It wasn’t easy and it took a lot of time, but that was more than 10 years ago, and my husband and I are still together, we are going through a different situation now. He is military and deploys a lot. During his last deployment we didn’t get to communicate much and I got super depressed. I completely shut down and pushed him away. By the time I asked for God’s guidance and help, my husband decided we shouldnt be together anymore. I am allowing God to guide us and put our marriage in his hands. I will keep you and your wife in my prayers and ask that you do the same. May God bless you and your family!

Lord, help all those mother in-laws that hurt their sons more because they cause hurt in a marriage because they are selfish.

He claims that he will never make the money he makes now if he works for someone else. I let him know that he probably can, since we will not have all the overhead expenses we have now. I worked as a teacher, but decided to quit to help take of my mom – who is not in the best of health, and so that I can be here for my kids. They have never really had any quidance from my husband and so I must do this.

One problem is that when my sons turned 16, my husband told me that I should stop treating them like babies. They were now old enough to know the difference between right and wrong. When I tried to correct them when they were out of line, he would intercede and tell me to leave them alone and to quit nagging them. He said they will grow up hating me the way he hated his mother because I am always correcting them. They soon learned who they wanted to listen to. This behavior has continued and my sons have gotten into some trouble, but our attorney has always managed to save them. When I blame my husband, he tells me that they need to learn on their own and that one of these days he will not be able to help them and they each will learn their lesson. WHAT KIND OF FATHER WOULD SAY SUCH A THING??? I told him this is what we are here for. To teach them the difference.

My husband grew up with a hard-core father and his mother was always nagging (I do not have a relationship with his family because they have done some dirty deeds to my husband. Of course, he cannot be mad at them because he feels they would dis-own him as a son. By the way, my children are aware of this). My husband also does not mind arguing with me in front of the kids. When I tell him we will discuss it when they are not around, he will follow me throughout the house until HE is finished. My kids lock themselves in the room and my daughter cries. This has been going on for quite awhile. I HATE HIM!!!

My son is also in a relationship that is not healthy. He is always arguing with his girlfriend. He said he learned this from my husband and I, and this is all he has ever known. I feel so sad about this. My older son is very moody also. He is just like my husband. He can be very rude to me at times, but will then be very nice. Deep down, he knows that I am the one he can count on.

I believe the only reason they have a relationship with my husband is on the days they are off from college, he pays them for the few hours they work with him. (I have paid for ALL their college expenses from my check when I was working and continue to do so from what I have saved).

I have thought about leaving many times, but did not have the courage to do so. We have been married for 28 years and he is all I have ever known. Our relationship was rocky even when we were dating. I KNOW THIS IS NOT WHAT LOVE IS!!! I am a very strong woman and I can’t believe I have stayed. I think it is because we have made several investments and HAD some money, but unfortunately my husband has used it all on the business. We are in the process of building a home and I do not know what to do about my marriage.

I need to stay so that I can recover (and will in this deal) for 3 years to get MY part of the money and start over, but I don’t know if I can endure this environment any longer. I know that if I leave my younger son will land himself in trouble because of the environment he keeps and the older one will live his life with so much anger he will dis-own our family and be lost (he has always needed me). WE have spoken to a priest and he has let my husband know what needs to change, but of course that only lasts for a few months. I am so depressed because of all of this.

I believe there is still time to save my daughter from all this grief, but I also know that she loves her dad very much and will be heartbroken if we leave – which will be to another city because he will never stop bothering me. I can go on forever with the reasons that I want out of this marriage. Can someone PLEASE HELP ME!!

He seems to feel he has everything under control but his insensitive comments and insults make me angry and we have gotten into it lately, more than normal. I PRAY CONSTANTLY. I HAVE BEEN WALKING IN LOVE BUT THERE SEEMS TO BE LITTLE RESPECT FOR MY FEELINGS AT TIMES. He always apologizes after the damage is done but how can he stop it altogether… Desperately praying for a change in a young marriage…

I can truly say that I do not love him as a wife should and I pray for God to give me that love for him but I have been struggling with it because in my eyes he has been unfaithful to me. By that I mean pornography on television and internet.

We have 4 children who have seen him in his viewing of this. When they were small they didn’t know what was really going on and now that they are adults except the youngest (9) they now know how disrespectful he has been to me.

We have not been intimate for 9 years. I have no desire to be with him. We still share the same bed but sleep totally separate. Depending on when he goes to bed I will go before or after him so we don’t have to speak to one another. I wanted to do this 25th Wedding Ceremony to get God’s Spiritual covering on our marriage and children. Please pray for us.

Please somebody pray for us both, as well our children.

Through the mid 90’s I had struggled with depression, which began shortly after our first child (of 3) was born. It was difficult for everyone. Through the grace of God I have overcome, yet my husband cannot get past the years of my depression and how they affected him and our children. But even our children have been much happier and encouraged in the face of my recovery, and when my husband left to live somewhere else, it made no sense to any of us.

I have found this and another site to encourage me in my efforts as a stander, and am reading the Psalms every day. Our oldest son (almost 21 now) prays every night with me and goes to mass with me as often as we can. We pray to discern and to follow God’s will, and He has laid upon my heart that I must honor and uphold our marriage covenant.

My husband has been involved in Christian music ministry with several friends, and he has all but stopped playing for these ministries. I started attending the services where he played with him, and told him how proud I was of what he was doing for the Lord. Please pray for us and for our restoration. Praise God!

But in the last year my wife has lost weight and read a self help book by comedian Steve Harvey entitled “How to think like a man and act like a lady”. Since this I noticed a change in her. She has returned to her old self and away from God. Meanwhile all of my mistakes have been made known to me. And I caught her having inappropriate contact with other men. She has many secrets and is drawn out to the bars on the weekends.

I realize my mistakes and repent for them on a daily basis. I am seeking God every minute of every day. The outlook seems bleak but still I believe in Gods power. God has drawn me closer to him. We have two children one 19 months and the other 9 years ( i have raised him since a toddler) We have it all except unity. I am choosing not to follow her to the bars. She says I have been controlling. I have been very wrong.

I am making a stand for my family for as long as I am married. She told me she doesn’t want me and that she no longer is in love with me. But I will not believe it for I know God has a plan. I need your prayers. I believe God can make a way when there is no way. My pastor and other Godly men tell me there is hope and to continue to work on it. Please pray for conviction, healing, forgiveness, and strength.

I could honestly write a book but I want to summarize it all by saying that both parties have to be willing, not for each other but for the glory of God!! I say it that way because as humans we are generally selfish and both parties in every marriage wants it their way… aah but when do it God’s way, well, his word alone can solve any problem if every man and woman knew their place in a marriage.

EXAMPLE… God’s word tells us that women are the weaker vessel, 1 Peter 3:7, and Ephesians 5:22-24 assures us women as to our place in the marriage. It took many years of prayer and fasting, trusting God and putting our faith in him for my marriage to get to the point where it is now. God’s people, his word is true, and it will be effective in your marriage when it is faithfully applied. Keep trusting and believing and above all be obedient to his word. For those of you who are having an especially hard time because the other spouse is not “walking with the Lord” please apply 1 Peter 3.

We have two small children together. This can’t be good for them. She already moved out of our house and things are only getting worse by her absence. I am holding on to God’s word, hoping and praying this situation gets better.

Well, eventually it all caught up with me and I found out that I was pregnant. I was determined not to get married just because I was pregnant and my parents demanded that I do the right thing but I knew it was the right thing to do considering that I did love my husband. Despite my disobedience I did (do) love the Lord with all my heart and was sorry for displeasing him. I wanted to make things right and I believe my husband did too as he was raised in the church but strayed from the Lord as well.

Our relationship had always been a good one even though our relationship with the Lord had always been strained. I believe that having God fearing parents who are strong in prayer has been a big help because they are always praying for us. Though when our daughter was born something came over me to stop being so complacent and get into the word for her sake as well as our own, to teach her the how to walk with God — the way our parents taught us because it is the right way.

Even though my husband agreed upon this, his actions didn’t parallel with the agreement. He continued do the same things and I became angry because I felt that it was time for us to put all that behind us and grow up. We went to church occasionally though we strived to go more often but I believe that the devil was (is) trying to hold us back.

I believe that my husband and I have a great calling on our life but we’re running from it. Even as I strive to run towards it I know that it is for the two of us to fulfill as husband and wife. But he will not let go of the marijuana and it causes anger and resentment inside of me every time he gets high. When I ask him to stop smoking he asks me why and where it says in the Bible that it’s wrong to smoke marijuana and I usually never have an answer for him except that it cause friction in our relationship when he gets high and just passes out and I don’t want our kids to grow up seeing him like that and thinking it’s ok to do it. I also tell him that the Bible says that we should obey the laws of the land and the our body is a temple, that we should keep it holy but he doesn’t think that those are straight enough answers and he laughs them off.

Well with him doing all that, it has caused a separation between us because he goes off with his friends pretty much everyday to get high and it is disheartening to see him go off with his friends when I would like for him to want to do things with the family. I hate feeling like he wants to be with them more than he does with us and so I just start feeling sorry for myself and get angry at him to the point where I don’t want to speak to him or do anything for him when he is high.

As we’re expecting our second child soon, my emotions are a heightened and he is gone all day mostly to work and then to his friend’s place. I can’t talk to him because I’m so angry. We’re having a boy and try to emphasize to him that our son will be looking up to him when he’s older and I don’t want him showing our son such bad examples.

I feel like I’m being punished and that I had it coming, although now I’m trying to heed the word of God and show my kids a good example. How can I get my family on the track that god has built for us, how can I speak to my husband with love and get him to understand that I’m not trying to control him but be good examples to our children? And how can I stop being angry at him? Please help me out before my marriage crumbles.

Then it just got worse. I was looking for affection elsewhere. I stopped it before it went too far. However, it was still a stray. Then I got pregnant again. We had a son. My husband was still heartbroken from what I did. He had an affair. When I found out I left. Soon after my son was killed in a freak accident.

We got back together and my husband was in an accident and had to have his leg amputated. Soon after that his dad dies. We just moved on with life and never took care of us. Now several years later… he doesn’t know if he wants to be married anymore.

We started to work things out about a month ago. As far as I knew we were doing great. I felt like a newlywed again. But last week he tells me he doesn’t feel the same. He is a Christian man, and feels that even God can’t fix this. Too much has happened and he has too many hard feelings toward me. I asked him if we could pray together and read the Bible together. He doesn’t think there are any scriptures that speak of repairing a marriage with as much heartache as ours. He feels no one could possibly understand how we feel to even counsel us. Our problems are far too big for anyone to help or understand. If anyone has any scriptures in mind, or encouraging words please forward to me. Thanks God bless

Jesus is ALWAYS such a wonderful example. JESUS, was innocent, spotless, blameless, pure, and the PUREST example of Love. He was attacked on all sides; before Judas betrayed Him, angry crowds sought after Him to kill Him. He took all of our sins, all of the diseases and sickness, all of the evil and wickedness, and he was nailed to that tree so that you and I and EVERYONE can start all over again. No matter where you’ve been, no matter what you’ve done, and no matter who you are…YOU CAN START ALL OVER AGAIN. We have all fallen short of the glory, we are only made righteous thru Jesus and His holy & unfathomable sacrifice. For those of you who are struggling to forgive yourself, JUST DO IT because God has already done so. For those of you who are struggling to forgive others, JUST DO IT because you were unworthy, but God’s grace & mercy covered you! Yes, it is hard. Yes, it is painful. BUT it truly is what Jesus would do. And besides Child of God, our Father doesn’t want us dragging around a coffin filled with the sins of yesteryear, the shackles of guilt & shame, the luggage of loneliness and isolation…JESUS died so we ALL could be set free!

We cannot control what others do. PERIOD. POINT BLANK. And that’s frustrating and painful. But we just can’t. We all operate under our own free will, but the higher calling is to submit our will unto His will because God ALREADY has it figured out. God knows what’s going to happen. We don’t. He already has the plans for our life and they are to prosper us and not to harm us (Jeremiah 11:29)! People are going to do what they’re going to do, and all we can do is to stay in God’s will!

Be encouraged. God is going to turn it around. There is power in the blood. Be strong, be bold, because the Lord thy God is with thee! God never leaves us, He has carved us into the palms of His hand (Isaiah 49: 15-16)! If you would just call upon the Rock, He will give you peace that passeth all understanding! Know that you serve a God that loves you, cares about you, and knows your heart thru and thru! God is going to take care of it! He’s got your back! Everything is going to be alright because God’s hand is upon your life and He will keep you, protect you, and shelter you! Psalm 91!! Below is a poem I wrote, under the direction of the Holy Spirit (I pray that whosoever reads it, God will reveal Himself to you and speak into your life concerning your situation):

Goodbye Friend.
Goodbye Lend & Bend.
Goodbye Reassurance at the End of the Tunnel.
Goodbye Security Bubble.
Goodbye Comfort in the midst of my Chaos.
Goodbye Compass when I find myself Lost.
Goodbye Calming Whisper, so clear in my Ear.
Goodbye to Our Trail of Tears.
Goodbye rhyme and goodbye measure.
Goodbye sweet friend, that I dearly treasured.

Once I considered you my leading hand in the darkness of night,
But when dawn broke, you were gone and I was left with Plight.
I thought that our friendship would bloom out of its cocoon,
But before that time came you found your very own Moon.
I became no more than a distant star,
For you my disappearance didn’t even leave a scar.
I put on a smile and slowly walked away,
Hoping that your heart would turn and you would yell my name.
But no sound came from anywhere behind me,
So I sadly took all of Us and planted a tree.
The Us Tree grew roots, there it stood and stayed,
It allowed me to leave it all behind and freely run away.

I was running so fast, I slammed into a door.
It made me remember that we were friends no more.
My stone heart began to crack and my icy tears began to fall,
SHOOT, I thought I had planted EVERYTHING into that tree a long time ago.
The door swung open and a gentleman appeared,
He said, "Child everything will be fine, do not fear."
He pulled me up and dried my eyes,
He took away my watch and told me to forget about Time.
We stayed up late, we talked all night.
He agreed that life would always be full of fights.
It was time to go to bed and He showed me my room,
He reassured me with, "Although as My Child, you are never doomed."
I grabbed His hand and asked Him for His name,
With a smile He said, "Father, Yahweh, or Jesus. I doesn’t matter they’re all the Same."
I began to cry, "Father, I thought you weren’t home."
He replied, "Next time, just knock. I will surely come."
The tears kept on flowing, "Father I’ve wronged you in so many ways!
How could you help me and invite me to stay?"
He laughed and squeezed my hand, "Darling, I’ve been waiting for your arrival. Homecomings are the best, they always make me smile!"
We smiled and danced!
We celebrated and laughed!
I was home, home at last!

In His house, I am not a distant star.
In His house, I am not a faded scar.
In His house, He always keeps a room ready for me.
And when I come home, He is always as happy as can be.
In His house, He has tasks and talents with my name on it.
His gifts are more beautiful, than any man made sonnet.
In His house, I never struggle to make ends meet.
In His house, I always get good sleep.
In His house, my entire being is always nourished.
In His house, He allows me to flourish.
I praised Him and loved Him and called Him by Name.
He said my sins are forgiven, be free and without shame.
He owned me, He loved me, He called me His own.
With God, my Father, I know I always have a Home.

Amen To God be the Glory!