Comments on: Signs That He Has Changed and Will Stop Abusing You http://www.marriagemissions.com/signs-that-he-has-changed-and-will-stop-abusing-you/ a Christian Marriage Website Sat, 21 Nov 2009 13:29:51 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.3 hourly 1 By: Tess http://www.marriagemissions.com/signs-that-he-has-changed-and-will-stop-abusing-you/comment-page-1/#comment-2856 Tess Mon, 02 Mar 2009 09:41:51 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.com/signs-that-he-has-changed-and-will-stop-abusing-you/#comment-2856 (SOUTH AFRICA)  I absolutely agree with this article. Thank you so very much for people like Brenda that is willing to bring such hidden things to the light so that they may be dealt with. I, from personal experience, know what it is like to be living with someone who is verbally and emotionally abusive. I have done it for 14 years. And have been through repeated patterns of abusive behaviour, then leaving and coming back with the hope and belief that "this time" he has really changed. I think it is not so much what he says (all the promises he makes), but by his actions that you can judge whether or not there is real change. You can only judge by the fruit of the spirit, and it has to be over an extended period of time. I have all too often been so quick to take him back, or go back to him because I wanted to believe with all my heart that he won't hurt me again. It only lasted a short while and then when he felt that he'd successfully won me back, he became "arrogant" and the abuse started all over again! This is not the lifestyle God meant for his daughters to have. We are not to be slaves or in bondage to anyone, but only a bondservant of Christ. (SOUTH AFRICA)  I absolutely agree with this article. Thank you so very much for people like Brenda that is willing to bring such hidden things to the light so that they may be dealt with. I, from personal experience, know what it is like to be living with someone who is verbally and emotionally abusive. I have done it for 14 years. And have been through repeated patterns of abusive behaviour, then leaving and coming back with the hope and belief that "this time" he has really changed.

I think it is not so much what he says (all the promises he makes), but by his actions that you can judge whether or not there is real change. You can only judge by the fruit of the spirit, and it has to be over an extended period of time. I have all too often been so quick to take him back, or go back to him because I wanted to believe with all my heart that he won’t hurt me again. It only lasted a short while and then when he felt that he’d successfully won me back, he became "arrogant" and the abuse started all over again! This is not the lifestyle God meant for his daughters to have. We are not to be slaves or in bondage to anyone, but only a bondservant of Christ.

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