The following are helpful Web Site Links and various resource descriptions to help you in your sexual relationship with your spouse:

• Covenantspice.com: What a GREAT web site! It is dedicated to strengthening marriages and increasing playfulness and intimacy in your sex life. They believe God created marriage to be a lifelong passionate romance. From bedroom toys to Christian sex manuals, from body toppings to romantic games, they have everything you need to keep the sparks flying in and out of the bedroom. You will not find any nudity on our product packaging or web site. They have endeavored to create a web site that you and your spouse can feel comfortable browsing together in the privacy of your own home. They also offer very competitive pricing so you can be confident of receiving high quality Romance and sex products at great prices.

• Christianrecovery.com: Christian Recovery International is a coalition of ministries dedicated to helping the Christian community become a safe and helpful place for people recovering from addiction, abuse, and/or trauma. This Christian recovery web site deals with a wide range of recovery issues which include those that are sexual in nature.

• Everymansbattle.com: This New Life Ministries web site is dedicated to men to help them to win “the war on sexual temptation, one victory at a time.” They also provide free weekly curriculum for men’s sexual integrity accountability groups. Whether your group meets at a church, a home, or a coffee shop, whether it’s with a large group or just two men in an accountability partnership, this curriculum provides the tools you need to stay sexually pure. They also have articles posted and a virtual bulletin board, where people post and view messages in forums. The Every Man’s Battle message board is for MEN ONLY who want to stay connected with those battling the same issues.

• Husbandandwife.net This web site has been giving Christian and non-Christian couples a tasteful and comfortable option to shop for intimate products and adult novelties since July 2007. It was created so married couples can find high quality intimate products, sexy lingerie and sexy shoes without having to go into a traditional “adult sex shop” and see things that are graphic and offensive. It is a good resource for husband’s and wives that are looking for ways to express themselves intimately and spice up their love life.

• Joedallas.com: This ministry aims to help people in recovery with sexual addiction, homosexuality, and other sexual problems. They work to equip churches and Christian leaders to address the sexual and relational problems that may arise in their own congregations and educate the Christian community regarding sexual issues. Joe Dallas’ ministry in sexual addiction recovery and homosexuality is nationally recognized.

• Lovewonout.com: Focus on the Family’s Love Won Out ministry exhorts and equips the church to respond in a Christ-like way to the issue of homosexuality. And to those who struggle with unwanted same-sex attractions, they offer the Gospel hope that these desires can be overcome. By offering conferences, education, counseling and research, the Love Won Out team strives to uphold God’s design for sexuality in a way that transforms lives.

• Passionatecommitment.com: This is the web site for the Christian Sex Therapists Clifford and Joyce Penner and Associates. They have five therapists on staff to help those that need their help. All of the therapists see clients with a variety of individual, relational and sexual issues. Cliff or Joyce will assess your situation and connect you with the therapist of choice to best facilitate your therapy process. In addition to their therapy practice, Clifford and Joyce Penner and Associates, the Penners have available the following resources for healthy sexuality.

• Romancebetweenthelines.com: This web site is designed to help married couples find the power of love within the written word—to fuel Christian marriage relationships with love certificates for husbands and wives, marriage vow renewal certificates, romance games, Christian marriage enrichment books, and purity vow contracts for those who have not entered into the covenant of Christian marriage. The material on this web site (which also has wonderful Christ-honoring links) helps to put Christ back into the center of marriage in His rightful place.

• Sex Talk Radio: They rely on the fact that sex is the most misunderstood aspect of our humanity. No other area of life is there such a universal struggle as there is when it comes to sex and relationships. Somehow that which was designed for our pleasure more often causes us a phenomenal amount of pain. STR believes that sex is a gift, an incredible one from the hand of God. This radio program seeks to help bring clarity to issues surrounding sex and relationships in an engaging and entertaining format using sexual truths that has been divinely provided for us by the creator of sex. Their intended goal is to assist society in becoming informed about human sexuality and the role that it plays in our relationships.

• Sexualwholeness.com Sexual Wholeness, Inc. is a non-profit organization that promotes personal sexual integrity, a positive masculinity and femininity, and passionately intimate relationships. They accomplish this through workshops, books, articles, retreats and training that is tailored to specific needs. In the midst of confused values and unfulfilling marriages, they believe that God has a sexual economy that really works. Sexual Wholeness is led by Christian therapists and sex therapists Doug Rosenau and two other qualified therapists. Their goal is to encourage others to join them in seeking and promoting Biblical intimacy and sexual wholeness. The heart of their organization is the training that is offered to the professional counselor and lay person.

• Theactofmarriage.com: This is a website created for married couples (man and woman) to promote increased levels of communication and to help them restore or maintain healthy intimate relationships by opening the door to new experiences. At this web site you will find products for sale such as, lingerie, lubricants, massage oils and lotions, and games that will enhance the sexual experience between husband and wife. All of the lingerie is displayed on a mannequin so that no one should be tempted to lust upon or imagine anyone other than their spouse.

• Themarriagebed.com: The Marriage Bed provides a Christian alternative for married and engaged couples (man and woman) seeking information about marital intimacy. They combine the truth of the Bible with biological facts to educate, edify and minister to those seeking God’s best for their marriage relationship. Whether you are just starting out, have some problems, or just want to improve an already good love life, they offer information and resources on many areas of sexuality and marriage enrichment. You can also write them with questions you may have for them to answer.

• ThePureBed.com: This is a web site where married couples shop online for products to enhance their intimacy and romantic experiences. They believe that God created the gift of sex for marriage. They encourage husbands and wives to browse together and to purchase items that will increase mutual gratification. If you’re married and seeking to buy intimacy products in an environment without nudity and pornography then The Pure Bed is for you. Their products are selected for their quality and are purchased from wholesalers who DO NOT sell adult videos or literature—which is very important to those of us who believe the marriage bed should stay pure between the husband and wife without having another person or images of another person involved.

RESOURCE DESCRIPTIONS:

• A CELEBRATION OF SEX -by Dr Douglas E. Rosenau, published by Thomas Nelson Publishers. This book is more than just a “how-to guide” from a biblical perspective. A Celebration of Sex reminds couples of the foundations of a satisfying physical relationship — companionship, playfulness, love, knowledge, honesty, creativity, communication, and discipline. It also offers useful exercises to build these traits in each other. It also answers specific, often hard-to-ask questions about sexual topics: homosexuality, aging, body image, low desire, infertility, addiction, disabilities, and side effects of medications. Revised and updated with new material this informative and complete guide is “the definitive sexual intimacy resource” for married Christian couples. It also has graphic drawings that better demonstrates what the author is trying to explain. Preview or purchase this book now.

• A CELEBRATION OF SEX AFTER 50 -by Dr Douglas E. Rosenau and Dr Jim and Carolyn Childerston, published by Thomas Nelson Books. This book shows readers how to make the most of what many experts consider to be the prime time of life. Though bodies change and desires may fluctuate, couples can bring about passion in many creative and mutually satisfying ways. The authors confront issues many couples hesitate to bring up and then offer frank, detailed answers (including illustrations). They explain how age can bring a depth of affection and acceptance to a couple’s life that creates fresh freedom, deep delight, and a renewed ability to surrender to pleasure. Preview or purchase this book now.

• AND THE BRIDE WORE WHITE …The Seven Secrets to Sexual Purity -by Dannah Gresh, published by Moody Press. This book comes highly recommended. “It’s well-written and is interesting without being ‘preachy’.” It gives guidelines for dating and friendships, dealing with regret, healing a broken heart, and a 3-step plan to break off destructive relationships. It may be used alone or with a 10 session workbook designed for small groups and retreats. “The incredible thing about this book is that as you read, it feels like an intimate conversation with a close friend. I encourage you to completely and wholeheartedly dive into this book. I know it will be an encouragement for you as you stand strong in this world of pressure and confusion.” (Jaci Velasquez) Preview or purchase this book now.

• BREAKING FREE FROM THE BONDAGE OF SEXUAL SIN -by Pastor Mark Driscoll. This is an on-line message given by Pastor Mark Driscoll at the Mars Hill Church. In this message, Pastor Mark addresses: “Is sexual sin really the issue, or does it go deeper? ‘How should Christian men and women go about breaking free from the bondage of sexual sin?’” You can view and/or listen to this message on line by clicking HERE.

• DANGERS MEN FACE …Overcoming the 5 Greatest Threats to Living Life Well -by Jerry White, published by NavPress. The author identifies five subtle dangers men face and offers strategies for safely traveling around them. From the loss of identity sparked by a family or career crisis to the discouraging entrapment of sexual sin, this encouraging resource will help you recognize these dangers and equips you to meet and overcome the challenges that lie ahead. Preview or purchase this book now.

• EVERY MAN’S BATTLE… Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time, -by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker, published by WaterBrook Press, a division of Random House. If I (Steve Wright) had to pick one book that should be a “must read” for all men, this is it! Arterburn and Stoeker tackle the issue of sexual temptation and lust in an honest, hard-hitting way. They’re writing from first-hand experience and use the stories of dozens of other men. They also give a practical, detailed plan for any man who desires sexual purity. This book is helpful, whether you’ve “fallen” in the past from sexual temptation or just want a way to remain strong today and in the future. It’s available at most Christian bookstores or by going to www.newlife.com. Preview or purchase this book now.

• INTIMATE AND UNASHAMED… What Every Man and Woman Need to Know, by Scott Farhart, M.D., published by Siloam. This is a book that is timeless and can be passed from generation to generation as a guiding light in an area of absolute darkness to most Christians. In it, Dr Farhart, one of the premier Christian physicians of San Antonio, Texas, approaches traditionally forbidden topics boldly. As the keynote speaker at highly successful seminars, Dr Farhart answers the questions Christian men and women of America are asking. His answers are not pious platitudes but are truthful, insightful, biblical and no nonsense in his approach. Preview or Purchase This Book Now

• INTIMATE ISSUES… Conversations Woman to Woman—21 Questions Christian Women Ask About Sex -by Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus, published by Waterbrook Press. This is powerful-one of the best “no-holds-barred books on intimate issues that’s available for Christian women (if not THE best)! It contains so much practicality, healing sensitivity and spiritual wisdom. The authors present the union of two people so attractively, excitedly, and sacredly that it may be one of the most important books out on the market for Christian women to read because it honestly addresses the real sexual concerns of women. Preview or purchase this book now.

• INTENDED FOR PLEASURE: Sex Technique and Sexual Fulfillment in Christian Marriage -Third Edition by Dr. Ed Wheat, edited by Gaye Wheat, published by Fleming H. Revell. This book is a standard medical reference book on sex from a Christian perspective with an accurate description of sexual function in the male and female. It has a helpful balance of the scriptural and the sensual-the technical and the practical. The material is presented in wholesome terms that would be of help to any married or soon-to-be married couple. Preview or purchase this book now.

• LOVE LIFE FOR PARENTS… How to Have Kids and a Sex Life Too -by David and Claudia Arp, published by Fleming Revell. This book is aimed at helping you to “reclaim the passion that got you your job as parents in the first place!” “Love Life for Parents is the Arps at their very best, offering practical advice, gentle humor, and wisdom they can only have acquired with time, patience,and practicing what they preach!” (Liz Curtis Higgs) As it says in the book, “Yes, you can have great sex. When we talk about sex, we’re talking about much more than sexual intercourse; we’re talking about developing and nurturing a love life.” This book is packed with practical tips and “helps” and addresses a multitude of issues that can help you get the sparkle back in your married lives together.

• LOVE, SEX AND LASTING RELATIONSHIP… God’s Prescription for Enhancing Your Love Life -by Chip Ingram, published by Baker Books. This book’s greatest value may be for people who aren’t yet in relationships. The principles in this book are tremendously helpful for those who as single who are considering what kind of relationship they want and how to go about it. If you’re married it will provide a reality check on your expectations. It will help direct your energy and focus toward the aspects of your relationship that will build increased joy and deeper intimacy. It will also help you address attitudes and practices in your marriage that may be putting relational roadblocks between you and your mate. If you’re divorced, this book will help you discover what may have gone wrong in your marriage and how to prepare yourself now to build healthy, positive relationships in the future. Purchase or preview this book now.

• LOVING YOUR MARRIAGE ENOUGH TO PROTECT IT (With Complete Study Guide) -by Jerry Jenkins, published by Moody Press. This book introduces you to ways to practice preventative medicine in your marriage. As Gary Smalley says, “Men need this book. In a warm, personal, and refreshingly honest way, Jerry Jenkins sounds a compelling call for us to protect our marriages and then skillfully teaches us how we can do just that. This may be the most important book on protecting your family you’ll ever read.” We agree! As Dr Frank Minirth says, “Every married person needs to be aware of the subtle traps that lead to this behavior, and Jerry not only exposes the precursors to infidelity, but also gives practical insights as to how to make your marriage a stronghold against it.” Purchase or preview this book now.

• MEN’S SECRET WARS – by Patrick Means, published by Fleming Revell. This book helps readers recognize the “at risk” factors that precede the development of a secret life. Drawing candidly from his own struggles and those of numerous other men, Patrick provides tested strategies for defeating the habits and secrets that threaten men’s private lives (i.e. workaholism, sexual addiction, substance abuse, pornography, and extramarital affairs). A leader’s guide has been added to this paperback edition. Preview or purchase this book now.

• RED HOT MONOGAMY… Making Your Marriage Sizzle, by Bill and Pam Farrel, published by Harvest House Publishers. The main point of the book is that “sex is not to be an event—sex is to be a relationship.” In this book, Bill and Pam Farrel give you practical, personal tips for creating the kind of sex life that really works. They have a lot of fun with the topic, but in actuality they believe that sex is a serious matter. Whether you and your spouse are newlyweds, a mature couple still young at heart, or somewhere in between—this book offers hundreds of ideas to fan the flame of love and gives an understanding of your spouse that will inspire romance and passion to fuel every aspect of your lives. Preview or purchase this book now.

• SACRED SEX …A Spiritual Celebration of Oneness in Marriage -by Tim Alan Gardner, published by WaterBrook Press. This book is a breath of fresh air that will help you and your mate recapture not only the excitement of sex but also the spiritual oneness God desires for you. For years Christians have been told that sex is God’s creation, designed as a gift to husbands and wives. Yet few couples know sex as a spiritual, God-ordained experience. Sex is the one thing that joins two people into one. Now you can learn how to approach marital sex in a way that brings the fulfillment of true oneness. Find out how to experience a beautiful life of intimacy that blesses you far beyond the bedroom walls, serves as an act of worship to God, and touches your hearts and souls in ways you never could have imagined. Nowhere in this book will you find pictures and diagrams or revolutionary new sexual techniques. Rather, you’ll find a deeper vision of what oneness through sex is meant to be. Preview or purchase this book now.

• SHEET MUSIC …Uncovering the secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage -by Dr Kevin Leman, published by Tyndale House Publishers. Some of what you’ll read in this book may be too blunt or straightforward for your personal taste. Every person’s view on sex (and his or her background, which informs thought and relational patterns) differs. However, if you’re willing to forge ahead for the sake of the best marriage you can imagine, then this book is for you. It will expand and challenge your thinking about sex. Instead of just a how-to-do-it manual, it’s more of a do-it-yourself look at why to do it and how to do it better. This book isn’t intended to make you feel guilty for what you have or haven’t done, but rather to help you pinpoint what goes on in your brain and in your relationship with your spouse so you can have an active, fulfilling sex life. If you’re currently in premarital counseling, read chapters 1 through 4 and the “For Men Only” and “For Women Only” chapters. But please stop there—and wait to read the rest until after you’re married. Preview or purchase this book now.

• THE ACT OF MARRIAGE -by Tim and Beverly LaHaye, published in an updated version by Zondervan Publishing. A clear and thorough explanation of sex and how to do it. It is a frank and open explanation of how our bodies work, and provides basic information on sexual technique. At times it’s a little old-fashioned (the authors conclude that women know more about how a sewing machine works than their own bodies and that most women stay home while men work), but if you can get past that, the information can be helpful. Preview or purchase this book now.

• THE CONTRACEPTION GUIDEBOOK: Options, Risks, and Answers for Christian Couples -by William R Cutrer and Sandra L Glahn, published by Zondervan. (We have not personally read this book, but it comes highly recommended to us and for this reason we added it to this resource list.)This book is written in first-person style with anecdotes from real-lie couples, and solid medical information which equips Christian Couples to make fully informed decisions about the complex and deeply personal issue of contraception. Written in a personal, engaging style by a male obstetrician/gynecologist and a female educator and journalist, both theologians, this easy-to-read book is packed with the most current medical information on every option, old and new. You’ll also learn the success rates, ethical considerations, and risk factors involved, gain insights from real-life couples facing different concerns, and obtain medically reliable and biblically sound wisdom for your questions. Each chapter ends with questions to help you and your mate communicate on key issues. Preview or buy this book now.