“I have to warn you about something. There can come a point in any marriage when you get fed up. You’ve lost patience with waiting to see some kind of change in your spouse. You’ve forgiven again and again and you’re weary of the struggle. You’re through with trying to make things better. You’re tired of being hurt over and over and waiting for a breakthrough that never comes.
“The years have taken their toll, and you subconsciously (or consciously) decide you are not going to try anymore. You no longer feel love for your husband (wife) the way you did, and you don’t even care about getting it back.
“This can happen in any marriage where one spouse is working to make things better and the other isn’t trying at all. Your heart can grow cold and hard like a stone, and it will seem as if the love you once had has dies. But the good news is that God has the power to completely turn things around. He is the God of miracles and restoration who makes all things new. Jesus —the ultimate source of resurrection power —can resurrect love that has died and soften your heart toward your spouse. He can bring your marriage to life again.” (Stormie Omartian, from Praying Through the Deeper Issues of Marriage)
The following are “Real Life” testimonies from people who have fought to save their marriages who have experienced God’s special touch and provision in their lives, marriages and circumstances. We believe you will be encouraged and find hope for yourself through reading them.
• WHY I STAYED: A Wife’s Focus on God Saves Her Marriage
• HER HUSBAND WOULDN’T SPEAK TO HER FOR 3 YEARS
• I REALIZED I WAS WRONG AND THAT I WAS A BAD HUSBAND
• GOD CAN RESURRECT YOUR MARRIAGE FROM THE ASHES
• MARRIAGE PUT BACK TOGETHER AFTER DIVORCE
• MARRIAGE RESTORED AND HUSBAND AND DAD FORGIVEN
• 3 COUPLES WHOSE MARRIAGES WERE SAVED
• SECOND CHANCES: Clint and Peggy Bragg
CBN VIDEO CLIPS OF TESTIMONIES OF MARRIAGES THAT WERE SAVED:
• FUNNY HOW GOD CAN CHANGE A MARRIAGE
• THE STEWARTS: Re-Married, For Better or Worse
• THE AGOSTOS: A Marriage Revival
• ROSCO & AMY BACKUS: Striking Out at Home
• THE BRYANTS: A Christmas Miracle of Marriage Restoration
• THE MARKLEYS: Finding Passion in Marriage
• THE BUNSES: Once Upon a Broken Marriage
• DAVID CARON: Reality Check at Death’s Door
• THE FOREHANDS: Inside a Stained Glass Marriage
• STEVE AND TERRY HAYES: Marriage Do-Over
• THE SCRUGGS: In Love with My Ex
• THE HAPPOLDTS: Happily Married At Last!
If God has done a special work in your marriage that could encourage others, we want to hear from you. Please share your testimony with us by going to the CONTACT section and clicking on “Contact Us.”
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(SOUTH AFRICA) My husband was overseas for 5 years to work hard so that we could have big wedding day. He left me whilst I was pregnant. I heard that he became a pastor but there were rumors that he was staying with a girl friend. When he returned back home he never spent even a single night with us. The next thing he did is to get married to the woman he was staying with overseas. How could I deal with this ordeal? I got married when I was born again and I love the Lord too much to deserve this. Please help!
(ZIMBABWE) Have been married for two years and with the belief that"Love conquers all" innocently fell a victim to the scum of betrayal and hurt by my husband. I am not saying I myself am perfect. After he moved to work abroad and started having affairs he has finally pushed for a divorce. Though hurt, I believe the LORD wants me to look at the positive side. He may be HIV positive or if not now, with that promiscuous behavior, it will only be a matter of time.
I really prayed and fasted for the saving of my marriage but now have finally come to the acceptance level that the LORD is truly with me. He might not send a donkey to talk as in the case of Balaam but is using this situation for me to really see His hand in redeeming and protecting me. Though marriage is God instituted, sin has marred it and the decisions we make each day determines our destiny.
If you feel you have really prayed on the restoration of marriage and nothing is happening, it’s time you start thanking the LORD for the unseen impending danger that might be lurking at the corner.
The LORD loves us all and would never withhold anything from us if we live holy lives, read and meditate on the Word, and pray unceasingly. And remember "All things work out for good to those who love the Lord and are called according to His purpose." If something truly belongs you, though it may have flown away, it will always come back to you. Just stand on the LORD and take heart.
(USA) Hi Gift, I love your testimony and agree with that 100%. I’m sorry to hear about your marriage but stay strong in the Lord – it sounds like you already are doing that! And stay safe in your country with all the political turmoil over the election (very sad to read about that). Be blessed.
(US) This message is for Vava, my name is Keta. I and my husband are separated, not my choice so I can relate a little with what you’re going through. I just wanted to say that God is bigger. The same God that resurrected Jesus Christ can mend a lifeless marriage. Just remember to speak on his return as if it has already happened. And truly believe it will happen. Remember faith can move mountains. I will pray for you, and you for me too please.
(SOUTH AFRICA) I think marriage is a wonderful thing, good experience.
(KENYA) I would like to share this link with all the people who still believe in marriage!
http://www.eastandard.net/mag/InsidePage.php?id=1143994748&cid=300&
(USA) Dear Xtine, Thank you for sharing this link with those “who still believe in marriage.” I love your heart that you care about those who want to save their marriages. But I have to say that while I agree with much of the article, there are also many things I don’t agree with.
The author believes that “True love” will never die. That’s true of God’s true love, and love, as it is lived out completely God’s way with both people applying His principles. But human love can be fickle and sinful, because that is the nature of human beings apart from God. Love, when it is lived out by fallible human beings, can be starved to death when neglected, just as we can starve any living thing if we take away that which sustains life. That which we neglect to death dies.
Love can also be killed and sabotaged by our own sinful nature. Human beings can be fooled into leaving that which is real and good to go after that which is fake and/or that which is the worst thing for us. I’ve met many people that have done this, only to live for the rest of their lives with regrets.
The author also said that “love stands the test of time.” Again, that is true of God’s love, but if those involved don’t do what it takes to allow or to help that love to stand, then it will succumb to the bad choices human beings will make. Again, I’ve seen this happen repeatedly.
I’ve also seen those who marry who are struggling with getting beyond the adjustments they need to make –make the right choice — God’s choice, to persevere through the storms that hit their lives together. But inevitably, it eventually takes two people to work together to make that happen. (It can start with one making the right choices in the beginning, but eventually, it will take both.)
I’ve seen as well, that love can appear to be dying but because of the perseverance of those involved, they can rebuild the foundation of their relationship all the stronger. Just as a house can be lifted off its foundation and moved over to a stronger foundation, and become all the stronger, I’ve seen married couples make the choice to rebuild their love upon a stronger foundation — the love of Jesus Christ. That’s what my husband and I did. Our love survived because of the choices we finally made to do what we needed to do.
So yes, love SHOULD never die, but it can be starved, or killed, or sabotaged, or can crumble if the foundation isn’t built as it should be. And yet with God all things are possible. Hope is alive as long as we cooperate and live out the principles God puts forth for us. God still resurrects love that appears to be dead! My marriage is one I can give as evidence, and I’ve seen it lived out in the lives of many, many others. PRAISE GOD!!!
(AUSTRALIA) I divorced my first wife because she ‘played up.’ My second wife died of cancer. My third, and last, wife turned frigid after we were married about 2 years. It is not just the man who destroys a marriage.
(USA) My husband has declared that he no longer wants to be married because I can’t seem to get things right when he asks me to do something for him. I’ve explained that my errors are not deliberate, especially because I hate it when he’s angry with me. Yet I still can’t seem to get it right.
Today I spoke with a heaven-sent friend who directed me to search for scriptures in marriage and I found this site. I love it! It has given me renewed hope and determination to continue to pray and never give up! I do pray for all those who have written in and asked for prayer because I too need prayer for this challenge. The enemy wants us to believe that giving up is the only way… I got news for him… God is greater and never lets us down. Thanks for the inspiration and hope you have given me.
(UNITED STATES) Good words in tough times. Scripture really can help. In fact, Jesus told us the very roots of every failed marriage: Hardness of Hearts — we are unwilling to act in forgiving and forgiven ways. We actually refuse to act in ways that could save a marriage!
Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.
Author of Save Your Christian Marriage
(USA) Well… today my husband said he filed or a divorce. He went and spoke with our apartment manager about getting another apartment for himself. This I can confirm because she called me with her sincerest concern. My heart hurts so much right now that I can’t find the words to pray! I don’t want to lose my marriage. My world feels like it’s crashing all around me now. I have faith in God but at this very moment it feels like that mustard seed has been completely crushed into powder. Please stand with me and pray.
(USA) Be still and know that I am God…..
http://www.christiancourier.com/articles/1245-be-still-and-know-that-i-am-god
Please read. You are not alone in ways you can not understand nor see, trust me.