“I have to warn you about something. There can come a point in any marriage when you get fed up. You’ve lost patience with waiting to see some kind of change in your spouse. You’ve forgiven again and again and you’re weary of the struggle. You’re through with trying to make things better. You’re tired of being hurt over and over and waiting for a breakthrough that never comes.
“The years have taken their toll, and you subconsciously (or consciously) decide you are not going to try anymore. You no longer feel love for your husband (wife) the way you did, and you don’t even care about getting it back.
“This can happen in any marriage where one spouse is working to make things better and the other isn’t trying at all. Your heart can grow cold and hard like a stone, and it will seem as if the love you once had has dies. But the good news is that God has the power to completely turn things around. He is the God of miracles and restoration who makes all things new. Jesus —the ultimate source of resurrection power —can resurrect love that has died and soften your heart toward your spouse. He can bring your marriage to life again.” (Stormie Omartian, from Praying Through the Deeper Issues of Marriage)
The following are “Real Life” testimonies from people who have fought to save their marriages who have experienced God’s special touch and provision in their lives, marriages and circumstances. We believe you will be encouraged and find hope for yourself through reading them.
• WHY I STAYED: A Wife’s Focus on God Saves Her Marriage
• HER HUSBAND WOULDN’T SPEAK TO HER FOR 3 YEARS
• I REALIZED I WAS WRONG AND THAT I WAS A BAD HUSBAND
• GOD CAN RESURRECT YOUR MARRIAGE FROM THE ASHES
• MARRIAGE PUT BACK TOGETHER AFTER DIVORCE
• MARRIAGE RESTORED AND HUSBAND AND DAD FORGIVEN
• 3 COUPLES WHOSE MARRIAGES WERE SAVED
• SECOND CHANCES: Clint and Peggy Bragg
CBN VIDEO CLIPS OF TESTIMONIES OF MARRIAGES THAT WERE SAVED:
• FUNNY HOW GOD CAN CHANGE A MARRIAGE
• THE STEWARTS: Re-Married, For Better or Worse
• THE AGOSTOS: A Marriage Revival
• ROSCO & AMY BACKUS: Striking Out at Home
• THE BRYANTS: A Christmas Miracle of Marriage Restoration
• THE MARKLEYS: Finding Passion in Marriage
• THE BUNSES: Once Upon a Broken Marriage
• DAVID CARON: Reality Check at Death’s Door
• THE FOREHANDS: Inside a Stained Glass Marriage
• STEVE AND TERRY HAYES: Marriage Do-Over
• THE SCRUGGS: In Love with My Ex
• THE HAPPOLDTS: Happily Married At Last!
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(SOUTH AFRICA) My husband was overseas for 5 years to work hard so that we could have big wedding day. He left me whilst I was pregnant. I heard that he became a pastor but there were rumors that he was staying with a girl friend. When he returned back home he never spent even a single night with us. The next thing he did is to get married to the woman he was staying with overseas. How could I deal with this ordeal? I got married when I was born again and I love the Lord too much to deserve this. Please help!
(ZIMBABWE) Have been married for two years and with the belief that"Love conquers all" innocently fell a victim to the scum of betrayal and hurt by my husband. I am not saying I myself am perfect. After he moved to work abroad and started having affairs he has finally pushed for a divorce. Though hurt, I believe the LORD wants me to look at the positive side. He may be HIV positive or if not now, with that promiscuous behavior, it will only be a matter of time.
I really prayed and fasted for the saving of my marriage but now have finally come to the acceptance level that the LORD is truly with me. He might not send a donkey to talk as in the case of Balaam but is using this situation for me to really see His hand in redeeming and protecting me. Though marriage is God instituted, sin has marred it and the decisions we make each day determines our destiny.
If you feel you have really prayed on the restoration of marriage and nothing is happening, it’s time you start thanking the LORD for the unseen impending danger that might be lurking at the corner.
The LORD loves us all and would never withhold anything from us if we live holy lives, read and meditate on the Word, and pray unceasingly. And remember "All things work out for good to those who love the Lord and are called according to His purpose." If something truly belongs you, though it may have flown away, it will always come back to you. Just stand on the LORD and take heart.
(USA) Hi Gift, I love your testimony and agree with that 100%. I’m sorry to hear about your marriage but stay strong in the Lord – it sounds like you already are doing that! And stay safe in your country with all the political turmoil over the election (very sad to read about that). Be blessed.
(US) This message is for Vava, my name is Keta. I and my husband are separated, not my choice so I can relate a little with what you’re going through. I just wanted to say that God is bigger. The same God that resurrected Jesus Christ can mend a lifeless marriage. Just remember to speak on his return as if it has already happened. And truly believe it will happen. Remember faith can move mountains. I will pray for you, and you for me too please.
(SOUTH AFRICA) I think marriage is a wonderful thing, good experience.
(KENYA) I would like to share this link with all the people who still believe in marriage!
http://www.eastandard.net/mag/InsidePage.php?id=1143994748&cid=300&
(USA) Dear Xtine, Thank you for sharing this link with those “who still believe in marriage.” I love your heart that you care about those who want to save their marriages. But I have to say that while I agree with much of the article, there are also many things I don’t agree with.
The author believes that “True love” will never die. That’s true of God’s true love, and love, as it is lived out completely God’s way with both people applying His principles. But human love can be fickle and sinful, because that is the nature of human beings apart from God. Love, when it is lived out by fallible human beings, can be starved to death when neglected, just as we can starve any living thing if we take away that which sustains life. That which we neglect to death dies.
Love can also be killed and sabotaged by our own sinful nature. Human beings can be fooled into leaving that which is real and good to go after that which is fake and/or that which is the worst thing for us. I’ve met many people that have done this, only to live for the rest of their lives with regrets.
The author also said that “love stands the test of time.” Again, that is true of God’s love, but if those involved don’t do what it takes to allow or to help that love to stand, then it will succumb to the bad choices human beings will make. Again, I’ve seen this happen repeatedly.
I’ve also seen those who marry who are struggling with getting beyond the adjustments they need to make –make the right choice — God’s choice, to persevere through the storms that hit their lives together. But inevitably, it eventually takes two people to work together to make that happen. (It can start with one making the right choices in the beginning, but eventually, it will take both.)
I’ve seen as well, that love can appear to be dying but because of the perseverance of those involved, they can rebuild the foundation of their relationship all the stronger. Just as a house can be lifted off its foundation and moved over to a stronger foundation, and become all the stronger, I’ve seen married couples make the choice to rebuild their love upon a stronger foundation — the love of Jesus Christ. That’s what my husband and I did. Our love survived because of the choices we finally made to do what we needed to do.
So yes, love SHOULD never die, but it can be starved, or killed, or sabotaged, or can crumble if the foundation isn’t built as it should be. And yet with God all things are possible. Hope is alive as long as we cooperate and live out the principles God puts forth for us. God still resurrects love that appears to be dead! My marriage is one I can give as evidence, and I’ve seen it lived out in the lives of many, many others. PRAISE GOD!!!
(AUSTRALIA) I divorced my first wife because she ‘played up.’ My second wife died of cancer. My third, and last, wife turned frigid after we were married about 2 years. It is not just the man who destroys a marriage.
(USA) My husband has declared that he no longer wants to be married because I can’t seem to get things right when he asks me to do something for him. I’ve explained that my errors are not deliberate, especially because I hate it when he’s angry with me. Yet I still can’t seem to get it right.
Today I spoke with a heaven-sent friend who directed me to search for scriptures in marriage and I found this site. I love it! It has given me renewed hope and determination to continue to pray and never give up! I do pray for all those who have written in and asked for prayer because I too need prayer for this challenge. The enemy wants us to believe that giving up is the only way… I got news for him… God is greater and never lets us down. Thanks for the inspiration and hope you have given me.
(UNITED STATES) Good words in tough times. Scripture really can help. In fact, Jesus told us the very roots of every failed marriage: Hardness of Hearts — we are unwilling to act in forgiving and forgiven ways. We actually refuse to act in ways that could save a marriage!
Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.
Author of Save Your Christian Marriage
(USA) Well… today my husband said he filed or a divorce. He went and spoke with our apartment manager about getting another apartment for himself. This I can confirm because she called me with her sincerest concern. My heart hurts so much right now that I can’t find the words to pray! I don’t want to lose my marriage. My world feels like it’s crashing all around me now. I have faith in God but at this very moment it feels like that mustard seed has been completely crushed into powder. Please stand with me and pray.
(USA) Be still and know that I am God…..
http://www.christiancourier.com/articles/1245-be-still-and-know-that-i-am-god
Please read. You are not alone in ways you can not understand nor see, trust me.
(INDIA) Dear Lord Jesus, my name is Sachin Morajkar. I am from India. I was in love with one girl. I like her so much. For 4 years we were in a relationship. Now she is saying that, I don’t want to continue my life with you. She wants to leave me. Jesus, I am crying for her. I love her so much but she didn’t realize. What should I do? I love you Jesus, so much… 2 years before also she left me. Then I prayed to you and I was asking for her in my prayer. Then you had made miracles for me. She got back with me… but Jesus, now I want her forever. I want to get married to her… Jesus, please give me back my girlfriend. Her name is Aditi. Jesus, I love you so much…
(SOUTH AFRICA) I’ve been married for almost 2 years and have a 18 month old son. My wife and I have been through a lot of changes in this short space of time and we’ve been under a lot of pressure, be it seeing to our son (whom has been ill a lot), work (demanding), Health (Exhausted and overworked) all the time, etc.
I’ve really been moved by this site and the information is so well put down, I realised I lack a lot in my marriage and I feel like I’ve reached the end of my rope. We’ve been for counselling before and still no change has come to our distant relationship. We have not been intimate in months and just about a week ago she told me "I hate you, you swine. You selfish and only think of yourself, I hate you!"
These words has been playing in my mind over and over again, never has she told me she loves me with so much meaning, with so much intensity. I felt like my world has fallen apart and that moment but I pulled myself together and acted as though I was not hurt by what she had said. We left home and went to a family reunion that day as though nothing had happened. I don’t know what to do or say.
I try to help wherever I can, I can truly say that I sacrifice as much as I can for my family, I see to them before I think of myself. My wife sometimes says I don’t think of her feelings and her wants. She says I always spoil things cause I always have to be analytical and so to details with everything that I make her angry.
She gets upset for not having her way but If I can’t have mine she gets upset with me, she can become very domineering and I always feel like less of a priority for her. She depends more on her dad and her mum than me for everything.
Maybe I’m not seeing to her emotional needs, I’m not sure what to do next. She’s been depressed before and blamed me for her state, she’s constantly moody and I guess it’s because of her lack of sleep (she sees to our son at night). I help where I can as well, however I try to make things easier for her by taking care of house chores, taking care of my son while she naps etc, but still there’s no end the this endless battle.
It kills me that I’m causing pain to someone that I love so deeply. How do we move on after this was said? I asked her again if she hates me that much and her reponse " I was angry and had to vent my anger, I never meant what I said, I just had to say something". It’s eating away at me and I love her, I just cannot believe that she’s that unhappy with me. Please help, Please.
(ZIMBABWE) Thank you so much on testimonies, I really enjoy this part. Guys, lets keep on praying that our mighty God will help us in what ever we want.
(USA) I have only been married for 3 1/2 years and after reading this post, I realize that the petty stuff that my husband and I deal with are nothing compared to what these individuals are going through. However, I realize that our marriage could come to this point if we don’t put Christ in the center. (I’m not saying none of these individuals have done that.)
My prayer is for each and every individual on this board facing separation or divorce … for the righteous, God binds up wounds and mends broken hearts. Guard your ears and your heart from bad advice. No matter how hopeless your situation may look, keep your eyes on Jesus who is not only the author and finisher of your faith, but can breath life into your seemingly lifeless marriage.
I’ve heard of couples who reconciled right in the divorce court or who were separated for 10 years and God brought them back together. Do not speak evil of that wayward spouse. Forgive him/her before they ever ask and pray for them daily that they recognize the error of their ways, repent and turn to God. Don’t let anyone else speak ill of your spouse. And, if you have children, do not tear that spouse down to the children.
I pray that the Holy Spirit comforts and God keeps each and every one of you. While you are waiting to see victory, continue to stay faithful in your walk with the Lord. Watch out for the enemy who will bring along that person of the opposite sex who seems to be understanding and can seemingly sweep you off of your feet. Satan is roaming around like a roaring lion seeking whom he may devour. He may devour those who are so focused on their circumstances that they are not looking at God.
Although I cannot relate to what any of you are going through, I do know that we serve an awesome God who delights in EVERY detail of our lives. God bless you and keep you!
May I suggest the “Love Dare” book? Preview or purchase this book now. And also, you may want to visit the web site at Fireproofmymarriage.com.
(U.S.A.) Latonya wrote something I agree with, we need to have Christ in the middle of our marriage or things go kaboom! I have been experiencing lately very confusing thoughts about my marriage because my husband doesn’t want to spend time with me, you know, just the 2 of us, intimately and romantic time, none of that, just work, financial problems, health issues (I have been having problems with my back, but I’m better now), you name it. But I still want to be with Him, and he has no interest on me whatsoever.
But I must confess that ever since I experienced back problems, big time !!!-, I have let myself go. I don’t care about looking nice, I feel so tired of trying to better our marriage intimately, I don’t know what to do anymore. Reading this helped me but I know I have been depressed and looking sloppy, not attractive at all. I don’t know if you have any advice.
I don’t want to give this problem to my sisters or my parents, so I’ve kept it pretty much to myself. I’m really drained.. I wish I could change things, but it feels impossible, is it??? I think that for God all things are possible, so, I’m putting myself into his hands.
(USA) I am so sick and tired of hearing about separations, divorces, affairs etc… And all of these marriage problems that it makes me sick to my stomach because Our Heavenly Father wants us to be happy and have wonderful marriages. Let’s fight back with THE WORD of GOD and tell the enemy that he can’t have our families,our marriages and our homes. They are ours.
We have to stand and believe and not give up and command the enemy and he will flee. We can’t just sit back and complain and moan and groan. Let’s fight back with the POWERFUL word of God. Let’s take a stand just like we do for cancer or anything else out there.
I am so sick of hearing about how the enemy wants to destroy what the Lord has blessed. Let us ALL pray every night or day for marriages all over the world and let’s not be so QUICK to throw in the towel. Just know that it is OUR Heavenly Father who can and will turn all of these ugly situations around.
We can command life back into these dead marriages. Remember the dead bones? Well, we can and will with God’s help call out to these troubled marriages back to life. "In the NAME of JESUS I call life back to dead marriages and to supernaturally bless all of these families, to restore love where it is needed. To bring back joy and peace to all these homes." Wow… I am on fire for the LORD… Praise HIS HOLY NAME. Let’s say NO to divorce and no to affairs etc…
(USA) Hi Dora, You have been on my heart since you wrote. I’ve been praying for you (and other who have written in other postings as well). But I felt that I needed to respond for your plea for “advice”.
First off, let me say how sorry I am for the loneliness you’ve been feeling — particularly in your marriage. I can well understand why you would feel depressed and lonely. It sounds like you’ve gone through quite the physical battle and now find yourself in an emotional one as well. That happens many times after going through what you have experienced.
Many husbands try to help when their wives are hurting, but eventually they don’t know what to do to “fix” the problem — particularly with a wife who is battling depression, so they have a tendency to compartmentalize that away and concentrate on that which they feel they CAN fix (like finances, etc) and withdraw away from their wife. It’s almost like an “enough is enough” situation. The illness or injury is overwhelming enough for them to try to figure out how to help… but then when the depression comes along with other factors that they don’t understand, they feel overloaded. And for the rest of the time they will in essence, put their head in the sand, and withdraw from their wife because of feeling helpless and inadequate in knowing what to do in such matters.
What’s difficult for us as wives to understand, is because WE didn’t want to be in this situation in the first place, we feel especially rejected when the husband goes into the seeming “survival mode” of ignoring the problem by their withdrawal from being our partner in this. Most women, because we’re so relational, don’t understand this type of behavior. We have a tendency to go TOWARDS someone who is hurting, but most men (not all) will eventually back away (because again, they can’t “fix it” and it makes them feel inadequate). It’s all very difficult to explain.
I’m not trying to excuse your husband’s behavior, I’m just trying to help you to better see what may be happening. It’s more of a “male” thing that most of us women don’t understand because it’s not the way we’re wired.
My own husband was VERY distant in the beginning years of our marriage when I was ill. I just didn’t understand it because I’m the opposite. I have a tendency to be a nurturer in those kinds of situations. If Steve couldn’t “fix” a problem I had, he’d eventually withdraw or would somehow be passive-aggressive in his reaction to my “imposing” my illnesses upon his life. It sounds a bit bizarre, doesn’t it? It was. And he’s the first to admit this now. We both brought a lot of selfish and also a lot of childish behaviors into our marriage. Mine just manifested themselves in different areas. But I’m sure not without sin.
Through the years, the Lord gave me the insight to see that I’m a more relational person than Steve (at least in the beginning of our marriage). And He helped me to see how, as God’s colleague in loving Steve, He could show me how to be discrete in helping Steve grow in this area of his life — to become more relational than he was when first I married him.
And it’s amazing how much my husband has grown. God is awesome! Now, my husband is VERY compassionate and helpful when I’m suffering (or someone else is suffering). But it has taken many years and a lot of patience on both of our parts, to “help” each other in the various ways we both needed to grow.
But all of that set aside, I want to encourage you Dora, to reach out beyond your husband. Try to forgive your husband’s lack of understanding in this area (it’s one of those “forgive him Father, for he knows not what he’s doing” kinds of situations), and instead look to God to help you. Prayerfully, your husband will eventually wake up… but right now, concentrate on you and God.
From everything you’ve described, it appears that you are depressed. You’ve just gone through a horrible time with your back, and it apparently, has left you feeling drained and tired and alone. And that can very well lead to depression where everything around you is colored gray. Whether your husband has or is contributing to your feelings of aloneness, what you truly need is a mega-dose of feeling connected to your Heavenly Father.
My advice to you is to make the time and opportunity to worship. Put on some praise music, read scriptures, listen to Bible tapes… whatever! But get alone with God and pour your heart out to Him. Read and pray through the Psalms to Him. Cry out… shout, cry, pray, journal, write, and talk to God… and LISTEN, as well. Let Him talk to you.
At various times in my life, I’ve gone through some very depressing times — one time, more recently. Some of these times have been short (like my recent depression), some have been lengthy — some have been circumstantial (like your back problems and my recent problem) and others have developed into bio-chemical depressions because of the length of the circumstances that originally dropped me off on the road to depression.
I’ve dealt with the depressive times in various ways (with one long bout being where I needed to go on anti-depressants to refill the serotonin depletion I was experiencing), but eventually, the BEST “medicine” was getting alone with God and crying my heart out to Him — not looking to others to help me. And then worshiping. I would praise and worship Him even though I didn’t feel like it. And eventually, His light would shine through. I would thank Him for the things that would come to mind, confess what I needed to confess that would come to mind, cry with Him over the things that would come to mind, talk, question, and listen.
During those times, after worshiping Him, I always ask Him what I need to do (if there is anything) that could help me in my situation. I don’t look to point fingers at others that may or may not be doing their part, but I look to Him with the attitude, “I’m the one standing in the need of prayer.”
I also pray with determination that I will not stop until He blesses me. It’s not that I’m demanding that He change my situation (because I must recognize His sovereignty), but rather that He will bless me to experience renewed hope that He and I will get through this time ok. I never want to lose hope that “I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.” And He never has failed me to eventually lift my spirits (even if it’s taken days and weeks of prayer to get there).
These times have been times of renewal and growth. I hope you will reach out to God during this time, to help you get beyond the pit you are now buried inside of. It may take time — but it’s time worth taking! You may even need to see a doctor to temporarily get on some anti-depressants to get your serotonin levels elevated a bit so you see things more clearly.
But whatever you do, look past man, and look to God to help you. Worship Him. “Do you not know: Have you not heart? The LORD is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and His understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint” (Isaiah 40:28-31).
And then as you are renewed in spirit, ask Him to show you what you can do to help you feel “renewed” in body so you don’t feel so run down — lacking energy and drive.
Ask Him to show you a ministry you can invest time in. As you invest in helping others, you will find yourself renewed as well. “…He who refreshes others will himself be refreshed” (Proverbs 11:25).
But above all, look to God. I pray you will, and that in Him you will find hope and help!
(USA) I was wondering if anyone else has experienced a problem like mine? My wife and I have been married nearly two years now. She had 3 kids and so did I when we married. We had none between us. We have had a lot of problems with the blended marriage thing.
Back in November of 2008 she moved out. I know I’m to blame for half the problems we’ve had. I never wanted her to move out though. While she was gone I felt the Lord wanted me to really try hard to save the marriage, so I went all out for the Lord and the marriage.
So about Thanksgiving we got back together. She had told me a few days in advance she had been talking to other guys. I told her it’s ok I can deal with that. She promised she would not do it anymore. I had a hard time believing that was all they did was talk so I did some investigating on my own. Come to find out she was with at least 2 of the guys sexually. I’m not sure about the 3rd. This was all within a months time. What am I supposed to think of this woman; and is this called cheating or was it ok since she left thinking we were finished?
(UNITED STATES) Shawn, I really hate that you and your wife went through that and I can tell that you love her and I am so glad that you listened to our Lord and are trying and want your marriage to work. What I really hate is that your wife fell subject to other men while you two were apart.
When you get a chance go to 1 Corinthians, chapter7; actually I think that you and your wife should read chapters 6&7 together. But in essence, the 7th chapter verses 4-5 states that your body is not your own and not to deprive each other except for a time(her cycle, to fast.etc) and it must be a decision that the two of you agree upon. After fasting you get back together intimately to satisfy your flesh-and also to,remember because you are married the marriage bed is undefiled and you are used to sexual touches.
In being together in that manner after fasting it relieves the other partner from sin…Satan comes in between you because he knows the flesh is weak and it must die daily. When you and your wife separated (which you will find in that chapter that the Bible tells you not to separate) you and your wife set yourselves up for the enemy to come in. He knew that you two had a chance of getting back together again and he had to taint your marriage so to speak to make you have the feelings that you have now about your wife.
She is human and she was without your touch. Now don’t get me wrong, what she did WAS NOT RIGHT and I pray that she is truly sorry for it and repents quickly. But please do not hold this over your wife’s head. While you two were away from each other I am quite sure that you too were subject to temptation.
Does it make you any different? No..because the Bible also says if a man lusts in his heart so is he…and it is the same as what your wife did physically..she did not tell the truth because she was ashamed of what had happened and did not want you to find out. Please deal with this issue so that you two can work on what really counts…your marriage and how to avoid leaving each other out in the cold for Satan to sneak in and create any more damage than already has been done.
So your question is cheating ?? No…it was adultery and in that 6th chapter you will find that it is hard for an adulterer to enter the gates of heaven-but you can’t focus too much on her because like I said before in that same chapter if you lusted in your heart for any woman, meaning looked at a movie, a magazine, had a conversation with a woman that was out of line or made a comment to her, a commercial or a woman passing you in the grocery store and had a thought of her in a manner that should only be for your wife, that is adultery also.
Because those thoughts have entered your mind and heart it makes you no different from your lovely wife…so ask god to reveal to you any time you may have been in violation of your marriage and when he brings it to your remembrance repent and be genuine with it and you will be forgiven. In the meantime, as you are back together again…seek Christian counseling…put that in the past and press on to the future…love your wife and seek to never separate and put each other in evil’s way again…get in your Bibles TOGETHER and stay there …please.
(UNITED STATES) Christie, amen! you have touched me with your response. My husband left me Dec., 08 . He says he wants a divorce because he is tired of being a husband and having to change his schedule to fit me and that we have had too many financial problems and mishaps (I’ve lost 2 jobs and we lost a baby 6 years ago). And he says that I am too sickly and has also stated that because I am sick so much, I must be of the devil.
My husband is a wonderful man, don’t get me wrong. I have never seen him like this before…Satan has truly attacked us and who left the door open? We did. We were not on guard and rooted in the word like we needed to be. He is a minister and I have watched my husband be a minister outside of our home but bible study at home or praying together…was not done and I begged him to do that for us because it just could not be right to pray and minster for others but there is no prayer or word left for each other when we got home.
My husband is now seeing a woman from the church we had just placed membership in and the pastor there has not called us into his office to talk about anything. My husband is his associate minster and armor bearer, But I have also found out that the pastor is on his second marriage. I don’t know if that has a part to play or not.
I am sick of the same thing. I am hurting just like others here but I am concerned for my husband’s soul and his ministry. He is twisting scriptures to fit what he wants and doesn’t want to do what is right. He used to counsel many couples in many areas but it seems as if he can’t remember any of the things that he instructed them to do.
I love my husband dearly, and yes prayer is powerful..there is nothing that I can do now but pray. God is in control..but there are days and nights when the loneliness comes and when the anxiety of divorce comes across my heart and iI fall to my knees in prayer…I need prayer like never before. I am renting a room from a lady that I don’t know. My car is being repossessed because my husband has stopped paying everything.
From what I hear he has another job and is doing very well financially and he seems to be very happy. There are times when I wonder if God sees and why does it look like he is blessing my husband with the intentions that my husband has in his heart to divorce me. So I have to stay in my word.
Let us pray for each other…someone has to take a stand for our marriages…we as Christians are starting to look like the world and there is no reason why we (Christians) should be in such a struggle in our marriage and families as we are in today if we are picking up that Bible.
The bible says be ye not conformed to this word…that means the worldly aspect of divorce..that is a law of the land..of Moses..not of God.
(UNITED STATES) HI! Links are great and very helpful to choose topics related to Save Marriages. This site is interesting and very nice. Thanks
(ZAMBIA) I am so encouraged to read the posts on this site, a friend introduced me to this site after learning what am going through. My husband and I are on separation (not my wish) right now. He moved out of our matrimonial home about 5 months ago and is staying on his own and is also seeing another lady. In fact, she is the cause of our separation. We have 2 children together aged 7 and 3 yrs.
This is the toughest situation I’ve ever found myself in. Sometimes I fail to concentrate even on my work because I am always thinking about my problems. I have been encouraged by one of the posts saying that we should claim the Lord’s promises. God always wants us to be happy in our marriages but the devil has brought a lot of lies. He always wants to destroy whatever the God has blessed.
Please, pray for our marriage to be reconciled and that the Lord would remove the devil and his lies out of my life. I really need your prayers because sometimes I just feel like giving up.
(USA) Please pray for the marriage of Bill and Thelma, that God bring us back together, but stronger in the Lord, so that we can go out and help other marriages.
(SRI LANKA) My husband and I separated 2 1/2 months ago after 18 months of marriage- it was his decision and it has torn my world apart. I knew we had issues but never something so bad.
We have had adjustment issues and communications issues since we got married and I suppose there was a lot of immaturity on both sides. My mother in law was also a dominant force in the marriage and I could never accept that and my husband never put me or “us” first.
Funnily enough, my husband is the Catholic and I was Buddhist, but after the separation, I found great comfort in Jesus Christ and I believe that He is helping the restoration of my marriage.
My husband finally admitted to me that now that the anger and bitterness has left him, he sees how difficult the situation is but that he has no faith that we can make this marriage work and refuses to talk about our issues. It would be a shame to let this marriage go because we don’t have issues worthy of a divorce – I know some of you and other people have REAL problems, these are minor issues. I pray everyday that the Lord can touch my husband’s heart and make him see that He intended everything in life to have a meaning and purpose and that just like He will never abandon us, it is our faith and duty never to abandon what He has ordained.
I pray everyday for change and at least to see my husband. My family is pushing for me to divorce him saying that he is not worth it, but how can I walk away? I know that God has heard my prayer; it is only a matter of time – I pray.
(NIGERIA) My hubby moved to his parent’s house because of job location and since things have deteriorated in my marriage. Every little step I make to bring it back looks like it’s mile apart again. I am tired. It has led to physical abuse and I don’t know the way forward. Help me.
(UNITED STATES) I need some advice. I don’t know what to do. I’m now divorced, as of 12/29/08. Well, let’s see here. I married in May 07′ and was only married for 6 months before my husband started cheating on me. At the time, I was 6 1/2 months pregnant with our son when my husband abandoned me at a rodeo in Arizona in Oct 07′. I was devastated. I had no money, no place to stay for the night and my husband was no where to be found. He called me the next day and told me it was over and he was done with me. He never came back home. He just left me for another woman with 3 children.
Our house was in shambles because of a flood we had 3 months prior. There I was 6 1/2 months pregnant, the house was a mess w/no floors or carpeting. I was alone to care for our home, the horses, pets, vehicles and finances. Since the day he left me I’ve been praying almost everyday that God will restore my marriage or that somehow He will bring my husband back to our family. On 12/30/07, I gave birth to our son and his name is Cash. Also, since the day our son was born my ex-husband has not given me any financial or emotional support for our son.
A lot of people think I’m “crazy” to be praying for God to heal and restore our marriage/family. It has been 20 and 1/2 months and my ex-husband has not come back. He doesn’t call me to check on his son. He’s even gone as low to say that our son is not his. He wanted a paternity test done and naturally I refused because our son was conceived in wedlock and there is no question that our son is his. I think he was just trying to get out of paying child support to us.
Maybe I am crazy to think that he will change or come back to us. I don’t know what to do. Should I just keeping praying or do you think maybe it’s really over? I need some advice. Thanks a bunch. ~Arizona, USA~
(USA) Dear Jlong, Bless your heart! You have such a sweet, forgiving attitude in how you are trying to love your ex-husband despite the ways he has hurt you and your son. It’s so sad that he doesn’t realize the treasure he is trying to leave behind.
As for your plea for advice, I just want to say that I/we really can’t tell you what to do. That is not our place. But your ex has definitely broken covenant with you and biblically you DO have the right to let him go. But just because you have the “right” to do something, it doesn’t mean that you HAVE to or should do it. That is something you need to determine after a lot of prayer.
As far as being “crazy” to think that he would come back or to “be praying to God to heal and restore” your marriage, there is nothing crazy in believing God for a miracle. I know of miracles that have happened, and it’s not out of the realm of possibility for God to do this. But you need to realize it is unlikely because from what you have written it seems like his heart is hardened. You can’t MAKE a person do what they are determined NOT to do. And God won’t make him do it either. He can say no to doing what he should be doing, just like you have that right.
I would personally seek God’s heart on this. I would not listen to the nay-sayers, if I thought they could be wrong. If God has planted hope in your heart, then go with God. As you seek God’s heart, HE will tell you if what you are believing will happen and when (if ever) it is time to stop seeking reconciliation. If your husband does not do a complete turn-around in the way he is treating you and your son, then I would not take him back. I would also start to build a life without him. I would keep praying for him, but I would not reconcile unless I was sure that I was sure, that I was sure, that God had worked a miracle.
The thoughts that come to me as I pray, is for you to commit your ex-husband to God and turn your eyes upon God as your husband now. Leave the results of what happens to your husband with God and put your energies with Him and with building a good life for you and your son without your ex. Don’t try to keep him in your life at this point. Release him. If he will not claim your son and is not supportive, and is so mean-spirited, he would be a bad influence on your son anyway and would hurt your heart as well by his selfish behavior.
Don’t waste your energies trying to bring a person back who is determined to do what he shouldn’t. Pray but do not play with that notion. … at least that is my humble opinion, but again, pray about any human advice you would get. God CAN work miracles… prayer, as you live for God will reveal if He will. May God richly bless your efforts to following and living within God’s will. Our prayers are with you.
(SOUTH AFRICA) I really need prayers. Here is my story. I got married last year on the 26th April 2008. My husband was working outside of South Africa (in Kenya) before we got married. Then he stopped traveling thereafter. Towards the end of May 2008 I conceived our daughter, which I gave birth to her on the 20th of January 2009. After giving birth I went to stay with my mom in Eastern Cape to help me with the baby and also to heal the operation.
When I was at home I received a call from a stranger and the number was privatized. She told me my husband is having an affair and she’s aware I’m on maternity leave in Eastern Cape.
I asked my husband and he denied. Because I trusted him so much I believed him (foolishly).
My husband visited us end March and he told me that he doesn’t love me anymore. He met a girl who is 11 years younger than I am, and he wants a divorce so he can marry her.
That really broke my heart, I was torn apart. I tried to talk to him, and I asked people from church to help us. He refused and he said he’s made his decision and no one will tell him what to do.
I came back to Johannesburg beginning April. He moved out from our flat to stay with her.
That strange caller revealed herself and told me she’s the cousin to my husband’s girl friend. She told me that he has paid the lobola and they have started with the wedding preparations.
During all this time I didn’t stop praying to God hoping that He’ll do miracle to reconcile our marriage. Then through browsing the net I came across the Marriage Mission website. I was very uplifted by the testimonies about the marriages that have been saved through prayer. Also the advices about the marriages. I just thought I wish I had saw it earlier on.
Yesterday I was served with divorce papers. I told myself I’m not going to sign to them.
Also something happen yesterday. His girlfriend has sent herself an email saying it’s from me and showed it to my husband. I didn’t receive the email; I don’t know what it says. I don’t even know how she sent an email using my account.
My husband was very upset and he sent me a message saying he doesn’t want to see me ever again, and he’s completely done with me.
I haven’t stopped praying to God hoping for a miracle.
(USA) Sivu, please know that we stand with you in love and prayer. I can’t imagine how desperate this young woman must be to send herself an email from you to give to your husband… but I can imagine that kind of desperation, because she lives on a slippery slope in this relationship. Whenever you push another down to stand in their rightful place, you can never be secure that the same thing won’t happen to you. And it may.
I pray you are able to keep your head up, your eyes upon Jesus and live your life in integrity and the assurance that God will help you as you as you lean upon Him in Truth.
"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight" (Proverbs 3:5-6).
I pray blessings upon you and your precious child and conviction and unrest upon your husband and this woman who is invading your marriage with your husband’s permission. May they never know joy until they turn away from each other and from their sin!
I pray God will help you to take your eyes off of their lives and onto living each day in renewed hope. I pray God will redeem that which causes you so much pain and will strengthen you to raise your child as a person of integrity and joy in the Lord — with a continual smile for all to witness.
(COLOMBIA) HI, Thanks for this site. On July 7th, my husband sent me AN e-mail and he wants to divorce. I’m devastated and my heart is broken. I am living in Colombia right now because I am in immigration process and I’m waiting here for my green card and I thought I would be back with my husband soon.
The long distance is hard. My husband is in USA. Please help me to pray. I cannot find the right words for the Lord, and this separation doesn’t help. But I have faith for God doesn’t have the borders. Please stand with me and pray.
(SWAZILAND) My Heart goes out to all you women of God who are going through so much pain. We who are still not married are beginning to lose hope in marriage even though I believe that somehow marriages work. My parents are in separation right now and I know how painful it is. But I still believe God can restore their marriage, the question will He?
Ida, I’m praying for you. Cindy and Steve thank you for such great work. It is yielding results!
(USA) Never, ever give up on God to restore your marriage. God will do it… if you persevere and BELIEVE GOD that he can do the impossible. Your spouse who is gone… satan has his grip on him and he/she definitely needs your prayers and standing in the gap! LUKE 18:1 Don’t give up! God will do it!!
(USA) This site has encouraged me so much. I have been in this battle for my marriage for at least 4 years and things just seem to get worse and worse. There have been times when I have had no idea what to pray, I have been bitter and resentful, blamed him for ruining my life. I have acted selfishly at times and I have completely shut him out in order to protect my self from anymore hurt. I literally have been in survival mode over drive, and as I write this letter I am thinking if I have ever really not been in survival mode since I first met my husband.
When we met I had just left a bad situation (sexual abuse, and lots of rejection from foster parents) and he was the first man that I ever gave a real chance to, (whatever that’s supposed to be). With everyone else before him… I was so (selfish). This site has been water in a desert and I feel like I can run on and see what the end is going to be.
Please pray for my family, for me and for my husband. I don’t know what I have put him through all these years. I tend to take on responsibilities that aren’t mine so I pray this is not one of those times, but please pray for me and my family. No matter how it ends I know God works all things together for those who love him and are called according to his purpose. God is always on time and this site has been right on time. God bless
(USA) My wife and I have been married for 6 years now and together for 9. I am 27 she is 24. We were both raised in church. I am a pastor’s son and she was raised by a very spiritual grandmother. Needless to say, we have had a rough time. I am in the military and have spent 2 of the last 6 years of our marriage overseas (Iraq/Afghanistan). Throughout our time, I cheated on her once, and she cheated on me once. We worked through both issues and somehow managed to keep our marraige intact (very extremely hard).
As of late, I have felt God dealing with me in new ways. We have been living our life against God’s will. Drinking, partying, not going to church, not reading the Bible, not praying. And randomly without expectation on Easter Sunday, my wife asked me for a divorce. Her reasons were that I was a money spender (we make plenty but I do spend a lot) and that I wasn’t the same man, and that I was childish. Although we had batted the idea around before this time she was extremely sincere. I did everything I could for 2 weeks and she will not change her mind. Finally I realized why. I couldn’t solve my issues myself so I turned to God… one night while praying I gave my life back to God, gave my marraige, my wife, and my entire vessel to God. I told him that I was his now, and that he is #1 in my life and no longer my wife (she is #2).
For the last 72 hours God has been using me. I feel like a sponge that cannot be filled I have started a journal to keep track of everything that god is doing in me. I have known since a young age that I was called to the ministry and I have been running for 26 years. In the last 72 hours, I have had 2 visions from God that I’ve had interpreted, and I have fought 2 demonic presences in my house. I truly feel an outpouring here in my home. My wife being a Christian (somewhat… as was I) sees my changes and still does not budge on the divorce Idea.
I realize that I have not been the compassionate Christian man, that I should have been (we both have plenty of faults). But mine were not of love. She knows the love I have for her. My fault was that I put it above God. I lavish her with gifts, and she says that she would rather have financial stability. So I have sold all my toys…motorcycle, playstation 3, Wii, Boxing gear, UFC gear ETC. I have started saving money in an account for her, and have begged her to stay… NOTHING IS WORKING.
I am not a lazy husband either. I cook 80% of the time, do laundry 50% and clean the house with her. I literally give her all that I am and it is all to no avail. All I have left is to pray that God will soften her heart. She says she “fell out of love with me” yet she says she still “Loves me.” It hurts so bad. I feel like Job… as if God is stripping me of everything because I was not in his will. How long must I wait Lord? How long? Bring my wife back to me… please. I give you my all Lord, just bring her back. She still lives with me but in the spare bedroom and has taken off her rings and acts as though we are friends. Please encourage me to survive this guys.
(USA) Get her out on a date. Some of the stuff you’re saying sounds like she is already in an affair. Check out http://www.divorcebusting.com for strategies of dealing with a pending divorce.
(LESOTHO) My husband has walked out on me and my three children. He has moved in with his girlfriend of three years and they are expecting a baby. I am a born-again Christian; he is not but we were both not when we got married. When I was trying to fight to save the marriage we were and still are not using similar weapons. I pray and hope with God all our mistakes can be turned around and we found a solution but that is a different case altogether. I still believe God can work a miracle although sometimes I get so discouraged when I realize he is bonding with his girlfriend and in the future with his new baby. When we meet there is absolutely nothing to talk about and when he talks in my presence he does not even look me in the eye.
I know only God has the answer but please just reassure me as Christians that although I am the only one who is praying for the survival of this marriage that God will listen and help me out. I kind of need some reassurance that I can fight alone and beg God for his mercy to save this marriage.
(SA) After being separated from my husband for 6 months, praying and fighting him away from the other woman and refusing to allow the devil to take what God gave to me, with the help of my in laws, friends and family and the Lord, my husband is back home. I fought for him with my soul, I prayed for him to change and I prayed for me to change and I prayed to God to show me a miracle as I had no intention of grieving Him through a divorce.
I knew my husband was what many would declare a hopeless case, a lost cause but I had to focus on the good nature he had and the side of him I so loved to win him over the side that made him feel he could find happiness outside. The Lord is powerful, He can bring life to a lifeless marriage. God brought my husband to his knees literally. First his mistress turned out to be a cheat, he found her with another man, then one by one he began losing everything he valued, trouble began at work, stress took over and before he knew it he had a mental break down. At that point I had given in to the idea that maybe, just maybe, I am better off without him.
That was when God’s miracle happened. He is a changed man, I am a changed woman, we are friends again, then lovers, then husband & wife, then parents. We are closer now, I have forgiven him and he’s forgiven me (I was after all a demanding wife). We pray together, dream together and fight together as a team to keep us and our family safe. We saw who our enermy was in our marriage and with the help of God we fought the enemy. My husband had to experience the loss and break down for him to have a WAKE UP call. Believe me he is AWAKE! Although it might not be this way for many of you, I pray you do not give up or give in. One of you has to remain fighting, believing, praying for change to happen.
I hate divorce says the Lord, and that was all I had to keep me going in winning back my husband and going through the process of change myself to see things through. Have faith. I know for me it will be both hard and good work from here on, but this website was like a recharge centre for me. When I was down I would find something to read that would remind me of my goal-to restore, rebuild my marriage. My husband and I recieve the weekly newsletter, it becomes a topic of discussion for us for that week and it has made us see how much we both value our marriage. Thank you and God Bless all marriages and send His angels to fight for the family union to be protected from the enemy. Amen.
(LESOTHO) Thank you Des for your posting. I feel like it is talking to me directly. Everyday I look at my situation and realize that indeed it is a hopeless one but I always put my trust in God because He alone can raise the dead. My marriage is as good as dead especially with my husband living with his girlfriend and their unborn child meaning he has all chances of bonding with that family. However, all I know is that we serve an awesome God. All He needs from us is trust and patience, very rare things in this era especially the latter.
(NEW ZEALAND) My husband first left me for another woman going on four years ago now. I was determined to make a stand for my marriage and family right from the outset but I did not realise how things were going to unfold along the way. We had three children at the time of him first leaving me but now have another one. We have gotten back together about 6 times throughout the last few years and the other woman is who he has been with when not with me.
I cannot make sense of why things have happened this way but I do know for sure that my God has guided me every step of the way and has been there for me, always! I have grown more in love with Jesus and He has done and is continuing to do a mighty work in me. I have forgiven my husband and am continuing to allow God to work in me as I desire to walk in total forgiveness for the other woman who is actually my ex sister in law (my husbands brothers ex wife). We all live in the same small community so it has been very difficult for me as I have been confronted with the reality of my husband living with the other woman, having our children stay with them and seeing them together at our children’s sports etc.
In saying that though God has been healing my heart and strengthening me by allowing me to witness some of that stuff. It has allowed me to measure my growth in Him and to know whether I truly trust Him, have peace through Him and desire nothing or no one besides Him. What I find very difficult at this point in time is that my husband has split up with the other woman for the however many times and has indicated that he wants to work things out. But I don’t know any more how sincere he is because of his track record. In the past he has said all the right things, did all the right things to lead me to believe that he’s sincere, only to leave me and the kids again.
I am at the point where I’m saying to God-I don’t care anymore Lord, if my husband doesn’t want me and finds it too hard to let go of the other woman, because all I want is to do Your will and make You the most important thing in my life! My husband has walked away from the Lord so my prayer for a year or so now has been more about his restored relationship with God and not my marriage.
Another question I ask is, does he have to be recommitted to God first before we are to be reconciled? I don’t see how it can work if God isn’t in his life and helping him to do what he needs to do. At this very moment my husband and I are trying to work things out, he is living at his mums but still in close proximity to the other woman and I was told this morning by my son who stayed with my husband last night, that he went somewhere in the middle of the night. I can’t help but think that he went to the other woman as there is no where else that he would go in the middle of the night.
Rather than be lied to and deceived all over again, I would much rather tell him that I do not want to get back together. I am so okay without him in my life and actually think I am better off without him. Please hear my heart, I am in no way bitter towards my husband and the other woman. I just desire so much to get on with what God has for me and I don’t want anything to get in the way of that, even my husband! I claim and believe in the promises of God and do stand on those daily. I’m just not sure whether the timing for restoration is now?
If someone out there has some advice for me or God prompts you to give me a word, I would appreciate that. God’s love and blessing be upon you all! xoxo
(USA) Tineke, I LOVE your heart! It’s very evident that God is doing a mighty work within your heart and life with your being able to forgive your husband, and that you have obviously been participating with God in this work. How I thank God that you are being released from the prison of embitterment and unforgiveness that is a trap for so many! It’s such a sad, sad situation that you and your children have been through, but as your sister in Christ, I rejoice that you are finding freedom.
As for reconciling with your husband, I have to say that I don’t know what is in your future. But for right now, from what you have written, I agree with you that you cannot trust this man at this point. He willfully and unfaithfully walked away from the covenant of your marriage and has not since shown himself to be trustworthy or repentant — quite the contrary. And if he is not repentant and reconciled in his relationship with God, he is capable of hurting your heart and the heart of your children again with his unfaithful ways. There is a difference between forgiving him and reconciling with him. I’m so glad you have forgiven him, but I caution you about reconciling unless every doubt is gone that he is sincerely repentant and shows you his sincerity and walks in truth (for a very long time).
I pray the Lord gives you wisdom and discernment and continuing peace and hope in the future as you raise your children with faithfulness being lived out within your home. I pray for your husband, that the Lord enlightens him and leads him to repentance and reconciliation in his relationship with Jesus Christ, not only as his savior, but as His Lord. May God bless you abundantly!
(GERMANY) Its been a month now and things has not really been going too well in our marriage. I’ve driven my husband to a point where right now I think he has given up in this marriage. At one point he said he didn’t love me anymore and that he wanted a divorce and if we were to stay together it would solely be for the sake of our two year old son. But of course after the big ‘fight’ I asked him if he meant what he said, to which he replied, no, it was only because he was angry and he never meant a word he said.
But yet after this, he seems distant and would always avoid eye contact when saying I love you and the intimacy seems to be lacking. I know its only been a month but it scares me that things could get worse. I wake up every morning with this fear that he would leave me and that he doesn’t love me anymore. I don’t blame him really. Yes, he did some things that hurt me so much but in bitterness over the past year I’ve ill treated him. And when this happened it has somehow opened my eyes and made me realize how much I have been hurting him with my words and unforgiving heart. Now, I regret so much everything I’ve done and I just don’t know what to do. Although he is still saying I love you and all but he is more distant then he has ever been in our three years of marriage. Yes, I’m praying but other than that I don’t know what else I am suppose to do.
(NEW ZEALAND) Thank you Cindy for encouragement, wisdom and prayer. I really do appreciate this. I have had an opportunity since my last entry to share with my husband how much God loves Him and wants to forgive him. This was done via email and he received it well. God continues to be in control of my situation and I am trying to listen to the Holy Spirit every step of the way. Words cannot express how thankful I am for God’s faithfulness to me and my children and also my husband. Bless you Cindy!
(US) I have been married for almost 2 yrs, but have been with my wife for over 8 yrs. We have a daughter who’s 2 and a half and is the most amazing gift I’ve ever been given. In the last 2 yrs I have lost both my sisters to cystic fibrosis, had a miscarriage with my wife, and many trials, that I can’t begin to list. For years we loved each other without any question. But with everything that has happened, we have grown apart somehow… My wife feels as though her love is not there for me anymore.
I can’t begin to describe what a hole that has dug into me. I am usually a tough individual, the type who doesn’t cry even at his sister’s funerals. Perhaps that was my mistake… I am affectionate, but I think it’s just been an emotional rollercoaster these past couple of yrs. and raising an infant in the mist of it all is enough stress by itself. I’ve believed in God my whole life, and in my own time was studying to be a preacher. I know he can do all things, But man does it hurt… I love her. More than the flowers love the sun, just never thought I’d hear those words.
Please pray for us, I know God would not let us go. Not just to fade away. Our love was unique to us, and in my heart it is still there. I pray God would soften her and help her to forgive me for my faults. I’ve lost enough, I really can’t lose the one part of my soul that I gave her. Please have mercy on me God, please. I love her and always will.
(KENYA) I will say a big thank you to this website and its contributors. I have just made up with my loving husband after 12weeks of conflict that was almost ending up in a separation. I am the one who wronged my husband but I did not realize how much I had hurt him until he withdrew himself from me completely and wanted nothing to do with me. I tried everything to reconcile us but my efforts were in vain. In an emotional moment I moved out of my matrimonial bed and went to sleep with my children in their room. It was during this period that I stumbled across this website as I was searching for divorce articles and what the future for a divorcee holds.
I went on my knees many times, cried and prayed to God to save my marriage, of course I expected a swift answer but that did not happen, I fasted and even dedicated one week to praying for my marriage 7 times a day. Still no answer from God. Finally I decided to look into the scriptures and examine myself critically, the book of Proverbs talked to my soul. I prayed to God to give me hope and to release all the bitterness and resentment that I held towards my husband. I must say this was the first time I felt at peace and knew in my heart that somehow God was in control and He did not want us to break up.
Believe it or not hardly 2 days passed when I received a message by phone from my husband telling me that I am free to file for a divorce (we were still not talking). Strangely, I did not panic or even fear and in a weird way knew that this was the break through I had been waiting for -because if he had wanted a divorce he would have told me that HE is filing for it and would not have asked me to file for it INSTEAD! I smiled at the message, did not reply to it but told God that I was ready to reconcile. In the evening I went to my exile room (my children’s bedroom) locked myself in, said a quick prayer and slept.
To cut the long story short, that night my husband asked me to talk. We had a heated discussion, I apologized for my mistake and we made up. We are still taking it one day at a time as we know 3 months is a long time to withdraw from a spouse and fleeing the matrimonial bed is a great risk that I wouldn’t recommend, but I am happy to say God answered my prayers in his time in his way.
(SOUTH AFRICA) If you read this, please pray for me and my husband to be reunited. I love my husband dearly. He decided to leave me, due to us not having things incommon, and fighting too much. He wants to file for divorce. I really do need everybody’s prayer. I am broken. Thank You.
(NIGERIA) I am so happy I located this site. I currently have a problem in my marriage of about ten years and I am really trusting for God for a miracle. We had a rough time settling down after our wedding due to the fact that we discovered huge personal and family differences that brought quite the conflict. I did not handle some of the issues well too. My husband expected me to be 100% in support of his actions (right and wrong) but I sometimes tried to play diplomacy between him and my family and got my fingers burnt as this only brought more conflict.
These issues took place over six years ago but he has refused to to forgive and forget despite my apologies, literally cutting off my family and struggling to make him happy. No matter what I do now in the past years, he is not impressed and calls me a piece of furniture in his house. I have suffered severe verbal and emotional abuse in the past years. He makes it clear that my actions in the past have put me in the situation I am in now and I should just wait and see how things evolve. Despite all this, his expectations for me in caring for his mentally handicapped sibling and filling other roles has not diminished.
He now has extramarital affairs and seems to be making attempts to move on with someone else (we have lived in separate towns for about 4 years as a result of his work). His only concern with me now is our kids and the whole thing has taken a toll on his Christian life; he does not even go to church or really believe in God anymore.
What do I do now? He does not even feel he owes me an explanation for the affairs though I can rightly predict that if he has to explain, he will tell me I caused it. He is not ready to listen to anyone so all I have been doing is praying. What do you advise?
(USA) Dear Eve, I don’t know if you will read this, it’s been quite some time since your post, but I want to share that regardless what happened in your marriage, your husband blaming you is an excuse for him to not take responsibility for his behavior. He is choosing not to forgive you, and he is disobeying God and His Word, God’s command to forgive.
Yes, he is abusive in his behavior towards you. You are doing the best thing by praying! God has all the answers. Listen to Him, He will speak to you. God wants to heal you, your husband and your marriage and family. He loves all of you very much. I’ve been through similar experiences and related to your pain and suffering. I am fighting for my husband, and my marriage in prayer. May this find you richly blessed by the Lord.
(UNITED STATES) Well, My story is a long one, but I will make it short. I’m 21, and was with my husband for 3 years. Things were going well, but went downhill… horribly. I got pregnant when I was 19, and we got married when I was 20, much too early for our own good. (His recruiter made that happen.)
So things started getting really rough when I found out he was not going to make it in the Navy. So now, at this point in time, he was out of the job, and I was not being a good wife and mother at the time, so I thought it was good idea to sign divorce papers and go to Job Corps to get a career and a good job. That was my mistake.
After I got away from things, and thought things out, it turns out that in all reality, I never wanted a divorce and I’m still in love with him. But now the damage has been done, and he let go of waiting for me, and signed the divorce paper as well. I tried reasoning with him, asking him to start over. Lets make it work, because I did not want a divorce.
He is fully content on not resolving anything anymore, and he says he has his new “life.” Now, I want our marriage back more than anything. I’ve been praying for him, and our marriage and that God will put it in his heart to come back. He is the only man I have ever been with and he is my daughter’s father. This has been happening over number of months. I love him so much, and I will always love him. I want him back in my life!!! I’ve been praying to God, and asking for a second chance. I do believe that God can bring broken things back together, Please keep me in your prayers!! and God Bless!
(USA) This marriage testimony blog is an inspiration to struggling married couples. What is being accomplished here is very much in line with Christian marriage advice being offered at Christian Marriage HQ. This website is full of Scriptures and bible-based marital advice to guide us as Christian married couples.
(UNITED KINGDON) God restored my marriage
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(UNITED KINGDOM) I am sure this message will help a helpless man/woman out there who is wandering what to do after the spouse abandon them. My husband left me with 2 young kids for 2 and half years but in the power of the Lord he is back in our lives and our marriage is far better than it was before. The day he left he was sure that he was going be happy without me. I cried to God, I begged him and asked Jesus to change my terrible way I used to respond to bad things my husband used to do to me. I learned to be HUMBLE, just to trust in the Lord. My husband has moved from the city to city looking for love and happiness. He moved from woman to woman, different races and colour but he was always sad. Each time he come to visit kids he could see me as a changed and humbled woman; Kids could welcome him as a king in home. Then one day Jesus ordered him to come home. He is happy now, He is treating us as princess. Kids are so happy. The house is warm and full joys and laughs. Please when your spouse abandon you don’t give up on your family just hand in their and stand for FUTURE JOY. Be humble, trust in the Lord and everthing else will land on in your hands freely.
Good luck
(T&T) I have been married for over ten years and I recently found out my husband is still seeing his ex, has a gambling addiction and is exchanging pornography materials with friends and co-workers. He comes across as an upright citizen and a man of integrity. I knew something was wrong but I could not fully identify it until I prayed and asked God to reveal to me what was happening because for the last two years he became emotionally distant.
To my great surprise, solid information about his infidelity became known to me e.g. emails, letters, bills, plan vacation etc. I started to confront him with some of the evidence and he doesn’t wish to speak about it. He’d rather we go our separate ways because of some of the things he is doing and saying but he wants me to be the one to ask for a divorce. Please help.
Dear Avee, How my heart goes out to you! I have to say that after reading your comment, I’m not sure of all you should do. But there are a few things I feel impressed to tell you. Please pray about what I am writing here and see if you think I heard God right in this. Please do NOT be the one who asks for the divorce. I don’t know the laws in T&T, but if it is possible, stand strong. Your husband is trying to get you to participate into his ability to play the blame game. If you are the one who asks for the divorce he can work it around in his own mind and in what he tells others, to blame you for the marriage breaking apart. He can say, “See! She divorced me. I didn’t abandon her.” If you can stand strong in making HIM do the filing for divorce instead of you (if that’s what it comes down to), that would be better. It’s not great… but it’s better because God can use it to convict his heart.
But what you can do is demand that adultery is not brought into the home where you live in. His emails, letters, bills, vacation plans, infidelity, and activity in exchanging pornography is all cheating. His gambling activity is a type of robbery he is committing in your marriage. He is stealing money from what is both of yours to satisfy himself alone. Either he should leave, or you should UNTIL and UNLESS he changes his ways and starts participating in this marriage, in a healthy way. This is different than asking for a divorce. You are protecting your sanity, your ability to live in peace in the sanctity of where you live –rather than the chaos his activities bring into your life. IF he changes, then you can see if the change is genuine and see about reconciling, as you go through the process of testing the sincerity of his convictions and actions –whether they match. God will guide, I’m sure of it, as you give it to Him.
Beyond that, the best thing you can do is pray. Be intentional in not lowering your standards and also not being judgmental. Ask God to show you how to do all of this without throwing verbal stones at him, if that is possible. Be honest, be direct, put down reasonable boundaries, and protect yourself, but give God the elbow room to work on your husband’s heart without your acting like you are his Holy Spirit. Let God do that. Protect your heart and body and home, as God shows you, and leave the convicting to God. I truly hope this helps. May God empower you to do what needs to be done and give you peace in the midst of this storm. My prayers are with you.
(US) I found the Lord 1 yr ago. I trust and believe and have faith that anything is possible through Jesus. In April I will he married 4 yrs. My husband broke my heart 2 1/2 yrs ago after our son was born. It’s been a struggle. I knew he was cheating (has a child outside marriage) and abusing alcohol.
But due to my faith he has made a change for the better. It takes time. There are days when the enemy trys to get the best of me, but I am a child of God! A sanctified wife sanctifys her husband! The power of prayer works.
(AMERICA) My husband just told me a week ago he wanted to separate. He said he wasn’t happy and needed to be by himself. It has really hurt me. I have been praying for him and our marriage. I believe with God we can work this out eventually. We have two children. We need all the prayers we can get.
(USA) I am done praying and waiting for him. I’ve come to think that I was born to be a human sacrifice. I know my husband does not love me and he will not divorce me for finacial reasons. He was arrested for domestic violence. His mother and him assaulted me with our 5 year old in his arms and his mother yelling, kill her or I will. He blames me and has chosen and always choses to live with mother. He takes my son’s food money to meet his mother’s needs to visit FL. Every month no child support… he does not care because his mother does not care. He sides with her and she with him and gives him permission to treat the mother of his child as garbage.
He faked having prostrate cancer, stage 4, so I would not show up to court. Also he had my cell phone disconnected the day the DA /soliciters office told him that they would be calling me to court and testify regarding domestic violence charges. I give up but have no funds for divorce and I am embarrassed and ashamed for being stupid. I do not want to tell the solicitor.
I just don’t see how God is on my side. It seems that I got what I deserved for being so stupid. But I am not mad at GOD and I still believe. I just don’t believe in him or my marrage to him. On the positive side God is powerful and I have faith that he will change my life for the better with his grace. He already has my 5 year old, who believes in him and his son Jesus and has conversations with me about GOD. I am so grateful.
Dear Carol, Upon reading your comment and praying, what I see here is that you have a classic case of abuse going on. Please read through the “Abuse in Marriage” topic. As you read through it you will see that most abuse happens because the abusing spouse feels he or she has lost control of the situation on some level, and so they lash out in ways that are abusive. His actions and then what you said about his faking prostrate cancer are ways of trying to gain control and not being accountable for inappropriate and downright wrong behavior.
Again, please read through the topic on abuse because you need to better understand the manipulations of an abuser. And then you need to do something about it. If you go into the “Links and Recommended Resources” part of that topic, you will see contact information for hot lines and such, on abuse. Please contact at least one of them and talk it through with someone who knows a lot about this type of behavior. You need to do this for you and you need to do this for your son. He needs to have his her father at the very least, help in financially supporting him and NOT abuse his mother.
Also, he is watching his father and he is watching you as to how you both react in these types of circumstances where one parent is hurting the other. I don’t know the whole situation but what you describe was not only abuse that YOU received but that he saw and was a part of, as he was watching it all. This should not be so. You need to protect yourself and your son from this type of wrong behavior in the future. A domestic violence counselor can tell you how to do that (as well as the info we have posted on this web site).
And for your son to hear his “grandmother” (I hate to use that term to describe this woman, because as you describe her actions, she doesn’t sound like much of a grandmother) –to hear her scream out what she did, that type of behavior will emotionally scar him. This young boy is impressionable and needs your protection and you need protection. I hope you will talk to a Domestic Abuse counselor (it won’t cost you financially). This type of behavior should never happen to you or to your son again, if you can in any way prevent it. I hope it doesn’t. I hope you will reach out and then receive the help you need. I pray for you and your son. May God grant you both favor in bringing peace into your life and into your home.
(UNITED KINGDOM) Hello everyone, my name is Sharon, I have been married for 3 years having known my husband for 12 years in total, which includes those that we’ve been married. He’s the love of my life meaning he’s the only man I have ever truly loved. I thought I was the same for him, until last year in September 2011, when we started having challenages in our marriage. In November I upset him by not submitting, being quite challenging and he packed up everything of his and left.
Its been 6 months and I haven’t seen him. I have apologised over and over again and he won’t give in. I have been praying and fasting. I have a pastor who has been standing in agreement with me. He went on holiday and came back, and he tried to call me but I was not available, so I called him a couple of weeks later, and he told me its been sooooo long we need to meet soon and he told me he would contact me.
So I got so exicted thinking this is it. I encouraged him to meet me soon but he insisted that not that soon, cause he’s still sorting himself out. I felt so disregarded by him. I was so disappointed. I felt God had not answered my prayers although God has shown me my husband is coming back home a couple of times through dreams.
At this point I asked for a divorce and he gave all the rights to go ahead, but I thought no, I am not going to file for divorce. I love my husband and I now know that God is firmly against divorce, thanx to this site. At the moment my number can’t get through to his. He locked his phone so that I can’t call him. However, I am still standing firmly in prayer and believing that God is more than able to fullfill his promises in his own time.
But I must agree with you guys this is tough. It’s tough soooo tough to the point that we also must get tough at the devil who tries to break what God has joined together. So lets stand firm, and tough against those small discouraging voices with the word of God. Lets not let this book of the law depart from our mouths. Please give me some advice.
(ZIMBABWE) I have been married for 4 years, and my marriage was the rough marriage one could ever think of. My husband cheated on me several times and to make matters worse none of my inlaws like me. In fact they always told my husband to divorce me. They always looked at my faults intending to make us separate.
Unfortunately, my husband lost his job and things became worse. He moved to his parents home and that’s how we separated. Things were tough at that time as I was in debt and could not afford to rent an apartment for us and the kids so I also moved to my parent’s home. I started praying that I didn’t want this separation and at that time he began to tell me that he didnt want this marriage anymore because of our differences (fighting a lot). He kept on insisting that he never wanted anything to do with me. And he also got influence from his mother and sisters who from the start were against our marriage.
I fasted and prayed to God that I wanted to afford to rent an apartment and restore our marriage back, and yes “BE STILL AND KNOW THAT HE IS GOD.” After some months I got the exact apartment I had prayed for, and I asked him to come. He told me that he will be coming at the end of this month. I’m still praying for protection from evil attachments that he may not fail to come because yes, I am praying for this restoration of my marriage. Sometimes I feel like giving up because he still is rough.
He comes to see his children. We do kiss but we don’t share any laughter or jokes. I sent him a message asking him if we were still married so that I know and he replied back that he will be coming to stay with me end of this month. But I am praying to God to give me strength and for him to make him a better husband. I am sacrifing a lot to restore this marriage but at the same time I’m so scared to live to regret, after I would have sacrifice this much because his mother doesn’t like me at all. Please pray for me that I wont lose hope in this man, that I won’t lose faith. I love my husband and my children love him so much.
(USA) First let me start with God is great all the time. My wife and I have had marriage problems because I lost faith in God, but I’m renewed now and it has been a few months and I feel as if everything I try to do drives her further away. I love her very much and I know that this didn’t happen overnight and it won’t be fixed overnight. I just need some advice I pray all the time wanting to be a better husband and father but I don’t know if she can ever forgive me. Just please pray for me and my family thank you and God bless.
(INDIA) I loved a girl for 5 years and finally we married in a civil ceremony. When her parents came to know, from that day I haven’t been with my wife and now they filed a divorce case in court. Please help me!
(USA) We all have to remember when God removes something he does it for a reason. We also have to remember some of these marriages God didn’t put together. We got together with people we discover, without going to God for confirmation. So it’s a man made marriage. That’s what I did 17 yrs ago. God had nothing to do with my marriage. We were unequally yolked so it was doom from the beginning. Today I am about to marry a God fearing man who I love very much and I spend countless hours speaking to God about what to do and when. We have been making so many changes –him and I.
So keep your heads up; keep your faith and always let God lead your life. Also, remember when God removes something it is best for you. Take what you learn and move on. Remember, people come into your life for a REASON, SEASON, OR A LIFETIME. BE BLESS AND HOLD ONTO GOD AS HARD AS YOU CAN BECAUSE HE TRULY LOVES US ALL, AND SO DO I.
(USA) I need prayer for my marriage, my husband says that he can’t keep going with this… That he’s unhappy, angry and depressed. And that he can’t believe me anymore that I would change. I can’t let my marriage go down the drain. So I ask for prayer that God will change his thinking… and that we can become a happy married couple.
(TOGO) Claudia, I am not good in English but I just want to tell you that nothing is impossible with GOD. Remember that prayer changes things, persons, situations, relationships, …and the list goes on. GOD IS AWESOME.
(USA) Hi, I’m Laura and I’ve been having problems in my marriage. My husband moved out a few days ago but in my heart its been for a few months. He became quiet and different, like a stranger. I never knew it was this serious. He started chilling out with his friends a lot more and came home without wanting me. I saw changes progress negatively.
I love him with all my heart, I won’t let go. I believe in Christ. I know this is in his hands. I have faith but it’s not solid because I keep breaking down. I know Jesus hears me cry out. I know God Is Love! Help me please. I keep falling to my knees everyday. I keep trying with my husband. He continues to say he doesn’t love me… that he lost all love for me. Please pray over us, please help me Jesus, please. I beg you. I was married in your name. I love you I believe you are the key. Thank you.
(USA) Hi Laura, You didn’t say in your post how long you have been married for, but that really doesn’t matter right now. I would have to say that he has done something but doesn’t want to come clean about whatever it is. I have been in a loveless marriage for over ten years. My husband tells me he loves me but stays at work late to avoid me, and ignores me when he is at home except for necessary discussion. I feel the pain you are in. Are you in couseling for yourself? Debbie
(USA) I have been standing for my marriage for a year now and God has done a mighty work. I am not living with my husband yet, but clearly God has renewed his love for me. Prior to us falling apart, our separation was good. We didn’t discuss the deeper issues in our marriage and that bothered me.
We had date nights, were speaking every day, then one Saturday morning my prayer was answered. We had a huge fight about why we were separated to begin with. From that Saturday until now, the phone calls stopped, the date nights came to a halt. My husband wouldn’t take my calls, let alone return them. I fell apart inside wondering if I should have rocked the boat by bringing up our deep issues of lack of intimacy and why, and how I needed space in the marriage. He couldn’t understand why and took it as rejection.
Then, Christmas Eve he called just to relay his love for me. I hadn’t seen him in two months and had only spoken to him sporadically over those two months. But in those two months I decided to just stand still and see the salvation of the Lord. The one scripture that stopped me from calling and bothering him was “Have faith in God.” No amount of whining and begging him or God was going to change anything.
I would have to have faith to move the mountain, not unfruitful, begging and complaining that God was taking so long to move on my behalf. After all, it began to sink into my spirit, it is God’s will for my marriage not to fail. God also put seedtime and harvest into my spirit. There is a time and season for everything under heaven and the healing of my marriage was no different. I had hurt my husband by leaving him and I had/have to deal with his healing.
By pulling back and trusting God, we have begun our date nights once again and are working toward getting back together. He answers my calls and returns them. We don’t argue about our deep issues, but discuss them. My husband still has some issues, but praise God HE is working them out, not us ourselves. Each time I feel anxious about my seedtime and harvest, I tell myself “Have faith in God”. It works. Mountains are moving and it seems me and my husband are on the right track to reconcile any day now. What a blessing this site has been to me and my marriage. -Michele Still Standing
(USA) Lord please I beg you. I have been separated for 6 months now and my heart is completely broken. My husband almost had a affair and is a porn addict. I prayed and tried to forgive him but he made me distrust him so much. I want him to come home. I really do, please GOD you say you will and can convict and save anyone. Lord, please God. Please change the heart of my husband change him God. Break his heart and make him change his mind I do no want a divorce. Please GOD!
(NIGERIA) Please, I need prayer and direction. Lord, come to my aid. I have been married for 2 years. About 6 months ago I returned to my father to let them call it to my husband’s attention to provide for me and our baby. He is a pastor. He claims that there is no place in the Bible that says a man should provide for his family. I pay the rent, feed us, take care of the home, and give him a little monthly money.
I a wanted solution but he told me to remain in my parent’s house till I accept it that he is not to provide. He only sleeps, prays, and goes on evangelism in the evenings. My dad said he should come with his uncles but he refused. He even tells people that I wasnt his kind of woman, that he only saw my salary and married me, thinking I will submit all monthly so he can start up his ministry. I need help and prayers. Lord, do what no man can do for me.
Hilda, This is disturbing, to say the least. Your husband obviously doesn’t know his Bible, and obviously does not have the heart of Christ. A few scriptures that come to mind are: “For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat” 2 Thessalonians 3:10. Also: “But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever” 1 Timothy 5:8.
Marriage is a living symbol of Christ’s love for the church, with the husband symbolizing Jesus Christ Himself, who cares for his bride. So what your husband is saying by his words, attitude, and actions is, “I will only be a part of your life if you carry me and my needs… I care about you only to the degree that YOU carry me financially and meet MY needs. You are rejected if I have to provide for you.” Hilda, this is so, so sad that he is so narrow-minded in his view of “evangelism” and “ministry.” Honestly, with that attitude, I lovingly, wouldn’t financially support him. You are only enabling horrible behavior. He needs to stop denying “the faith” in the way in which he is living his life, which is “worse than an unbeliever.” You need to seriously pray for him. Let him fall financially and pray that it wakes him up to being a servant leader as Christ was and is. I pray with you that he wakes up spiritually. The damage he will do to kingdom work for those who are looking for hypocrites, is immense.
(NIGERIA) Thanks Cindy for that piece, it was quite helpful. We have not been together for six months now and I haven’t given him anything for 6 months. I am living with my father for now, he told him to bring his uncles to tell them the situation but he refused. God can transform, I pray he transform my husband and unites us. Please pray with me.
(US) I have destroyed my marriage with alcohol abuse. My wife has endured the last 4 years of me being in and out or recovery. I’m so grateful for the time she has spent with me. I cherish our marriage and I’m devastated that she is ready to give up. I understand why she would be and I can’t say that I blame her. I take and accept full responsibility for my marriage failing and for pushing her away.
I have been consumed by the disease of alcoholism and it has finally destroyed everything I love. I never stopped loving my wife I was at a point of helpless and hopeless. I’ve finally been broken down to the point that all I have is prayer and trust in God. My wife recently filed for legal seperation and said she has no desire to save our marriage. I’m still very in love with my wife and feel like my world is crashing down around me. I feel at the absolute lowest point in my life and find it hard to have hope in the future and sincerely believe that God may restore my marriage. HELP PLEASE.
(USA) I fullheartedly recommend all couples to watch this video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B3saGxNMwpE
(USA) Good luck getting a wayward wife, bent on divorcing her husband to actually sit down and entertain the idea that she can once again fall back in love with her husband while she’s having her affair with her lover.
I’ve observed that those romantic “in love” feelings are largely impervious to facts and reason.
(SOUTH AFRICA) Firstly, I empathize with those in pain. I have grown to understand how taxing and excruciating emotional pain can become. I have been lurking for a while in an attempt to find solace owing to recently being heart broken from a serious 1.5 year relationship with about 3 weeks staying together. Now I know I was not married to her, but we believed we loved each other and perhaps because of immaturity on both sides we thought since we are in a relationship all will be fine.
We broke up 7 months ago according to me and 10 mos ago according to her. Blaming aside, I never really felt pain till she told me she was now intimate with another man, perhaps because I had hope. I did lots of bad things to her in the past, which I am awfully regretting now, name-calling, beating, neglected her emotions etc. God’s vengeance has been now set on me and I am in so much pain. Not a day goes by without me thinking about her. I did lots of things in attempt to make us reconcile only with little or no success, the last time to which I was only laughed at. I am in shame.
I am in my final year of studies at college and am at the brink of losing my future because my mind hardly can concentrate. I was a very God-fearing man but a lot got in the way and satan drove me as much as possible from God, before I even realized it. But I am strongly believing that God has his ways to take back lost sheep. Whether you never believed or not you are still his sheep. To all those in pain who have been drawn closer to God because of the hurt and emotional wounds caused by your significant other, I say God had to make a wake up call. Lets not despair in faith; lets not lose hope, be it from straying partners, or hurt memories, we can’t let go. He is a Lord of wonders. He says those who seek me with all their hearts will find me.
Anyway, this is all I want to say. Please pray for me and let me embrace this as an opportunity of wisdom and growing closer to God. My ex has significantly changed a lot. She tells people bad things from our relationship and tries to turn all my friends against me. I hold on to faith. I do not know whether it’s strategic revenge or what but what I’m doing is praying for her, that she may forgive me for my wrongs, soften her heart and do away with all bitterness.
In the meantime I shall pray for you brothers and sisters and please remember me in your prayers too. I am young and with this modern world it’s easy to stray and mess up my future. Thank you Cindy Wright and husband. May God keep blessing your work. God bless you all.
(US) I have been on this site well over 9 months since my wife and I started having problems. It have been such an inspiration and given me lots of hope that even the marriages that hit rock buttom can emerge into something new and fullfilling. MY wife and I have been separated well over 6-7 months. We have 2 young children ages 6 and 3. I love my wife and children deeply and am trying everything to get our family back on track.
Each day I look for signs from my wife showing that she still wants the marriage but everything shows that she wants out. I pray that God is going to heal this broken marriage and reunite our broken family. This emotional pain is so unbearable, pain from having a torn up family and just being alone. I try to encourage my wife to pray for our marriage, knowing that God will help us through but she even says she will not pray for this marriage. God, I ask that your help me find hope and have faith in my marriage vows. Please say a pray for this broken family and ask God to restore this marriage with love and happiness that he intended for us. Ask that he would open my wife’s heart to reconciliation. Please pray for us.
Dave, We are praying for you and believing with you that God will work within your heart and your wife’s heart and within your marital relationship. As God opens eyes, we hope that both of you will make godly choices, big and small –good choices to find ways to show love to each other. We also pray God infuses hope into your heart that you will eventually experience better days –ones that will bring a smile to your heart. May you be blessed for your faithfulness in trusting in Him.