxiety and worries for this marriage that I have now. God bless you all and more blessings to come. Cheers, Liza

However, I see nothing that instructs the unequally yoked believer to unilaterally leave the unbeliever. So if by leaving you mean leaving the marriage with your wife, I think scripture is pretty clear you are not to initiate such an action.

I know that satan has a hold on our marriage because I am scared to leave. I know that it is his way of keeping me from continuing on with my life that God has planned for me. I love my wife with everything in me. I am scared of making that choice, but I know in time that choice will have to be made. I just don’t know if I am ready yet. Thanks to this site. Some of the things that I have read have opened my eyes to a few things. Some changes do have to be made on my part.

Some at my church seem to see him as less then they, and I wonder if they feel he deserves it when bad things happen to him/us. I start wondering it, too. Did this happen to us because he doesn’t believe? But I am reminded that bad things happen to Christians and non-Christians alike.

After a fire at my husbands shop, the pastor took an offering for us and then went on to speak about the consuming fire coming. How it would refine us, but consume the unbeliever. It seemed as though he was directing it to us. What do you think? It seemed a bit tactless.

I feel trapped in this ‘marriage’ though as I said, there is not one actual thing we have in common these days other than the time spent being married to one another. He undermines me, says cruel & disrespectful things to/about me in front of our kids. I have no support whatsoever with him. I know I didn’t make a God decision to marry him years ago but my own selfish decision that went awry.

I am a Christian & pray for him & my family but feel so very stuck even in my spiritual walk because of the life I live w/ my spouse. He has gone to church with me a few times here & there but nothing seems to ’sink in’. He also is a recovering alcoholic/drug abuser, again, something he hid from me or perhaps I didn’t want to see when we were dating. He also doesn’t go to any follow-up care or meetings. It’s a very hard, emotional rollercoaster … hard to cope. I feel so beat up most of the time.

We must always consider the context of the verse within the passage, brother. A better reference might be 1 Corinthians 7:13-15. Even better, Matthew 16:24- which pretty much cinches it; i.e, "Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me." Amen.

We’ll keep looking to post more. In the meantime, don’t hesitate to read other articles concerning unequally yoked wives because much of that information can be gleaned and adapted, as the Holy Spirit leads. The principles are still the same, it’s just that the approach may be different for a man. But God can still show you what you can use to apply to your situation. Use what you can, adapt what you can, and leave the rest behind. God bless!

In my situation, my wife often seems intent on undermining my walk with Christ. I love her very much, but I cannot and will not forsake my savior to please her. The Way is narrow as it is, and all the rougher when married to a worldly and contentious woman. I would appreciate any links or resources anyone might suggest.