Comments on: Rules for Resolving Conflict – Marriage Message #48 http://www.marriagemissions.com/rules-for-resolving-conflict-marriage-message-48/ a Christian Marriage Website Sat, 21 Nov 2009 10:11:26 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.3 hourly 1 By: S N http://www.marriagemissions.com/rules-for-resolving-conflict-marriage-message-48/comment-page-1/#comment-4489 S N Sat, 15 Aug 2009 04:04:53 +0000 http://marriagemissions.net/2007/07/21/know-spouse-thru-in-laws-marriage-message-48/#comment-4489 (Zimbabwe) Thanks for this –it’s a God sent message. I am currently having a misunderstand with my husband and was doing the silent treatment. After reading the Message, I picked up the phone and asked him if we could talk, he agreed. I plan to Confront to heal! Thank you and God bless you. (Zimbabwe) Thanks for this –it’s a God sent message. I am currently having a misunderstand with my husband and was doing the silent treatment. After reading the Message, I picked up the phone and asked him if we could talk, he agreed. I plan to Confront to heal! Thank you and God bless you.

]]> By: D S http://www.marriagemissions.com/rules-for-resolving-conflict-marriage-message-48/comment-page-1/#comment-4346 D S Wed, 29 Jul 2009 00:52:42 +0000 http://marriagemissions.net/2007/07/21/know-spouse-thru-in-laws-marriage-message-48/#comment-4346 (South Africa) I want to thank you. We have been having problems in our 7 years of marriage like any other couple. But it became bad when we couldn't complete a week without serious fighting that would end up with no solution but hurting hearts and silence treatment for a week or 2. I could see all the mistakes my husband had and sought out marriage counseling services, which didn’t go well. We decided to stop and agreed that my husband would attend alone. I’m sure he never even went for the first appointment. I was so disappointed and asked myself how could I marry such an evil man. I didn’t trust him anymore. We couldn't have a civil conversation without fighting, until my financial adviser told me that it has nothing to do with my husband but everything to do with me. "What do you mean?" I asked. He said God has blessed you immensely in your career and he has plans of blessing you and giving you more responsibilities but he has to work on your behaviour so that you don’t mess up there. I pondered on his words and looked at my personality. I took a personality test and couldn’t get the answer I was looking for. I bought the book on Fascinating Womanhood. I saw all my mistakes and was too overwhelmed. I didn’t know where to start. I decided to go alone to our marriage counselor who made it clear that this is the journey with God I needed to take to sort out my life. I started reading a book you recommended “What a Husband Needs from his Wife” and another one title “Why Does Submission Got to Do with Me". I felt like God was calling me to meet with him in the shack. I discovered how wrong my thinking was and my belief as far as marriage is concerned, not only that but how broken I am and how is it affecting my marriage. Two weeks ago I joined a healing course with the Living Waters Organization and I have seen God healing my brokenness in an amazing way. I'll do this course until November this year. I just want to thank you for your articles that kept on making me to look for a solution. Instead I found the source of all my problems "myself". May God give you more wisdom and strength not to give up on our marriages. God bless you. (South Africa) I want to thank you. We have been having problems in our 7 years of marriage like any other couple. But it became bad when we couldn’t complete a week without serious fighting that would end up with no solution but hurting hearts and silence treatment for a week or 2. I could see all the mistakes my husband had and sought out marriage counseling services, which didn’t go well. We decided to stop and agreed that my husband would attend alone. I’m sure he never even went for the first appointment.

I was so disappointed and asked myself how could I marry such an evil man. I didn’t trust him anymore. We couldn’t have a civil conversation without fighting, until my financial adviser told me that it has nothing to do with my husband but everything to do with me. “What do you mean?” I asked. He said God has blessed you immensely in your career and he has plans of blessing you and giving you more responsibilities but he has to work on your behaviour so that you don’t mess up there.

I pondered on his words and looked at my personality. I took a personality test and couldn’t get the answer I was looking for. I bought the book on Fascinating Womanhood. I saw all my mistakes and was too overwhelmed. I didn’t know where to start. I decided to go alone to our marriage counselor who made it clear that this is the journey with God I needed to take to sort out my life.

I started reading a book you recommended “What a Husband Needs from his Wife” and another one title “Why Does Submission Got to Do with Me”. I felt like God was calling me to meet with him in the shack. I discovered how wrong my thinking was and my belief as far as marriage is concerned, not only that but how broken I am and how is it affecting my marriage. Two weeks ago I joined a healing course with the Living Waters Organization and I have seen God healing my brokenness in an amazing way. I’ll do this course until November this year. I just want to thank you for your articles that kept on making me to look for a solution. Instead I found the source of all my problems “myself”.

May God give you more wisdom and strength not to give up on our marriages. God bless you.

]]> By: Jean http://www.marriagemissions.com/rules-for-resolving-conflict-marriage-message-48/comment-page-1/#comment-4190 Jean Thu, 09 Jul 2009 21:43:27 +0000 http://marriagemissions.net/2007/07/21/know-spouse-thru-in-laws-marriage-message-48/#comment-4190 (USA)  My daughter is engaged to a guy and the wedding is in about 2 months. I am seeing big red flags--like she said this morning that he makes her feel like he hates her. I do NOT want to be in the middle of this-- and yet I feel like it is a huge mistake. What is the best way for my husband and I to respond without being in the middle and causing further division-- should they end up together? (USA)  My daughter is engaged to a guy and the wedding is in about 2 months. I am seeing big red flags–like she said this morning that he makes her feel like he hates her.

I do NOT want to be in the middle of this– and yet I feel like it is a huge mistake. What is the best way for my husband and I to respond without being in the middle and causing further division– should they end up together?

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