As I’ve come to love my wife more and more, my desire has been more to fulfill her sexual gratification, rather than trying to satisfy mine. The problem is that she doesn’t seem to want it. When I make advances toward her she sometimes feels that she should accept my advances to satisfy me out of some worldly belief that she is obligated to do so, but shy of a cold shower there is little that will turn me off faster than the thought of my wife feeling as though she needs to satisfy me out of some obligation.

Me I don’t feel it is my obligation, but my privilege to help satisfy her, she just doesn’t take advantage of it. Thoughts anyone?

It has hardened her heart, so now she says she fells non-sexual feelings for me. I’m on disability now to make things worse. I try to clean and do what she wants, but if I miss something it’s like I’ve got to start all over again. If I try for a couple of weeks to month, she doesn’t let up or show any change or her side. Where do I put or handle these unbearable sexual urges. Thanks, Cecil.