Pray day and night in your wife’s name. Find scriptures in the Bible where God has promised the desires of our heart, that are just.

I am also going through a divorce. My husband left the home and created a child outside the marriage and he resides with this woman. We have been separated for four years as a result of this. He has made constant attempts to reach out to me over the years but I was devastated and ignored his attempts. Now I regret it.

Two months ago we spent time together and it was like we never parted. Then once again the memories and the pain came back and I once again distanced myself. The next thing I knew he filed for divorce.

Please pray for restoration in my marriage and a change my husband’s heart and shape him into a man of integrity, as I will pray for your marriage also. God said that when two or more are gathered together in his name, there is blessing and power. You are not alone.

I have confessed to her and God my wrong doings and my part in this and have told herI am willing to do anything and everything to reconcile, but she says she has been too hurt and is not willing to go on. Please pray for her healing, I know I have not treated her fairly, and ask God for His will to be done in this. Thank You.

All but one of them have formed this terrible opinion of me because of all he’s divulged to them… Most of his friends are female, and a specific one with an agenda. People I don’t even know. He gave one of them my phone numbers and my email addresses, the one whom has such hatred for me, and I feel violated by that… He chose to believe the worst about me and forsook me for other people… When he had to make a choice to defend a person, it wasn’t the one he made his vows to, but it was to his posy of women friends…

What was supposed to be under the blood and forgiven, he has made me re-live over and over until I can not repent anymore…

I have never even so much as looked at another man, so there’s no adultery nor fornication involved in our separation. He is now publicly declaring his singleness and actually made public statements online to a sister that he and I are "no longer"… If I were to do this very same thing (which I haven’t and wouldn’t), he would call me an adulteress and say that I was seeking for another man… Yet he is public that he is single and available!

We haven’t spoken in almost 2 weeks, which I suppose is good because he just hurts my feelings anyway and accuses, so I’m better off not listening to the negative things he has to say about me, but I’m still hurting… I am bound to my covenant and will never never betray my vows… Please pray for me…

He works full-time and has been giving a chunk of his pay check and has supported his baby. He has been trying to visit his baby on his days off but they have purposely avoided him. He has been so sad and to make it worse now, they have put a restraining order against him.

From my point of view they are trying to hurt him in all ways possible. One after another, she leads him on and then pushes him away. I understand if she’s over him, but that doesn’t give her a reason to keep their daughter from seeing him. He just needs lots of prayer. I love him and I hate to see him sad. I am a mother myself and I can’t imagine missing the first year of my daughter’s life because they were so precious. (Tear) Thank you, and May God bless you all.

WHILE I AM ASLEEP HE IS WATCHING TV AND WE DON’T HAVE QUALITY TIME TOGETHER. I DON’T WANT A DIVORCE ESPECIALLY BECAUSE OF MY BABY, BUT WHAT ABOUT MY FEELINGS TO ME? IT IS LIKE HIS MOTHER ALWAYS TAKES FIRST PLACE AND I TAKE SECOND. WHAT DO I DO? SPEAKING TO HER DOES NOT HELP BECAUSE THEN SHE GETS SICK AND LANDS IN THE HOSPITAL. AFTER HER HUSBAND DIED SHE BECOMES DEPRESSED EASILY. WHICH OTHER WAY CAN I DEAL WITH THIS? THANKS.

THE FOUR BLESSED LOOKS
Look back and ‘Thank’ God.
Look forward and ‘Trust’ God.
Look around and ‘Serve’ God.
Look within and ‘Find’ God!’
‘I asked God, ‘How do I get the best out of life?’ God said, ‘Face your past without regrets. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear!”
‘Without God, our week is: Mournday, Tearsday, Wasteday, Thirstday, Fightday, Shatterday and Sinday. So, allow Him to be with you every day!’
‘Life is short, so forgive quickly. Believe slowly.. Love truly. Laugh uncontrollably. Never regret anything that makes you happy. And have a wonderful journey!!

Another note, not necessarily related to your current situation, is to keep in mind that Deuteronomy is part of Moses’ law – that the "old law/old covenant" that the Israelites kept before Christ came. It was a rather harsh law. Additionally, Christ said to the Pharisees that the only reason Moses allowed divorce at all was because of the "hardness of their hearts." See Matt. 19:8 If you also notice, he says from the beginning it wasn’t so. In other words, that men shouldn’t be putting their wives away. You’ve already said your husband is in a state of unforgiveness of you – that’s what causes people to leave their spouses or "put them away."

That’s something your husband has to work through, if he wants to. I like your repentance at having the affair and your desire for reconciliation. Perhaps your husband will come to a state of forgiveness of you and you two can reconcile.

If you want to know the New Testament laws on marriage and divorce, and you don’t already know them, you should read I Corinthians 7. I Corinthians 7 is the current standing law (as opposed to the Old Law in Deuteronomy). Keep in mind when Christ died on the cross the veil was rent in two meaning we no longer go through priests (like the Jews did) to get to God. We no longer make sacrifices – we go to God directly and pray to God directly and have a relationship with Him directly. (Incidentally, this is why some Christians have a problem with the Catholic religion – because they are using priests as a "go-between" between the people and Christ, having people confess their sins to a priest and pray to saints instead of Christ, which flies in the face of why Christ was crucified).

So, Christ’s crucifixion was to replace the Old Law. That doesn’t mean that the Old Testament is null and void- quite the contrary. There are MANY really good verses and resources in the Old Testament, as well as a lot of prophecy. It’s just that the Old Law does not apply anymore because Christ is the "fulfillment" of the Old Law and came to die for us and our sins thereby doing away with the Old Law – we are to follow the New Covenant as laid out in the New Testament.

Hope this helps. With love, LT

As for the other woman, I can honestly say that I did tell people about it, but nothing is standing in her way. You see the situation is all very complicated and even worse now is that she is CONVINCED that she and my husband are getting married. I know this because she is wearing an engagement ring and planning a big wedding. However, in this, I kind of took Hezekiah’s attitude – and I left it to God. Amazingly, I spoke to my husband recently who told me that he was very unhappy – about his life in general.

As for Leonie, GIRL – how hectic! I know exactly how you feel! Look, please in everything, do not allow bitterness to grow in your heart. If you want to know how not to – just pray and cry out to God. If you let it fester, it will become so heavy a burden, you’ll go CRAZY! So, please deal with that first. I can imagine what a damp and dreary long weekend you’ve had – mine was not too great either! But when things look like their really going mad, that’s when we have to hold on tighter to God. Ask God to give you a spirit of revelation and wisdom – so that you can see this situation the way He does, and act as He directs you. I am with you in prayers.

To everyone, may God bless you and your families incredibly! I am praying for you all. It’s not easy, but when we have our crowns, we’ll find that it was worth the struggle. Stay strong. In faith, Dineo

His girlfriend phoned me to ask me if she can come see me. She is a child. Dineo is with a child. She does not even look like she can be 20 years old, but 17 or 18. He is a man of 35 years old. I told her what has happened and I also told her that she took my husband. They destroyed my marriage, but she is going to be no part of my kids lives.

I do not have time for the devil and his little demon people. I had enough of them in my life. It is time that we as children of God can take a stand in Our Father and stand up for ourselves. No fighting physically, but with God’s word. It is our weapon. God gave me Psalm:109 to read. It is harsh, very harsh.

My brother in-law also wanted to hurt me because of his brother. You guys see, I am living with my in-laws. but God is busy preparing a place for me and my boys to take us out there. My husband is not even working, he is struggling to find a job. He bothers me all the time and tries to tell me what to do and what not to do. I have a Father in Heaven who takes care of me.

Our message in church yesterday was about changing the climate. And our teaching was on the Gospel of Luke –how the climate changed as Jesus lives on earth all the time. I believe that message was for me. You guys must remember that Jesus did nothing to nobody, but still they persecuted Him, beat Him, spit in his face and crucified Him. He did it for us, for them, for everyone. What we are going through seems tough, but always remember that it is nothing compared to what He went through for us. And God will come through for all of us, because He is not a man that He should lie. Stand on his word, everyone.
Be blessed. Love Leonie

If you guys can get it…pick up the book, “The Divorce Remedy”. It is a great book for you in a time like this! And it gives you steps on how to handle this…and it will question you also. We have to remember that we can find faults in our spouses…but we have to look at us first…ask God to change us..and then we can continue to move forward in saving these marriages.

P.S LEONIE! KEEP UR HEAD UP! PRAY! READ SELF HELP BOOKS! AND LAST BUT NOT LEAST…READ THE WORD! AND NEVER, NEVER, NEVER, NEVER, NEVER, NEVER, NEVER, NEVER, NEVER, EVER, EVER, EVER, EVER QUIT!!!!!!!! OUR GOD IS GOOD!!!!!!!!!

I simply wanted to say, from my own personal observations combined with my own walk with the Lord, that I know what it’s like to make those comparisons but I also know that it is of the world.

Perhaps your husband is looking at his ex-girlfriend because she owns things or looks a certain way, but only the world puts a high value on things like that. The more we walk with Christ, the more we are to be called out of the world. (See: John 15:19.) If your husband likes those things about someone else instead of the wife that God gave him (you), then he is looking at things through fleshly, worldly eyes. Obviously, that’s his choice and you can’t change that. But what you can change or make a choice on, is not to look at things the same way.

You are a wife and have a child by the husband that God gave you. That is honorable in the eyes of the Lord. Don’t let anyone tell you differently. You are now a Godly woman. God told the world to be fruitful and multiply in many places in the Bible. Don’t ever let anyone make you ashamed of that, or who you are. You are precious in the eyes of God.

The other thing I wanted to say is regarding your statement that the woman your husband is having an affair with, goes to your church? If that is correct then I am appalled.

If this woman is actively having an affair with a married man and then is going to church as though it is nothing, then that is very dangerous. But it also requires action from other believers.

Read I Corinthians 5. Paul talks about two people in the Corinthian church who were committing acts that even the pagans didn’t commit and no one was doing anything about it. In other words, everyone was turning a blind eye to it. If the woman in your church is currently having an affair with a married man (your husband) you cannot turn a blind eye to it.

I Corinthians 13 talks about love. And it says, in verse 6, that love does not rejoice in evil, but rejoices in the truth. If your husband and his ex-girlfriend are trying to separate themselves because they know an affair is wrong, then God is already working on the problem. But if they are continuing the affair and you are sure of this, you cannot turn a blind eye to it. You must tell the pastor or another believer you trust. That cannot continue – it is a stink in God’s nostrils. Not only that, but it is incumbent upon anyone calling themselves a believer to do what is right. I Corinthians 13:6 talks about telling the truth.

The only caveat I would add is if the affair is not physical. If it is a physical affair and is currently ongoing then you must bring it to the church’s attention since she attends your church. If it is an "emotional" affair, where they are just having conversations, etc. then, although that is not appropriate either, it is less serious and requires slightly different action.

If it is a non-physical affair I would suggest approaching this lady at some point before or after church services, and trying to talk to her about it – not out of anger but out of desiring the best for you, your family and her as well. We are to lift our fellow brethren up. In doing this you would not only be helping your family out of love, but you would be helping her as well.

Please read the verses above as I think they are appropriate to your situation. And pray for God’s guidance. But I had to point these things out from my own lessons in what I’ve learned in my walk as a Christian.

With love and prayers for you, your little one, and your husband and the other woman. God will prevail.

Last night my mother in-law was very rude to me, threatening to hit me, but you know what Dineo, I just smiled inside and said, “Father listen to this woman, the enemy is so upset with me Father because I am not turning away from them but to you.”

I read Psalm 50:15 last night, it says "and call upon me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you will honor me." God gives us permission to seek Him, so that is what I am doing. I am anointing my boys and myself with oil every night and I pray saying that no weapon formed against us shall prosper, because they are saying a lot of things against me and my boys.

This is not so hard Dineo. God is faithful. He is not a man that He should lie, I trust Him and I know that He is going to come through for me and my kids. He is going to change their father’s heart and life and my husband is going to be the man that God intended him to be. I am practicing everyday to God my focus and practice makes perfect. Be blessed my sister in Christ. I love you. Leonie

I am praying hard for your family. One thing for sure, we’ve got nothing to lose! Keep strong and if all you feel like you’re wavering – read Psalm 27. Actually the entire book of Psalms will help. And check out the article on "How to Save Your Marriage Alone". Believe me- You can do it!

Leonie, you really need to focus on Jesus and know that he is well aware of all that you’re feeling – because He’s been through it too! I know how it feels to be confused, and I was suicidal at one stage – but thankfully I literally CRIED OUT to Jesus. You have to know that none of what is happening is His will, and He can change your situation. There are many Bible verses where God changes peoples hearts (read Ezra, Daniel, Zechariah). Read these and believe in them, because He is the same God and He can do that to Your man.

Also don’t focus too much on the past. Look forward. Ask God to show you how to be a woman after His own Heart. I have to live with the torment of seeing this woman everyday, but I decided to throw myself in God’s hands. Just don’t give place to impatience. Trust in God. Invest in your spiritual life FIRST and then ask God to show you how to connect the relationship you have with Him to the one you have with your husband.

Read books that help. I found that the Power of a Praying Wife helped. Charles Swindoll’s Getting through the Tough Stuff also helped. Also read Elizabeth George’s Beautiful In God’s Eyes. All these will help you greatly. Ask God to show you ways YOU can change, and leave everything in His capable hands. I know at times we all feel weak, and wonder whether all the effort is worth it, but somehow we have to believe.

I am definitely with you. And don’t forget, where there are two or more gathered in His name – He is there. We might not be together physically, but our spirits are committed to the prayers on behalf of our families. He will hear, He will answer and He will save your Family.

I don’t want to leave because I know God would want me active in our daughters lives…..and this is just so wrong… I have been on this site for more than 2 years reading forums and pages… It is a God send…

Please pray for me. The enemy is busy in my house…. he knows I have been with this person since 1994… and when I married her that’s when the problems occur….

What was the reason for husbands impaired state? He is filling himself with wine. Instead of the Holy Spirit. He must be trying to tune Someone out — Some one whose voice must be very LOUD! Which means that the LORD is at work, just keep praying. It sounds like you have the right attitude about all of this. I’ll be keeping you in my prayers. LOVE, LYNNE

I am living with my parents-in-law and my mother in-law told me yesterday that I have to get out. I must find a place for me and my boys (her grandchildren). But I am not going to be moved by it because God is in control. They don’t have to bow down to me but the enemy has to bow down to God. I am going to be ok, both me and my boys, because God is busy healing and restoring us.

There is something that goes like this: Saul looked at Goliath and said he is too big to kill. David looked at Goliath and said he is too big too miss. I am facing this with Davids attitude. God bless. Stay strong.

I was feeling very down today, but my sister and you really encouraged me. It brought me to tears. Thank you once again, God bless.