Comments on: Slowing Down and Thinking Twice About Divorce http://www.marriagemissions.com/slowing-down-and-thinking-twice-about-divorce/ a Christian Marriage Website Sat, 21 Nov 2009 00:25:16 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.3 hourly 1 By: RRB http://www.marriagemissions.com/slowing-down-and-thinking-twice-about-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-4259 RRB Sun, 19 Jul 2009 02:50:42 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/when-a-family-man-thinks-twice/#comment-4259 (USA)  It's so hard for me to try to be optimistic these days. The man I married and I have been separated since April - just three weeks after our anniversary. What a joke! I spend so much time trying to understand how I can be so angry and hurt by someone at the same time. I fluctuate between wishing I had never seen my husband and wishing we could get our relationship to be something resembling normal. I feel like I'm being punished and he doesn't seem to care about our relationship at all. He truly doesn't care about or want me. I don't think he ever really loved me. Our relationship was all wrong from the start, and now its just worse. I feel bad for getting married to him in the first place. Things only seem to be getting worse by the day. I just want to stop hurting. I keep thinking all this has been a tremendous waste. I don't see how God is getting any glory out of this horrible situation. (USA)  It’s so hard for me to try to be optimistic these days. The man I married and I have been separated since April – just three weeks after our anniversary. What a joke! I spend so much time trying to understand how I can be so angry and hurt by someone at the same time. I fluctuate between wishing I had never seen my husband and wishing we could get our relationship to be something resembling normal. I feel like I’m being punished and he doesn’t seem to care about our relationship at all. He truly doesn’t care about or want me. I don’t think he ever really loved me. Our relationship was all wrong from the start, and now its just worse. I feel bad for getting married to him in the first place. Things only seem to be getting worse by the day. I just want to stop hurting. I keep thinking all this has been a tremendous waste. I don’t see how God is getting any glory out of this horrible situation.

]]> By: Natalee http://www.marriagemissions.com/slowing-down-and-thinking-twice-about-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-4209 Natalee Mon, 13 Jul 2009 17:52:07 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/when-a-family-man-thinks-twice/#comment-4209 (JAMAICA)  Are you ever at the place in your marriage where you don't know if it's either good or bad? All I can do is pray. (JAMAICA)  Are you ever at the place in your marriage where you don’t know if it’s either good or bad? All I can do is pray.

]]> By: Charlotte http://www.marriagemissions.com/slowing-down-and-thinking-twice-about-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3880 Charlotte Thu, 18 Jun 2009 12:30:45 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/when-a-family-man-thinks-twice/#comment-3880 (SOUTH AFRICA)  I call myself a married-single. 4 years ago my husband of 24 years of marriage decided to leave home with another woman, about 12 years younger than myself and 13 years younger than himself. We have 2 sons now, age 27 and 25 and a daughter 23 years old. When my husband left it was in the same month of the 2nd oldest who turned 21 in that month. Just before he left, my husband and I went to see a psychologist after I became aware of his infidelity. Just as we were to face each other in the last session, my husband left home. I instituted divorce before finding my salvation. At the end of this year my husband came back home. I could see that mentally my husband had lost it as he was trying to commit suicide. Again we decided to see a doctor who then referred him to a psychologist and psychiatrist. My husband was then institutionalized for a period of 2 weeks. I really thought that it would help, but he decided to leave home to live with this woman. A year later after my husband left home, I became saved and I heard God say to leave what I was doing. I held off because I believe and trust that God can restore my relationship and marriage. My husband was our children's idol, but he does not have any contact with them at all. Even with them being adults, I see the hurt and the longing in their eyes especially when when the oldest excels in darts and when their favorite teams play against each other. I really thought that our marriage was perfect until I discovered my husband's affair. I was shattered and contemplated suicide to get away from the hurt and the pain. But time and again I heard that small voice. Today I really thank God for allowing this suffering as I am a much stronger person now, and I know that God is the author and finisher of our lives. Nothing is over until He says it is over!! Last week I received a divorce summons from my husband. I did not sign it as I believe this is not what God wants. I cannot speak to my husband at all; as this woman is not allowing him any contact with us. I have 21 days in which I have to respond. In failing to do so, the divorce will automatically go through. I really do not want my children to be part of this statistic. Please help me!! May God bless you. (SOUTH AFRICA)  I call myself a married-single. 4 years ago my husband of 24 years of marriage decided to leave home with another woman, about 12 years younger than myself and 13 years younger than himself. We have 2 sons now, age 27 and 25 and a daughter 23 years old. When my husband left it was in the same month of the 2nd oldest who turned 21 in that month.

Just before he left, my husband and I went to see a psychologist after I became aware of his infidelity. Just as we were to face each other in the last session, my husband left home. I instituted divorce before finding my salvation. At the end of this year my husband came back home. I could see that mentally my husband had lost it as he was trying to commit suicide. Again we decided to see a doctor who then referred him to a psychologist and psychiatrist.

My husband was then institutionalized for a period of 2 weeks. I really thought that it would help, but he decided to leave home to live with this woman. A year later after my husband left home, I became saved and I heard God say to leave what I was doing. I held off because I believe and trust that God can restore my relationship and marriage. My husband was our children’s idol, but he does not have any contact with them at all. Even with them being adults, I see the hurt and the longing in their eyes especially when when the oldest excels in darts and when their favorite teams play against each other.

I really thought that our marriage was perfect until I discovered my husband’s affair. I was shattered and contemplated suicide to get away from the hurt and the pain. But time and again I heard that small voice. Today I really thank God for allowing this suffering as I am a much stronger person now, and I know that God is the author and finisher of our lives. Nothing is over until He says it is over!!

Last week I received a divorce summons from my husband. I did not sign it as I believe this is not what God wants. I cannot speak to my husband at all; as this woman is not allowing him any contact with us. I have 21 days in which I have to respond. In failing to do so, the divorce will automatically go through. I really do not want my children to be part of this statistic. Please help me!!

May God bless you.

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